elective c-section

Hi everyone,

My wife is expecting our first baby in a couple of weeks and due to the size of the baby and its breach position she has been advised to have a c-section but she is really upset about it since she wanted a natural home birth.  I'm trying to be supportive and understanding but don't know what to suggest.  She is intent on trying VB anyhow but I am a bit scared for her, especially for her to give birth at home under the circumstances.

I would be most grateful for any ideas/advice on this. 

tbh even a normal position baby when its your first it really hard trying to get health officals to support you. Its purely on safety. People forget that labour can be very dangerous. I think that c-section is the best opition. There is nothing to stop her next time round having a home natural birth. Why not ask the consultant for a half way approach. If she gets tries natural but at the first sign of trouble to have a section. But if she does have a section then she will still be able to have a vb with other babies providing everything is ok. I think not much you will say will make her feel better. Safety for them both is the doctors concern and preferrances come second I'm afraid. I hope all goes well. xx

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perhaps you could persuade her to try a compromise - she could try for a vaginal birth if that's what she has her heart set on, but as long as she did it in hospital, where if anything went wrong she would be in the safest place..?

surely the safety of the baby should be the main priority for her, rather than what kind of birth she would prefer? perhaps if she looks at it that way she might change her mind. i can understand that wanting a vb may be important, but at the end of the day, the aim is for a healthy alive baby to come out.. and if this means a c-section, it's a small price to pay.

happy christmas!

I had a section due to breach baby and it was lovely. The safety of my daughter and myself was papamount

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That was meant to say paramount!!!

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I would say that the safer option is key in this circumstance. Hospital for a c-section sounds best. I am sure that the hospital would not have recommended c-section if they thought vb was an option. I can understand that a section is a scary prospect, best thing is if you can speak to the mid-wife or consultant to see if they can chat to your other half about it if you are worried that she is making the wrong decision. All the best of luck.

Both my babies were delivered by c-section, and its a very calm relaxing experience, me and my partner were left to hold and meet our new arrival whilst i was stitched up then back on cds after the babys checks and mine we were brought drinks and snacks and left for alone time, i really cannot fault the experience at all, but i can completely understand your wifes dissapointment, as my family is now complete and ive never experienced a birth, i do feel as though ive missed out, but my babies are both happy and healthy and although my son was prem and in scbu for 56hrs the care was amazing and the section saved his life.

I also have a baby brother hes 4mnths he was induced due to size, mum was in labour for days with no progress she eventually gave in for a section and then missed out on being with him for 5hrs after he was born as the traumatic labour and then section caused her to heamorage and she was sent to recovery, thomas was 11lb 2oz! she now wishes shed just had a section! hes her 3rd and finall after that experience

i would say a compromise is the best option as if theres complications a hospital is the best place and there will be alot less stress on you your wife and baby if its just a matter of going into the OR instead of a mad dash to the hospital from home, best of luck to you all.

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