Ok I really would appreciate any opinions on this as I am getting desperate and its breaking my heart!
I decided mid afternoon to try and start a routine by giving LO a bath at 6pm then a feed and change then bed at 7pm like I have read many of you do on here. (Realised now feed first then bath! would be better for us!). I know every baby is different and I was not expecting miracles tonight as I have a few problems to overcome first.
LO has always been quite windy and is nearly always sick....after reading some posts on here I will go to the docs in the week and ask his advice, hopefully prescribe gaviscon as some of you have recommended. Also LO has been very used to sleeping on my chest at night...yes I know its dangerous, even if it is just me and him in the bed but I blame my community midwife who encouraged me to do it when I got home from hospital and now its a habit which im finding difficult to get out of, especially after his night feed when im tired as well.
So I am having problems settling him anyway...last night I swapped his moses basket for a swinging crib which I think he prefers and after settling him last night at 2.30am he slept in it no problem, until 5.30am for a feed.
So anyway tonight i bathed, changed and fed him then soothed him in my arms until he dropped off and put him in the crib and swung that for a bit ....i left the cbedroom at 7.30pm then about 15 mins later he woke....i managed to settle him after about an hour

He then woke again and couldnt settle him...my breasts were full and I thought he was hungry so fed him and winded him which took a while and he was again a little sick. OH then took over so I could eat my dinner...its now 10.40pm and OH is in there (after LO settling for a little bit) and OH is rocking him in his crib. he is crying for 10 mins then sleeping for 5 then crying, s;eeping etc.. hes now been crying for about 15 mins now and its breaking my heart. his feed is due soon but not quite yet...hes feeding every 2 hours but does comfort feed a lot and is used to getting his own way when he crys, 9 times out of ten he gets the nipple!!! god i feel a shit mum now!!!
right its 11pm now and i am now feeding him...in the bedroom wiith little light. i didnt think id feel quite so bad but found that difficultt. the thing is i have read so many different opinions that i cant remember what i thinks right or not if that makes sense?! the only way i stayed away was cause i started writing this,
what i need to know is what you would do and have you been there, done that, trying to get lo into a bedtime routine.,,,, if so and they cried for a long time how did you deal with it? did you soothe them and give them cuddles? as i said there is so much contradicting advice i know i need to do whats best but i think it would really help me for now if i could hear about other peoples experiences and how they coped? will it ever work???!!!