27/07/2010 at 19:03
27/07/2010 at 20:33
Hi Beata sorry to here you are having a hard time of late. Not good. I'm sure you are no danger to your son at all,just the regular paranoid mum!!
I'm afraid I have to say this,you have NOT failed as a girlfriend,if anything your fella has failed you hun,saying he wants sleep,yeah news flash so do you! And to say you can lie down in day-much harder if you did that,you'd probably fall into deep sleep! I know I have to go for long walks when I'm sleepy,or god knows what boys will get up to!!!!
Sorry to be blunt hun,but did your partner really expect 12 hours kip and everything done for him??? Time machine maybe in order to 1952,or a whole lot more suppot for you and then maybe you won't feel so tired. As for the waking up,I'm guessing hv correct with hunger,maybe offer a lil more dinner or milky puddings?
I've never co-slept so can't help you there hun sorry. Everyone is irritable through lack of sleep,maybe if your fella allowed co-sleeping you would all be more relaxed?
I just wanted to tell you though,you are a good mum,and not by any means a failure x x (sorry if it sounds like I'm being horrid about your chap too,obviously I don't know him but sounds like you need more support) x Rach
27/07/2010 at 22:33
I think you have two babies there.Time for your man to be a man and grow up.You're both parents now,this is a new life not just a hobby that comes out to play when it suits.Babies will disprupt your sleep,they'll disrupt his sleep too.That's just something he'll have to get used to,just like you have to.He also needs t oget used to sharing you and helping out.You might not have his food ready when he wants it,you might not have got to the shops.What's to stop him helping out,you're his partner not his mother.One baby's enough.
I've never done co sleeping,simply because it's a habit I never wanted to start,cos I'd later have to stop,and because I think a Mummy deserves a break.The sooner your little one learns to settle in his cot the easier all round.Also he needs to get used to settling himself rather than settling with a feed,cos he'll be looking for a feed to settle him again if he wakes.
Maybe your baby is hungry.I have found that the more food you can get into them in a day,the better they sleep at night.By 7 months my baby had milk first thing,cereal and milk for breakfast,milk mid morning,veggies lunch time,milk mid afternoon,fruit and cereal tea time and milk again bedtime.All babies are different,that's just what we did.
If you can cure the sleeping through at night,you'll all get enough sleep and everything will be clearer for you.I'm sure you're not going to harm your baby,it sounds like it's all getting on top of you.You've not failed as a girlfriend,I don't think your man's doing a good job of being a boyfriend,hopefully he'll be more reasonable when he's getting more sleep.You do need his support,not him making it all worse.
29/07/2010 at 13:06
Well Said Rachel & Jo.
You havent failed as a girlfriend and you just want the best for your mum.
Re Co Sleeping - you do have to be careful but some lady at the nct told me that lots of parents do it and dont admit to it but take care not to overheat or smother your baby.
Harry was a really awful sleeper but we did sleep traning with him at around 7m and never looked back. I am not just talking about controlled crying - its a more gentle way of dealing with it - if you would like more info let me know.
I hope you are feeling more positive soon and your chap definatly needs to support you more!!!
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