Hello everyone,

Im new to this forum. Me and my husband are having a trial separation at the moment, which isnt going well so far (its only been a week but looks like it might be more permanent) Ive been great since he left and I have been alot happier since he's been away and had a great week with my daughter although im hopeing long term that I can be happy with my husband again. Anyway tonight my daughter Caitlin (8 months) went to stay with my husband at his mums for an overnight and Im really upset about her going! I tried not to seem upset in front of her but im having a little sob now shes gone! :cry: Anyone else been in a similar situation re trial separation or more permanant separation?

Amy

Yes hun! If you've not already been, pop into the Single Mums forum, there are a few of us there.
I am in a slightly different situation whereby my OH has only had our baby once overnight since we split and that was here while I went away overnight for some works training.
I know that when the time comes, should OH not return (which doesn't look like it's gonna happen, and certainly not anytime soon) I will be devastated when he has him overnight!
You aren't alone hun, but have a good cry coz when you finally stop you might feel a tad better
xxx

Oh hun, im so sorry to hear that your upset. Try to focus on your daughter and not worry too much reguarding your hubby, if you are ment to be back together then you will be, the main thing is that you are happy and your lo is happy too. Big hugs going your way. xxxxxxxx

Thank you so much for your kind words! It helps just knowing youre not the only one!! Im painting my daughters room at the moment while shes away so thats giving me something to focus on!

hi hun. i split with my oh a couple of months ago and i think its a permanant arrangement now. i've finally realised i am better off without him.
he pushed me and pulled my hair while i was holding our lo and he never helped out, thought more of tv and footy, so we are so much better on our own.
i think your very brave letting your oh have your daughter overnight.
i still haven't let my ex have our daughter over night although he keeps asking.
i don't feel i can trust him as when he was here he would occasionally bring her downstairs so i could get some rest and i would come down to her crawling round crying and him asleep on the sofa. so i have no confidence in him and things he does and says now doesn't show me he will look after her properly now. although he is living at his mums, but i feel its not up to his mum, if he can't do it, he can't have her overnight.
maybe i'm just beeing selfish?
like diane said, if your meant to be together, you will be, but you do sound like you and your lo are happier on your own now.
i hope it all works out ok for you hun.
love and hugs, leona