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Conception & fertility problems
22/03/2016 at 10:13
this is the first time I am using a forum and even expressing what my husband and I are going through.
yesterday we went for our first appointment at the fertility clinic, we have been trying for 2.5 years on our own and to date nothing.
i had an internal scan done and they found that I only have 2 antral follicles on each ovary, so he sent me for blood tests as I am on my period and said that my Amh levels have to be >5.3 or they won't pay for treatment. At the time I didn't know what that all meant. After researching it basically means our chances our near impossible to concieve. The more follicles you have the larger the reserve Is what I am reading. I am 37 so I am sure age is playing a part and I have to lose weight which that part I am not too worried about.
My husband has been amazing but I actually don't think he fully understands that we might not be able to have a baby. I can't find anywhere that low no. of foll can still lead to pregnacy.
just wanted to know if anyone else is going through or has been through similar. We have to now wait until July to get blood test results and for me to lose weight - it would be good to have the results before at least we know if we have a chance or not.
sorry its a long one, I just feel a bit lost today. I took a sickie to have a day to myself to start planning and thinking of the coming months and how I am going to help myself.
22/03/2016 at 15:55
not sure how much help I am going to be but couldn't read your post and not reply. I have my first meeting with the fertility clinic tomorrow. we have been trying for 1.5 years, I got pregnant last year and had a mc and nothing has happened since. I am 41 so my age will certainly be playing a part in it.
did the fertility clinic give you any indication of how they would proceed? I know they want you to lose weight but surely they would have your blood results back in the next few weeks so could give you some indication then of what can or can't be done.
It can be hard seeing the positives in things right now, especially when you google, I always find google has all the horror stories on it. Maybe give yourself a few days and ring them next week and just speak to someone and ask how things with proceed, don't let them fob you off, they have to give some indication.
hope this helps some bit and that you will be feeling a bit brighter tomorrow
22/03/2016 at 18:22
firstly all the best with your appointment tomorrow, I hope it all goes well for you.
what we've been told is that each borough has criteria for couples ttc to meet, so that includes BMI & the results of the blood tests, for AMH, FSH and another (can't remember), if we don't meet those then they will discharge us back to our GP.
However if we do meet the criteria, no matter the route they take we will put be on the IVF list as the wait is 4-6 months, but within that time they will book in other tests and internal scans. Fortunately for me there was no visible tube blockage or cysts. So our concern is the AMH levels really.
My husband has said he will follow it up and make sure we get some sort of indication, no point stressing until July for us to be told sorry we can't help you. I have opened up today to a few close family members and friends who have been amazing... So feeling a bit better but it's one of those situations where it's all so fresh you just need a moment to let it out and for others to let you.
i just feel the future of a family is dependant on me and that's a hell of a lot to absorb. My husband has tried making it clear that we're in this together which I know and love but his tea
if you feel OK to discuss it tomorrow pls do let me know how it all goes for you. will be thinking of you 😊
23/03/2016 at 16:13
well I think I am just in a little bit of shock after the appointment. I should say as well that I am in Ireland so things are probably a little different here. also we decided to go private as when we went to get an appointment on public sector there is a 42 week waiting list and I will literally be 42 by the time that rocks around. We chatted with the doctor and he said given my history of the mc and my age, which he kept mentioning that he thinks we should just go for IVF. he said he can't say it wouldn't happen naturally for us but again with my age there isn't time to leave it till chance. I had some blood tests done and an internal scan and next month I have to go and have a tube scan and then we sit back down with the doctor and decide for sure if we want IVF, so right now I am a little bit overwhelmed.
I'm glad you are feeling better today and that you are talking to people, I really think it helps to talk. My OH is the same says we are in it together but yet it does feel like its all down to me. who thought ttc could be so difficult.
24/03/2016 at 06:14
its a lot to take in but glad that things are moving forward - better than them saying otherwise. This is what you want, the checks and tests to be done and fingers crossed they can help you both.
take it all in your stride - you have to see it as the process has started and that's all you needed, whatever the outcome uou are doing everything you can to make this happen, what more can we do? Try not to pressure yourself or worry too much (I will llisten to my own advice too - promise) and I really hope it all works out for you. pls keep me posted xx
I spoke to my dad abut it all and our chances etc he was taken aback and lots to absorb but he was amazing and said if the NHS can't assist then you come and talk to me let's see what private care will offer. He said hes got 2 grandchildren from my brother but all he wants now is to see his daughter have a family. Hes keeping positive though, he said I'm meant to be a mum and it will happen! :)
we clearly have amazing support around us, we just have to be strong! We can do this xxxx
24/03/2016 at 14:21
youre right, it is the start of the process and that is a good thing. I think I am going to forget about it now for a few days and enjoy easter and then get on with the next appointment and take it from there. when we meet with the consultant next month I will be better prepared and have all my questions ready. and yes listen to your own advice and don't put too much pressure on yourself, so easy to say though isn't it and not do.
oh that is so nice that your dad has said he will help you out, what a lovely thing for him to do. Its great to have such support.
I think we will both get there in the end, its just that our road to babies might be that little bit longer with a few twists and turns along the way xx
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