15/11/2009 at 18:31
My name is Amal and my little baby girl leema is 3 months now.
She loves being held and cuddled. But I cant even put her down for 5 or 10 min.
I started puttin her in her bouncer lately so I can eat clean up or take a bath,
but after 5 min. she starts screaming and crying. Some times I ignore it but then she starts sweating and getting really teary even then when I pick her up she wont calm down. I am gettin stressed because I dont even eat or do anything else. Even when she falls asleep I have to hold her in my Arms. If I try putting her down she wakes up. When she was around 4 weeks she use to sleep in her Moses Basket but that stopped like 6 weeks ago. She sleeps in our Bed now and I am scared as I end up being awake. What can I do????
15/11/2009 at 22:00
hey hun first of all don't panic or get upset cause you ain't the only mummy who goes through things like this, so try and keep smiling
i know this is easier said than done but you need to bite the bullet and just go for it.
ok lets have a think....with the putting her down so you can get on and do some bits and bobs have you tried putting her in a swing or perhaps on a playmat something which would grab her attention other than you for 5 mins, maybe start off with putting her down but be next to her and talk to her etc extending the amount of time before you pick her up then after a few days start to move away slightly from her whilst she's on her mat or in her chair etc.... but still be near her by maybe sitting on the sofa etc....again extending the time. untill eventually she's happy enough for you to get on and do some bits
moses basket and waking up when going in it could be a number of things...but if you feel strong enough i'd say controlled crying. putting her in awake and if she cries leave her for a few mins then go back into her calm her then leave her and repeat the process until she finally settles. maybe she might like to be swaddled or another option is to move her into a cot now rather than the basket?
and for your sanity and so you can get some sleep break the habit of putting her in your bed with you, do you have a bedtime routine???? only ask cause a bedtime routine worked for my son from a week old and may work for your little one and may calm her more
don't know if any of this helps but always around if you want a chat, stay strong and remember your not the first and you won't be the last and it does get better in the end
zoe x x
15/11/2009 at 22:41
agreed with zoe! u r not the only one! children does that. my son cried for 6 hours without stopping for his first 6 weeks of his life!! dun know why? he drove me NUTS.
i have some suggestions but not the best one.
1. have u try to use sling or baby carrier? we used that so that he is closed to me and listen to my heartbeat while i do some stuffs like going to toilet, eat, cleaning (a bit diffcult..but worth to do)...
2. baby swing/hammock. but only can keep him quiet for a bit. once we didnt swing..he cry...
3. dummies..dun really want to use it but......it helps...for my daughter. my son chocks when he used it.
4. baby massage... it works...we did that when my son is 3 mth old. he even manage to sleep thru the night.
5. get help from friends or relatives.
6. leave her to cry! we did that when he is 6 mths old. he is in his cot, keep crying for 2 hrs, we r just hidding behind the wall.... soon...day by day, he cut down to 30 min of crying....
hope these will help.... have some time off for yourself...i know it is very hard to leave ur child
16/11/2009 at 10:28
Hi Zoe & Eileen.
First of all thanks for your reply I appreciate it.
Leema is my First Baby and me and her been through an awful lot.
She was a Preemie and we spent almost 3 weeks in the Hospital and I was scared maybe she wont pull through. Thanks God everything turned out great and the only thing we are learning to deal with is her Reflux and her still looking tiny..
So here is the thing maybe she is used from the Neonatal Unit that when ever mummy is here she will pick me up and it kind of continued when we got back home,cause she use to turn blue and stop breathing. So I made sure I always had an Eye on her.Then there was the crying for no particular Reason.Which made me think I might be doing things wrong.
Now I can kind of read her mind I know why she cries and what she wants.
With the putting down it is like you watched me and wrote it zoe, cause thats Exactly how I do things. She'll be quiet for a while but never longer than 10 min.
Recently she started falling asleep on her own and even sleeping through the whole night BUT in our Bed.
My Partner sometimes puts her in her Basket when she falls asleep but she wakes up and cries.
Eileen Unfortunately I am a big Fan of Carriers but after my horrible Pregnancy I still suffer from SPD, so carrying her in a carrier is only an option for my Partner which workes absolutely fantastic cause she looks happy. We do have a routine through out the day and every evening before I put her to Bed. I give her a nice Bath, massage her, sing and talk to her, feed her and she peacefully drifts of to sleep.
As she is getting older shes also getting more interested in touching things and looking around or even watchin Tv, but as soon as She cant feel my Touch or I am just maybe Sitting on the couch having a cup of tea or sumthing to eat She kicks off and sumtimes i let her cry but end up picking her up and when I do that its like she was crying on purpose cause she starts smiling and gigglin. cheeky cheeky
16/11/2009 at 20:31
i cant offer more advice than the other two, my little lady is the same, shes still fussing when going into her own bed, i know i need to break the habbit but i rock her to sleep with a blanket under her and then when i lay her down its still warm and she likes the blanket near her face but this way she cant pull it over.
Sounds like your routine is perfect, my sons was similar, he spent a time in special care and i would spoil him terribly because i was soo greatfull he was well,
Best of luck x x x
16/11/2009 at 22:00
All of that the girls have said above.I 've always settled my babies with them in a sheet(not swaddling,just loosely wrapped),with a muslin for comfort.The sheet keeps them feeling secure,something around them,the muslin is just another comfort aid,it picks up your smell and feels familiar.It makes it easier to put them down when you've been holding them.I started this from newborn,by a few weeks they were used to these things,and would actually go into the cot awake and drop off themself.Whatever baby uses to help them drop off if they wake they'll be looking for it to settle again.If that's you that means you're forever resettling them,but if it's these comfort aids then they're right there and they can resettle them self.I still use them for my nearly 6 month old.He loves his sheet and raggy.
My babies were all healthy,full term,so I know you probably have more problems.
I hope things get better soon
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