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12/04/2013 at 20:15
H said last night he was going out for a drink with all his friends from school tonight and doing a bit of a send off for the groom as not many of the old friends could make stag do. Thats fine but asked him how he planned to get there and back? He said he wasn't that bothered about drinking and would just have a shandy and drive (we live about 30 minutes away)
He's been out 30 minutes and text me to say can he stay out. Now normally I wouldn't care, but we have the wedding tomorrow, loads of things to do before hand and tbh we are going to be spending a fortune tomorrow and could really do with out it and not adding this on top. Big R has been asking after his dad all week and I have been telling H this, he won't see him much tomorrow as it is as we are going out. To top it all off I'll be left to do all the jobs with two babies and then get myself ready. H will be hungover and useless and Ill be even more annoyed. Also annoyed because now I'm made to look like the nagging wife I'm sure to his mates, which isn't the case.
So AIBU? I'm trying not to let it get to me as I really dont want to spoil the weekend but its really annoyed me! Probably delete later so dont quote. PJ xx
12/04/2013 at 20:17
I'd be annoyed and say 'Babe its best of you have a couple then come home.' And leave it at that!
12/04/2013 at 20:26
I don't think you are bu but its easy for all your good intentions go out the window once you get out and see everyone and fancy a few drinks. If it were me I wouldn't ask him to come back but tell him not to be too late and try not to get so hammered that he spoils tomorrow.
12/04/2013 at 20:27
What 1st baby says..
I'd get my H home, he's going to see the groom tomorrow at the wedding?
12/04/2013 at 20:29
thanks both, I do get that SW, I hate being the party stopper as normally i wouldn't care but i just feel really annoyed as if im his mum and hes asking me if hes allowed. He has never done this before and this is why i'm thinking he knows he really shouldnt as he wouldnt ask iyswim? xx
12/04/2013 at 20:30
lauren - yep, they all are going to be there. thats what I have just said to him.
12/04/2013 at 20:32
Then he doesn't really need to spend the money tonight too :)
12/04/2013 at 20:33
I think that sounds about right PJ. He obviously knows he's pushing it otherwise he wouldn't ask. What have you said? What's he like when he's had a drink? Is he likely to have a few and come back ok or go mad and go on a bit of a bender?
12/04/2013 at 20:38
the fact that he said stay out i would imagine it would be a bit of bender! I just don't want to fall out with him when he comes home if hes in a grump! I think Ill go to bed before he gets in. I do feel bad as i know he would enjoy it but he can just enjoy it tomorrow! x
12/04/2013 at 20:45
Normal circumstances id say let him stay out but as you both have to go to a wedding tomorrow Id be annoyed if he stayed out, won't be nice for either of you tomorrow if he's hungover. Are there lots of the little jobs you can get done tonight while the kids are sleeping?
12/04/2013 at 20:46
I'd have no issue with saying that he needed to come home, but then I'm a ***, I'd just tell him rather than beat about the bush tbh [blush]
12/04/2013 at 20:47
Not really as its things like, go to shops, drops bits off to my mums, sort car seats ect. Will do all ironing and anything I can do tonight though. PJ xx
Btw how does he plan to get the car back home? Sounds like he's creating a lot of hassle for the sake of a few beers
CP Glad im not bu x
12/04/2013 at 20:49
I think he would just leave it there and sort it out in the morning. another job we would have to do. Have texted him and asked him what hes doing and he said I'm going to make you happy..... not sure if thats a stressy reply but I'll leave it! x
12/04/2013 at 20:51
Ah well he obviously knew he'd be better off coming home. Glad it's sorted
12/04/2013 at 20:52
Text back 'good im glad'
12/04/2013 at 20:56
I did think of big R though, H had some time off last week and R loved having him home, now this week R has been saying dad dad dad dad dad dad dad ALL DAY. Driving my insane. so I thought he will have a nice morning with him while I'll sort all the jobs out take little R with me so they can have 'man time' as he calls it, but now I just hope H isn't going to be in a grump and ruin the weekend... *sigh*
12/04/2013 at 21:54
He must have known what he SHOULD have done, which is why he asked!
My H would get the same answer - normally he can do what he wants but not if you are seeing the groom tomorrow anyway - how would he feel if the shoes was on the other foot?
12/04/2013 at 21:57
This is what I think 1st baby. I dont think it would have even crossed his mind. x
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