Hi,
I'm pretty new here, but I am feeling so alone right now and I have all this stuff in my head and nobody to talk to about it.
Me and boyfriend have been together almost 2 years, and in 2 years we've been through more than most couples do in 20 years. However there is just one issue on my mind right now.
When I was 6 months pregnant, after being hospitalised twice for 3 weeks, and being monitored very closely for the rest of my pregnancy, I discovered my boyfriend had been gambling online.
Last December, him and some friends went to Las Vegas to celebrate a birthday. His friends came back broke, and he came back with £800, the same amount he went with. This started him playing Black Jack online. At the time, he was still living with his parents, and I was living in a house share in the city centre. I was around 10 weeks pregnant, in January, and after he had been being an a$$hole to me for 2 weeks [very unlike him] he finally broke down and admitted he had wasted £2000 - TWO GRAND - my god - on gambling online and had lost every penny.
Now, he wasnt in debt as he earns good money and paid practically no board, he had alot of savings. But we were due to move in together a few weeks later, [start of February] and I was only earning £6 an hour in a call centre, and I had no furniture as the house share I lived in was fully furnished. Luckily, his parents gave us £1000 the next week to go buy our furniture.
I thought he had nipped it in the bud. But then in March/April, I was shopping in town. And I had free reign with his bank card. I went to draw £50 out and checked the balance first, it was a lot less than it should be and we had all our rent and bills going out the next day. I immediately suspected gambling, and I had suspected him of it for around a month, but I knew I couldnt confront him without proof. So I got a mini statment, and in 4 days he had withdrawn £500 to gamble with. I confronted him and it wasnt pretty. I hacked into his account on a certain gambling website, and realised he had spent a further £5000 gambling. All his savings, which he has saved for 4 years, were gone.
I closed the account, took his card off him, got a mini statement every week to check he hadnt set up another account, I only gave him dribs and drabs of cash to spend on cigarettes/sandwiches/etc.
