25/06/2013 at 23:39
I recently took my 10 month old nephew to Stratford-upon-Avon for a day out with my girlfriend (we are both only 20) as the weather was really nice and I was looking after him.
For those who aren't familiar with Stratford, it is very busy in the summer and has a park and recreation ground beside a river, which is particularly popular.
We spent the afternoon on the recreation ground grass (as did a lot of families) and soon it was time, we noticed, to change my nephew. The car was a good couple of miles trek away and it would have been a hassle to trudge back with all our stuff so, though my gf wasn't so sure, we preceeded to quietly change him on our picnic blanket.
Now, I admit it was a bowel movement but we were trying to be discreet. There was a group of about 6-8 lads in their twenties nearby kicking a ball around, generally being boyish and loud and a few of them came over to us, being quite abusive saying we can't change a baby here like that 'in the middle of the open' and saying it was out of order and that they didn't want to see or smell a kid's 'shi**y nappy'. I defended ourselves, telling them we were being discreet (which we were) and if they didn't like it, to look the oher way etc and then finished the job off with them still muttering beside us.
They soon moved when they realised I was getting up to put the thing in the bin past them lol. But, being young and not a parent, I wasn't sure if we did the right thing and these lads were correct. The car was ages away and trekking back there would have been a pain and we were discreet so I don't see what else I could have done.
26/06/2013 at 06:38
Not at all! If your child needs changing then so be it, you weren't leaving your mess behind (as I suspect they probably would have done with their food wrappers etc) they had no right to kick off infront of your child.
26/06/2013 at 10:02
No you weren't 'out of order' at all, rather the opposite in attending to the needs of the child. Sadly some people have very 'poor' views on what is 'acceptable' but many parents will change baby in the middle of the park, mums will get their boobs out to feed their baby in the middle of the park too, you're quite right in your defense that THEY are the ones CHOOSING to WATCH (they don't have to after all).
26/06/2013 at 10:17
27/06/2013 at 14:49
you certainly did the right thing and iv done it many times, if your little one needs a change best to change on the grass like you did (sounds like you did a cracking job and good for you for sticking up for yourself) rather than leave baby to get sore and bothered, your natural instinct was bob on. Those lads will soon realise when they are parents and doing the same thing that your baby comes first not the moron giving you hassle. Well done!
27/06/2013 at 16:00
Cool. This is reassuring then. I shall bear this in mind in future out with him and then, some day, kids of my own of course.
01/07/2013 at 08:18
They were just making trouble. Let them fly on a plane where someone changes a baby. There's really no choice for the parent and it takes some time for the air to circulate
02/07/2013 at 20:14
Don't worry I do the same thing all the time with my daughter if they need changing they need changing its nobody elses busines ignore the rude idiots!
02/07/2013 at 23:39
not at all pal....you did right
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