Hi
That's so crap some people are spoiling what should be a really happy time for you! Poor you

Could your mum have a word with your dad? Sounds like he's just not got an understanding of what you're going through?
As for Uni, I find it crazy your lecturer is so insensitive! I'm doing a course part-time and my tutor arranged an extension on my coursework at end of last semester as I was getting married and was really sick- I didn't even ask him, he approached me and said it was possible and did I want to to sort it for me which was really nice- so it can be done. You tutor is being a prat!
Don't apologise for posting a rant- always helps to get things of your chest

Hope you get something sorted soon and you can enjoy your first christmas with your gorgeous daughter.
Mummychop