MOTHER IN LAW HAD SOME BAD NEWS

Sorry to be a moany whingebag but we decided to tell families about baby this week.My Mum's first reaction was oh no,but she quickly said oh,sorry,it was because the last birth was a disaster.We had a homebirth planned,but baby got stuck and we were rushed off to hospital in ambulance but it all turned out fine.Once Itold her this ones being born in hospital she was fine,in fact she can't wait.Ithink that's the normal Grandma reaction.Not m in law.Darren won't say exactly what was said,just that it didn't involve any congratulations.I've never asked anything for any of my kids from her,not even her time,but Igo out of my way to have her to our house,even pick her up and take her home,when Idon't really have the time.Isuppose Ishouldn't be suprised,she barely even acknowledges our wedding.She didn't even bother sending a card and made no attempt to attend.My sister in law said when number 6 was born her reaction was another xmas present to buy.Sorry to moan but I'm a little cross.She's due a visit next weekend.Might be out.Or busy or asleep.It really doesn't take much to pretend to be happy for us.Its a baby,not a disease

Not sure what to say when I do have to see her now.Certainly won't bother answering the phone to her now .You know who it is cos only one person rings at 5 when I'm just giving the kids their tea.
I think MILs like being the centre of attention.Must be that regressing in old age thing.Well I can't say I'd thought of asking her permission first.She's due to visit in a week,I'm sure Ican manage polite by then

parents are funny creatures.. my dad told me to have an abortion when i told him i was pregnant with ben and that i'd ruined my life, but now he loves ben to bits and was quite excited when i told him i was pregnant with this one.. shawn's mum thought it was fanastic news..

not surprised you're upset, hope you don't let her get to you too much..

What an awful thing for your Dad to say.He probably wishes he never said it now,but that must have been horrible.Least my own parents are supportive.Sounds like he's changed his mind now.Babies are good at that.
Decided I don't care about MIL.She should remember that it's up to her what sort of relationship she has with her grandchildren.You only get back what you give.She should've learnt that lesson with her own kids.They're an odd lot.

my mum and dad didnt really approve when I first told them i was pg but when she was born that all changed and now they wouldn't change a thing for the world,they love isabelle so much and are fantastic grandparents

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Don't worry too much about it JO. It is her loss if she doesn't want to spend time with her grandchildren. She doesn't seem to put an effort into getting to know them. Be polite to her but you don't need to go out of your way to get her attention and you don't need her approval either.

sorry to hear that. I hate it when the people who are supposed to be there for you and support you because they are blood dont even make any effort it can be hurtful. Take comfort in your large extended Practical parenting family online. BIG HUG

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I have got past cross now.My SIL told MIL we were upset.Takes a lot to upset Darren.She phoned me saying was she in the doghouse,and apologised for not being nice about it.For a brief moment I thought be truthful,but I put my sensible head on and pretended I wasn't at all upset.Did let her do little bit of grovelling though and for that I'm a little ashamed.Really better to keep the peace,though.Of course I know the 'apology' is because she needs a lift Sunday and we've got a visit coming.Not sure I want to share my lovely babies with her cos of her attitude but what kind of person would that make me.So I can let it go but it's not forgotten.She's not my Mum.My little sister says my Mum was literally jumping for joy.That's how she knew I told her.That's a mental picture to make me smile.Really she shouldn't at her age.Had words with Darren though about SIL mouth almighty.Thought I could trust her.

glad things are "sort of" sorted for you.At least if you keep the peace then it is a little more bearable

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Family feud achieve nothing.Darren's two brothers haven't spoken for years.Coming from a big family we all fell out,then we grew up.That's where lots of siblings is good.You learn to accept the good and bad in everyone.Can't please everyone all the time and you can't all agree all the time either.You don't have to have a big barney cos of every little thing.I'm too and too busy to do family rows.Just do my best to get on with them all.Worse case senario I can shut myself in the loo,scream,and claim hormones!