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14/01/2014 at 19:48
She wasn't due in until 10am and a bit before hand work got a phone call from someone to explain the situation. As it stands all we know is that she died during the night, no suspicious circumtances and her 12 year old son found her this morning.
At lunchtime I was sat with the women in my department and they started on about how well she was morbidly obese so it was no surprise. I pointed out we didn't know what she had died from yet and they said well whatever it was it couldn't have helped. I am not one for saying you can't speak ill of the dead but hang on a second can we not judge them quite so much? My HOD was saying she couldn't understand someone being that big when they have children as a responsibility etc etc I just sat there in stunned silence. I had told my HOD abotu my step-dad dying the week before but said that I wasn't ready to talk about it. And she said so many people seem to have died recently and was ticking them off on her fingers and then said and there was someone else wasn't there and looked at me. Nope still not ready to talk about it and certainly not in that sort of atmosphere.
Sorry no point to this other than I have no one else to talk to.
14/01/2014 at 19:54
Oh dear they sound like a lovely bunch of people! Very judgemental of them. Feeling awful for the lady's son who found her. People always seem to like to think the worst of other people don't they? Did you know her well?
14/01/2014 at 19:58
Pretty much everything Frankie has said.
I am sorry to hear that she passed away and that her son found her that must of been awful for him.
Don't be sorry about posting here :) It's what we are here for. Sending a hug. I hope you are okay?
14/01/2014 at 20:06
Oh no! I'm so sorry. Sorry firstly for the lady and her poor son. And secondly, sorry your boss put you in that position. So unfair.
14/01/2014 at 20:14
How awful, the poor boy who found his mum. Hope your ok, agree it was unfair of your HOD
14/01/2014 at 20:40
Sorry for disappearing my Dad phoned. You have responded the way I thought most people would respond. That poor child. His father wants him back in school tomorrow and wants to give him an air of normality but what is normal?!? Counselling being made available for him. He isn't the only child that has happened to at work either, quite a few have discovered a parent dead I selfishly started to worry even more about my own. If I die they are locked in the hosue with me, what on earth would they do? B worries about me dying enough as it is (he has very high anxiety levels and worries abotu random things, main fixation at the moment is me dying, although he worries abotu me disappearing as well) So even if I wanted to prepare them/organise them to say if anythign happened to Mummy do this, it would worry him even more. It has pushed my anxiety levels up, which is stupidly selfish.
I did know her to talk to but she always talked really fast and with my hearing problem I couldn't always keep up with a conversation with her, even time I visulaise her I see ehr talking and this stream of voice comign from her but without knowing the words. Other than my department everyone seems stunned, no-one else seems to acting like it was no surprise. That poor boy, he is such a 'needy' child anyway (I'm not sure if that means the same thign to everyone else - that's happened before I used a word and it means something different) he has the same hypermobility condition as me plus he has various other SEN issues as well. He spent his breaks and his lunches with his Mum as well, they were an insperarble duo - kind of how I visualise B and I Whereas I visulaise U like the girl out of Kick Ass She doesn't swear or beat people up bte, just very fiesty
15/01/2014 at 09:17
How sad for that little boy. Awful. Some people are so unthoughtful and judgemental, it's shocking.
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