Hello... and sorry to be so 'to the point' but its concerning me that i really have no interest in sex whatsoever. my hubby has tried a couple of times to get me in the mood but i really am too tired and exhausted to do anything...

is anyone else feeling this way...
any advise ??.. baby is 5 months old...

thanks
xx

[Modified by: muma_love on 30 November 2007 15:07:26 ]

My lo is 7 months old and sex is the last thing on my mind!!! I would rather boil my head than have sex!!! Why do men want it so much? My husband came home from work about 15 minutes ago and said "Why don't we have dinner, then have an early night?" Oh god, his face when I said no, nearly made me cry... He thinks I don't love him anymore, but thats not the case... I wish men would go off it too!!! That would make for an easy life... Take care and stick to your guns...

hi.my hubby and me have 5 kids and my sex drive has totally gone at the mo. not that we ever have time to do anything anyway!!!!LOL. but joking aside i am not interested in it at the mo. our youngest is now nearly 6 months and we have had 2 occasions (sorry if too much info) buy i just don't feel like it. i am constantly tired and need to go to bed at 8.30 to get enough kip and i feel guilty about going to bed early and not having any quality time with my hubby but i just feel so tired. i know it won't last forever but sex is the last thing on my mind.xxxx

i have very high sex drive but i just can't stop bleeding. I was bleeding for 5weeks after lo was born, had almost a week, and then my first period started. I then had another week break, and im on my second period.

Dont know what contraception you ladies are using if any but after having my first I went straight back on the pill and I guess after a while noticed that I just didnt want sex and couldnt get excited if you know what I mean I came off the pill and mt sex drive came flooding back after I have my next lo Im gonna try a different method other than the pill

Wow, thank god, thought it was just me, my oh can't seem to understand that having a 4 month old baby and working part time tends to take it out of me and the only thing i want to do in bed is sleep. Hoping it returns soon as he is feeling hard done by!

You are not alone. i dont have a sex drive at all and its got to the point where our marriage is nearly over. not sure how much i can take it anymore. not too sure what the future holds. Why is it so important to men. i guess its their only way of showing their feelings plus they need to be satisfied. my hubby thinks that now he is married he shouldnt have to wank because thats my job!!!!! yeah ok.

hi ya my lo is 7 months and i just aint interested at all either same as rest of ya i just want to go to bed and go to sleep so other half always says well lets go to bed earlier but i just cant bring myself to it my oh just dont understand he moans thinks ive got someone else tells me i dont love him sulks like a kid if i say no but my lo is up 2 times a nite still so dont get as much sleep as him plus have two other kids aswell i wish i didnt feel like this but i do he will even avoid coming to bed with me in way of punishment its got to the point where i dread him coming home from work cos i know he is going to go o about sex straight away he will make silly remarks like il ask ya again in a year or so which makes me want it less .

so i know how you feel i feel the same men need to have babies and sleepless nites and see how much energy they have for sex x

Hi Ladies,
just something to let u all know- my friend had this problem where she was tired all the time and she tried something from ann Summers ( a patch i think ) and it made her really horny so maybe worth a go because she told me about it after having her LO (i luckily haven't lost my sex drive but im not on the pill.... yet, so i know that will prob do that to me when i go back on it) she said it was the best thing she tried as her hubby was satisfied and she would rather have sax than go to sleep so it even helped with the tiredness!!

Hannah

p-s and i agree about men wanting it ALL the time!!! Oh god, cant they just settle with a choccie bar some of the time instead like the rest of us!! and why were they made so differently from us when we are supposed to be on the same wave length and go together!

Hi all, sooooo glad Im not the only one. Feel like showing OH this page so he knows it IS something that most of us go thru and Im not doing it to spite him! My youngest is 12 mths now and I have just started to feel horny again (since the past 6 weeks or so)! But b4 that - nothing. Got a 3 yr old too, and lost sex drive for about 5 mths after his birth. Hopefully now things will get back to normal. Dont think I will want it as often as he does, LO is a bad sleeper and Im always knackered! :lol: If OH had his way it would be 5 times a day 7 days a week! :lol: :lol:

blimey!!.. thank goodness its not only me!.. thanks for all your replies ladies... im obviously not alone...
bloody men and their willy's !!!..

hello girls, god it takes courage to post on this thread, ive looked at it so many times, so here goes, 'my name is Vicky and i have no sex drive' lol! Im just soooooooooooo tired and really self conscious of my stomach etc i just dont feel in the mood. last night we did everything but have sex (sorry for the TMI) and once we got going it was really good. Joshua is 6 months old now and i had a 3rd degree tear cos he was a big baby and im so scared its going to hurt but i suppose the longer i wait the more it probably will hurt argh! I ordered those patches from Ann Summers Hannah mentioned so i'll let you all know how i get on when they arrive (well done muma_love for starting this thread) xxx

me too!!!! just can't be bothered, not interested AT ALL, can't even blame tiredness, although i do, coz i spend half the night on here!! i am on the pill though was thinking of changing to a different one as i'm still taking the POP which i'm sure had the same effect last time when i was breast feeding ds1 and i think anti-d's can cause this too!! arghh, well i've plenty of excuses think a chat with the gp is in order... btw ds2 is now 10 months xx.

hi what is it with men that whatever theyre getting its not enough, I lost my sex drive after all of my children (obviously not completely tho as had more babies lol), must admit with isaac it has returned to better than it ever was but even that is not enough for him. someone once told me that men need sex to feel loved and women need to feel loved to have sex. how true is that.