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02/04/2014 at 15:29
I have a little boy aged 20 months with my parter and we are around 10 weeks with number 2 after having 2 m/c last year.
My partner has a 7-8 year old son from a previous relationship,( im sorry for my spelling im not very good)
Last year his ex got in touch and told us his son has been diagnosted with asburges which i think is a form of autism but might be wrong - she told me that i should get my son check out as its all my partners fault! and my son will also have it!
She says its my partner fault coz she has a 13 year old girl from another man and she is fine and she is also now 20 plus weeks with an other mans child and says that she knows this one will be fine as well and that all my children will have problems because of my partner!
She worded it a lot worse but im not that rude or evil to type what she called her own son as well as mine.
Im just wondering if anyone out there can offer any advice? or if they have or are in the same situation as me? xxxx
02/04/2014 at 19:17
autism sometimes does run in families but its not likely hun try not to worry. aspergers is autism at its mildest form. and even if he had it or one of your children had it it managable.
they dont know what causes autism.it is more common in boys though.
if your son is showing any signs get him checked but they are normally reluctant to diagnose so young. there are many signs but the most common are. lack of eye contact,or not liking physical contact. as he grows up becoming obsessed with certain things. not getting the normal social rules.
02/04/2014 at 21:58
thank you for replying, all of the above my partners other son has in big ways, my son shows no of those symptoms, he loves cuddles and kisses, will talk to anyone, loves being around people ect he is only 20 months tho.
I dont feel like i need to worry as such i think its just her narsty words have upset me, saying my son is not so bloody perfect he will be a retard! and this made me feel very angry and sick! no one should ever call a child or an adult for that matter a retard and it makes it worse she calls her own son this! she says that he is uncontrollable just makes me angry xx
03/04/2014 at 09:35
03/04/2014 at 12:53
Thank you Micromonkey,
I can say that when my partner was with her they both used drugs and drank! makes me sick really to know some one who is pregnant can take drugs and feel good about it!
BUT my partner has been DRUG FREE now for 5 years as i told him i wouldnt be with him if he took drugs! and he only has a drink now if we are out for a meal.
10/04/2014 at 16:26
I have Aspergers myself. I am a mummy to 2 girls, my eldest has ASD (autistic spectrum disorder) along with GDD (global development delay), my youngest doesn't have autism (Both share same mum & dad).
A child's genetic coding comes from both parents & whilst your OH's ex may be enjoying blaming your OH it could just as likely be her gene coding that's contributed (her other children may have inherited daddy's gene in its place....). Most children are typically 2yrs+ before being assessed for autism & I'm sure you'd check out any concerning behaviour if it arose but having one child in the family with autism doesn't automatically mean the rest shall have it too.
10/04/2014 at 16:57
Hey hun, don't worry bout what she's said she sounds vile, but I have a friend who's son is autistic and yes he's a handful but he's the most gorgeous lovely little boy I love him to bits he's such a character x
10/04/2014 at 21:52
We cant pin point it down to either my partner or her, she has 2 and a 3rd on the way all with different men yet its only my other halfs son with her that has Aspergers.
I will keep an eye out but i think its just her trying to make me unhappy she really is an evil bit of work. xxx
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