with no good reason...
My little dot has not stopped feeding for more than 1hr today and im worn down ive had no time to eat or grab a nap, and jacks just keeps putting his arms up i think hes feeling neglected. So when for a rare minut she goes to daddy or in hr chair i spend time with him, also my mums away for the weekend and even though i wouldnt normally see her i feel pretty lonely as id be on the phone to her alot.
Also so far only my mum and grandma have visited noone has sent a card etc from the rest of my family and the one who managed in andrews side couldnt bring themselves to right any names in it as that would mean acknowledging me, so they just wrote from.... and its really hurt me!
After jack was born we were bambarded with vistors gifts cards etc (65 cards) this time we have 9, 6 of which i got in hospital, just feel like no body cares or that people were over compensating because jj was so ill.
I know im just being silly but i just feel lonely and teary and i just want to grab the kids and get away from it all even andrew, i completely adore them both and feel like i cant make them both happy because everything silly is upsetting me.
Im so sorry you are feeling down at the moment, but you are doing a brilliant job and are a wonderful Mummy.
Your hormones are all over the place and silly things will upset you, but you will not feel like this forever.
As for the card from Andrew family what w****rs
Sending you a big cyber hug xx
im new to this practical parenting site but ive read your post & just wanted to say "im sending you a big hug"
youv'e only just had a baby so your hormones are bound to be all over the place, my little boy is almost 9 months old now but i remember when i'd had him the lack of sleep starts to set in and effect you after the first week & i know how b/feeding is exhausting.
+ we were still getting cards a month after harrison had arrived so im sure plenty more will start to arrive in next weeks post.
just concentrate on YOU and try and rest, if you can't sleep then have a cuppa and put your feet up and watch some tele, you can even do that when feeding the little lady. as the days go by things will get better and in a months time you'll be starting to feel more like your old self and your little boy will love seeing all the changes in his sister.
oh laura, what do you mean feeling blue for no reason??!! you have the best reason ever - baby blues are completely normal, all those hormones everywhere, plus feeling like a human milk machine AND having to look after a toddler who doesn't know what's going on??! no wonder you're feeling a bit down.
i don't have experience yet, but i think Mel's right about second baby's and not getting as much fuss. the main thing is you, andrew and your babies, don't worry about everyone else. everyone has dodgy family members somewhere, they're only getting to you as your defences are down, i'm sure on a good day you'd be able to just ignore them.
hopefully you'll get a bit of sleep tonight and feel more cheery in the morning. have you got your christmas tree up yet??
were going to get one this week, cant wait, i kno ill feel loads better with all the lights up, and were going to the christmas fair again tomorow. I just worry about how the in laws behaviour is affecting andrew id be devastated if my lot did the stuff they do.
thanx girls, i always feel better after getting things off my chest on here xx
Big big hugs hun.
Like the others say your hormones are all over the place,like lucy say's baby blues are a pain and mind kicked in when riley was 5days old,things just hit home and the silly and petty things make a real difference to you at this time,no matter how silly they are,they really do matter to you.
Hope your able to get some good sleep tonigh and feel better in the morning.xx
my night got alot worse, lola fed from 12-4, screaming evrytime i moved her, i ended up crying, jack woke up, andrew got angry, i cried more. ended up with a child on each hip feedin/having a bottle while paced the bedroom, had a huge row with andrew which ended with him telling me he hasnt loved me for a long time...
lola then slept nearly 7hrs i got up to andrew acting like nothings happened... to scared to ask him if he ment it
feel a complete wreck, just wan2 take my babies and run
oh laura, sending big hugs.. wish i could come and help you! am having a crappy day at work, so would be happy to leave!
what is wrong with the men on here at the moment? they all seem to be having issues.. maybe Andrew just needs some time to come to terms with having two little ones at home?? Plus, it must be hard for him being out of work at the moment - he probably is feeling a bit useless.. although sounds like he needs a big kick up the bum!!
can you go over to your mums for some help today? i know she has her hands full too, but at least you'd get some emotional support and can have a good chat.. maybe you could take it in turns to look after the little ones and get a bit of a nap?
Laura,is there any baby groups by you that you could take the kids to and try and give yourself a break,or a mums coffee morning.
I no of a few my way but not sure up your end?
had mum round today, my sister entertained jack and lola sat blinking at mum hilst i got some cuddles ith my lovely baby brother! Midwife visited and lola has put on 4oz since thurs so thats made it all seem worth it,
Andrew got up and sorted dinner etc and me and lola slept from 4-8 so im feeling better for it, but dreading going to bed tonight, hardly seems worth bothering. Lola definatly is making herself known in the family and staking her claim as top dog!
The thing making it so frustrating is how good she is in the day and when i go out, but i suppose its better having her be an angel when jacks about, for his sake.
There are some lovely toddler groups but jjs painfully shy and doesnt enjoy it. we have a music group but cant face it with a newborn and andrew is too shy to take him, next week im going to andrew sit in waiting room with lola while i take him in, also thinking of going to mums wed and leaving jack with andrew so he can get some 1 on 1 then thurs or fri im christmas shopping cant wait
Thanx so much for all the support ladies it really helps writing it all down xxx
The girls have said it al, just sending hugs to you.
thanx for the kind comments,
Jo i always have the tv on too, often with subtitles as i find it distracts me from watching the clock, makes it a little more bearable. and dont know if ive said in another post, your pics are gorgeous!!! camping looks so much fun with your family, i was an only child till i was 17 and holidays were allways so boring!
Anyway today lola has been great but still wont settle upstairs so im on the couch, as its a corner unit i can prop us both up nicely for feeds a dose a little but cant manage to more than that unless shes in bed, ive managed to put her down in the travel cot anytime i wanted so i think ill be staying downstairs for a few nights, also because andrews had a major paddy and is sulking he just went to bed at 10 without saying anything to me... i txt him and he just came back at me with rants feeling sorry for himself. he then oke up at 12.30 and ran a bath, hile im in the middle of feeding lola, our boiler is in jacks room its very noisy, one awake toddler, im fit to kill andrew. he didnt even go to jacks. so i settle jack go back downstairs dose with lola a little feedin and then wake up at half 1 to boiler hising still! thats not right, jack also awake again.... i manage to settle lola and then jack and then turn off taps and dry bathroom which andrew has flooded!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i wake him up and shout at him in hushed voice and he sayes its my fault hes so tired and then has a HUGE strop because id emptied the bath (it had been running an hour and was freezing) Hes now asleep again and ive just settled jack AGAIN!!!
hes usually so helpfull but hes just completely wrapped up in himself and is full of self pity!! i just dont know wtf is going on??
Oh laura,men can be dim at times cant they.Hope his not done to much damage to the bathroom.
Hope you manage to have a better day today.xx
sounds like you're looking after three babies..
why was he running a bath in the middle of the night??! as Jo says, men are pretty useless creatures when they're tired, but that really shouldn't be an excuse for him.. surely he must realise you are shattered too - and you had to go through a caesarean!!
glad your mum can help out a bit.. maybe you should get her to move in and kick andrew out hehe!
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