11/10/2012 at 10:34
Hi everyone. Sorry but this is going to be a very long boring post and I'm sorry if it doesn't make much sense but I'm at my wits end and have got nowhere to turn. My baby Izzy is almost 8 months old now, I started trying to wean her when she was 6 months and have had nothing but problems. It's difficult to explain but basically she just will not open her mouth to take any food. I feel like I've tried everything; home made purees, finger foods, jars, warm food, cold food, baby led weaning, you name it nothing seems to work. Don't get me wrong it's not like she's not interested in the food. Her little face lights up when she sees her food and she's more than happy to play with it but she will not put it in her mouth. The only way I've been able to get her to open her mouth so I can get some in is to make her laugh or sing to her which, after 2 months and what feels like millions of meals later, she's got wise to so it doesn't always work. Most of the time I'm lucky if I can get one spoonful in, although she rarely spits it out so I presume what little goes in her mouth she is actually swallowing. All she seems to be bothered about is her having her bottle. I feel like I'm going round in circles getting nowhere and I don't know what else to do or try. There's nothing wrong with her development; she's crawling, sitting up, talking, she's got bags of energy and she's more than capable of putting things in her mouth. I think the main problem is her older sister who can be extremely distracting and it's very rare that Izzy and me can be alone at feeding time. I haven't done anything different to how I weaned her sister who would eat anything you put in front of her and when I put her in her highchair would sit with her mouth open waiting for her food.
At breakfast time I give Izzy her bottle first as she sleeps through and doesn't have a night feed, then I offer her porridge which sometimes she will have two or three spoonfuls, sometimes she won't have anything. At lunch time I offer her food about 1/2 an hour before her bottle, again with little or no success, same at teatime and at around 8 or 9pm she has another bottle. She takes between 5 & 7 ounces in her bottle whcih she is very enthusiastic about and will have without fail. Now she's 8 months old though I'm confused about what I should be feeding her. Should i try her with lumpier foods? I just don't know. I've read every weaning book I can lay my hands on but none of them address the problem I have.
I spoke to the hv at my local weighing clinic when Izzy was about 6 1/2 months. She hardly listened to a word I said and went straight off into a spiel about sending Izzy to a speech therapist as (i quote) "she clearly isn't developing properly and obviously isn't ablt to put things in her mouth" I tried to explain that Izzy was more than capable but she wouldn't listen. I went from feeling mildly concerned to going out of my mind with worry. I went to the weighing clinic again a couple of weeks later and was hoping to avoid the hv but she collared me and asked how we were doing as (again I quote) "by 7 months we really should be sorted by now." I lied and told her we were doing ok because I was worried with what we might be threatened with next. I'm worried that my little girl will become ill because she's not getting the nutrients etc that she needs and I'm worried that people will think that I don't care about her or I'm not looking after her properly.
People keep saying that "it will come" and I think if just one more person says that to me I will have a nervous breakdown. There is loads
11/10/2012 at 10:40
(continued) of support and advice for mums who struggle to breastfeed but absolutely nothing for mums who are having problems weaning. And you frequently hear about mums who wean their babies early but never mums who have weaned their babies late. Please can somebody tell me what I'm doing wrong as I really am at my wits end
12/10/2012 at 16:43
I'm so sorry to read your post, it sounds like you're tearing your hair out. Shame that the HV chat wasn't a bit more useful!
I work on MadeForMums and have had a bit of a chat with my colleagues who work on our Parenting titles. We have recently started a new feature in Practical Parenting and Pregnancy Magazine, called 'You Can Do It'. where an expert works one-to-one with a mum struggling with their little one's feeding issues to come up with a detailed ten-point plan, to work through the problem with you. If you don't mind being featured in the mag, she thinks you and Izzy would be ideal candidates, hopefully you'd find it really helpful.
If you are interested, please email Lara.firstname.lastname@example.org she can provide more information. Fingers crossed for you!
All the best,
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