Breast & bottle feeding
05/03/2009 at 16:12
05/03/2009 at 16:35
its not really the midwives fault, they are made to push breast feeding because the truth be told it is best. But they have to be seen to be giving you all the info possible so you can make an informed choice. Ask her to stop and that you will give it thought but not to push you. Then come back to her and say that you have researched it and you defo want to bottlefeed and would not like to hear any more she has to say. I think you have to sign in your notes to say they offered advice that you turned down. I personally am breast feeding but only because of cost. With the milk being around £9.00 a tin and having to get between 4-5 per month the cost is to high - for me personally.
I think they can be quite bad on the pressure they give but it is because they are under pressure to do so. But if you do your own rsearch then the midwifes will be more likely to leave you alone knowing you know what you are talking about!
05/03/2009 at 21:57
i have bottlefed and breastfed, so i can understand where your coming from completely. I am a breastfeeding fan as its soo much more conveinient and as linz said free my son only like expensive formular and we used 2 pwk, hes now 19mnths and we still have to pay around £18 a fortnight as he has 1+follow on daytime formular and the amazing stuff that is night time milk! (seriously recomend this to anyone from 6mnths)
But with jack i just couldnt feed him, something just didnt work, we later discovered he was tongue tied and as he was early my milk didnt come in, But I am PROUD he was nutured by milupa, he amazes me everyday even more so that this formular has made such a healthy child from a tiny prem baby, i was made to feel sooo guilty, looks in public and the way the midwife and hv would ask what he was eating and id say formular (although the scbu staff were fantastic and gave me info on bottle and breast and spoke about both equally) i beat myself up badly until my ball of fury that is lola arrived she breastfeeds fantastically and i love every minute of it and its finally made me realise formular was right for jack the best for jack, and breast is best for lola! babies are all different and it does them no harm to be bottle fed, it also contrary to popular belief doesnt make FAT babies, my brother is a HUGE baby and hes solely breastfed whereas jack and my nephew are forular and jacks a lil man and my nephew is statistically perfect! i know many people are uncomfortable breastfeeding, i would say try it as babies first feed as i managed that one with jack and its a really nice bonding moment, all my bottlefeeding friends did that 1st feed to and i know of a few people who felt as you do and changed there mind, i wish you the best of luck what ever you finally decide, i believe both have pros and cons equally! good luck, and remember, mums do know best, so trust yourself! xx
05/03/2009 at 22:18
05/03/2009 at 22:23
05/03/2009 at 23:06
06/03/2009 at 11:55
Thanks to everyone for their replies! It is something that every Mum should be able to decide for themselves, but so far my midwife has only presented me with the 'breast is best' argument, and looking for info on the net there is much more about breastfeeding than bottlefeeding. I've just ordered a book from amazon about bottlefeeding to help me get more information!
At the moment I want to bottlefeed, but with 6 months still to go I may change my mind, a decision I need to make for myself. Without pressure!
I know breastfed babies who are often sick and suffer from allergies, I also know bottlefed babies who are very healthy and bright. I was a bottlefed baby and, touch wood, I've had good health, I also have a university degree! So I feel that there are more factors that contribute to health and intelligence, not just whether you were fed on breasty milk or formula.
Any more views/ opinions very much appreciated!
06/03/2009 at 12:29
your right, just because they are bf doesnt mean that they are immune. I was bottle feed I have no allergies and always had good health. My husband was breastfed had has allergies and chest problems. and again your right I think they should give everyone all the info avalible not just what they feel is best. My mw said you could always try it and if you think it is ot for you then bottlefeed but it is far harder to do it the otherway around.I think it is wrong that they make you out to be a "bad" mum if you bottle feed I had that with my eldest who was bottle fed. But I have found no matter what I do I will never please everyone so I please myself and my children and what works for us.
Good luck in whatever you decide. Either way I am sure you'll be fine. Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy, lets us know how your 20 week scan goes. I love hearing how people get on!
06/03/2009 at 20:03
I started out wanting to just breastfeed, but ended up combining it with bottle feeding. Apparently you're not supposed to this - but it worked just fine for me and baby. I think you should just do what you think is best and listen to your instincts.
06/03/2009 at 20:16
welcome to pp, ive been told this but theres now been 5 babies in my family that have been breast and bottle fed, haing formular before bed and on breakfast once there weaned, its worked brilliantly, and after all we know our babies best xx
01/06/2009 at 19:13
i had a lot of trouble bf and when i was in the hospital i was pressured into bf, it was very difficult to for me not because bub wasnt layching on properly but because he would bite and i was very sore.
I put my son onto Nan gold H.A its got probiodics and is a very good formula, it retails for 22.95 and he has had no problems with it (he is 8months).
Dont feel pressured into doing anything when you have your baby, Your the mum and you decide what you want for your baby. I was ridiculed and looked down on because i didnt bf but i don't care because my son is happy.It is not easy to bf and there is to much pressure to bf these days. Do what you feel comfortable with and you will be happy. Goodluck
02/06/2009 at 14:14
Hiah, i was determined to BF when i was pregnant with my first,midwife forced issue aswell,sadly he went to scbu soon after birth and it was very difficult to maintain exclusive breast feeds. Midwives topped him up with formula without my consent( i had at that time no idea you could combine) so i only stuck wth it for 6 weeks,and topped him up with formula.
I beat myself up bout stopping,and how i felt then i wouldn't wish on anyone. Felt so bad. But midwife just agreed i should formula feed,I had no support at all,even rand le leche one night at midnight-didn't really find them much help to me.
With my 2nd, I didn't bother he had formula straight away. Both boys are whoppers,both healthy,except eldest has exczma,so it isn't a guarantee of immunity. As everyone else has said-it is a personal decision,like everything else to do with parenthood,what works for 1 doesn't work for another,as laura said-mum knows best. Please don't let anyone pressure you into anything,we have enough pressure simply being mums. I hope you get the info you need bout bottle feeding from your m.w.
Downside is cost tho hun-formula is expensive,but then scientists have worked and researched to make it the very best for babies x
02/06/2009 at 21:57
I started off absolutely sure I'd breastfeed with my latest.Didn't even have any bottles or formula in the house.He was biggger than expected,always hungry,I was also told to give lots of fluids cos he was jaundiced.I spent the first 24 hours breastfeeding,he still wasn't satisfied,it hurt too much to feed,Yes he was latched on right,I've done this a few times before.I think I just wasn't well enough to produce enough of the good stuff for him,so he just went on feeding all day.I started giving a couple of bottles,ended up stopping off at Boots on the way home from hospital for bottles and formula.He's now happy and settled,and I know he's not going hungry.
With my last two I stuck at the bf,mostly out of guilt cos everyone says it's best,and cos it felt like the right thing to do.There is also an emotional bonding thing with the bf,I was gutted when I had to stop feeding my number 5 cos she wasn't getting enough,then with number 6 a bit disappointed.This time I half expected it,but would've like a little while.
What's important is baby is happy,he's getting fed,he's still getting cuddles,and they make damn good formula these days so I know he's doing okay.
Just go with what's right for you.Don't be pressured and don't be made to feel guilty.
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