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14/02/2013 at 08:37
I told my H not to bother getting me a valentines day card because I haven't got him one and it's all a money making gimmick!
I just don't want all that red heart, I love you teddy crap! It's just tat.
The card sits on the side in the lounge and annoys me when I'm cleaning then goes in the bin after 2 days.
He said I'm heartless! Ah never mind!
14/02/2013 at 08:42
No i think its more for daters?
We haven't done cards this year. H bought me some Chocs and flowers a couple of weeks ago to cheer me up and the fact it wasn't st vals day made it more special. I bought him a back massager and told him take that as a present! Ha ha!
We don't normally do presents anyway thou.
14/02/2013 at 08:49
It is a little heartless if he wants to buy you something, but not everyone celebrates VD.
I'm in a grump about it because this is the first year in about 10 I've made the effort and bought H a card. We both really need to try and make the effort with each other as we both moan we never do anything or spend tme together. So there I am giving him his card this morning and his response was "oh FFS I aint got you nothing". I wasn't expecting anything, but a simple "Oh babe you shouldn't have" would have been better. *grump*
14/02/2013 at 08:55
Ah no, I don't think he's that bothered to be honest. He just wouldn't have wanted to not have got me anything if I woke up and gave him a card.
We're going to go out for something to eat tonight so I'm not all heartless. We are the same and need to make more of an effort belle. It's hard sometimes when your so busy to remember your relationship needs work too!
Hope your H gets you a nice bunch of flowers for later.
14/02/2013 at 08:57
He won't and I'm not expecting him too. I just wish he'd engage his sodding brain before speaking! I put a big bar of rolo in the card too so I'll just have that instead.
Ah yeah I get your grump Belle. Last night I said to H "you know it's valentines day tomorrow don't you?" Huge gasp!!! But I hadn't got him anything anyway so it was fine. I'm quite lucky my with my H as he's often buying me stuff just because so today doesn't have to be done.
Maybe your H will get you something for later? Probably not the same but it's a start? X
14/02/2013 at 08:58
He probably felt bad that's why he said it?
14/02/2013 at 09:00
In his defence he did buy me a bottle of my favourite wine Friday night. That involved searching a few off licences rather than popping to the usual corner shop. Romance is not dead He's just never been one for flowers on a whim but wine & money I'm always happy to recieve. It's what he said that andgered me. I don't want anything but a smile & kiss would have been better.
Sorry for derailing Dolly. Where you eating tonight?
14/02/2013 at 09:09
I must be heartless to. A fb friend (male) posted a photo of a frog teddy holding a sign saying 'I toadily love you' that his gf got him, I actually vommed a little in my mouth , I would kill h if he dared get me anything like that.
I don't need a card to know he loves me. If he gets me chocolates he'd only hover round me like a vulture till I ended up giving him the box, I'm not a flower person, and I don't like tat
14/02/2013 at 09:10
Romance isn't dead here either, he bought me a cream egg on Sunday without me asking,
14/02/2013 at 09:16
We don't do v day but he got up early and where I'd left N's box of paints out yesterday he had painted me a little card bless him haha. It was sweet though as he wrote in it that he can't wait for us to be a family of four. We've been quite unattentive to each other lately and have had a chat about it, things are improving so the card wasa nice surprise. Now do I need to make something for him though
14/02/2013 at 09:21
I got flowers on Saturday just becuase he loves me and knows I am trying at the moment on quite a few levels to sort myself out. We haven't celebrated valentines since we got engaged as we like to celebrate our anniversary which is more special to us as a couple if that makes sense.
Belle - I can just imagine Mr Belle saying it, this is the conversation I often have with Rob about thinking before your speak and it being ok not to say EXACTLY what you are thinking
14/02/2013 at 09:25
Aw, if he wants to get you one, let him get you one. Belle, I can understand your annoyance!
I haven't bought H anything at all and I feel bad, he hasn't bought me anything either, but I doubt he feels bad! I am going to go get him a present at lunchtime I think and a card. (I am Hallmarks dream)
14/02/2013 at 10:21
H and I always just get something 'token'.
So I came dowstairs this morning to a bunch of flowers, a bar of galaxy and cards from H & Ned.
I've got card for H from both me and Ned and we did some pottery painting at one of those places last week for him.
In response to the OP, it's a bit heartless if he wants to get you a card and you've stopped him.
I don't get the whole 'it's just money making and tat' argument, it's a fun day which you can either join in with or not but its been around since the 15th century as a day for lovers to celebrate, it's hardly something created just by hallmark
14/02/2013 at 10:30
I;m sort of on the fence. I still want to give and recieve a care on VD - its just the thought that your H and you care enough to do it. Yes its tacky and most stuff is overpriced and we wouldnt ever do the whole meal flowers chocs teddy type thing. We need to make more effort, and ifs it a day when everyone else does it, so what? My H wrote me a lovely card and I havent even written his yet! I have bought his some posh teabags as he has become a tea snob and I refuse to buy them normally!
I;ve spent less than a fiver though!
14/02/2013 at 10:31
You're not heartless.
My H was talking about getting me something, and I said "don't bother, I won't be getting you anything".
14/02/2013 at 12:53
I am a real heartless, ungrateful moo. I didn't get H anything, I would have had to borrow the money off him anyway
So this morning when I get 2 bunches of flowers (one from my H and one from my son) I was thinking at how long of my precious minutes before going to work I was going to have to spend sorting out the flowers into vases. I have to dress and feed all 4 children (well, dress 2 and assist dressing with another) by 7.45am and my lovely boy hands me flowers at 7.30!! I did ooh and ahh over them for his (sons) sake!
14/02/2013 at 12:59
No, I don't think you're heartless. My H asked me again last night if I'd got him a Valentine's day card and when I said 'no' he said 'good as I haven't got you anything either'. I think he was worried as he didn't buy me an anniversary card, even though I said I was getting him one, and then felt obliged to rush out and get one on the day. (He did take me away for the weekend though).
I've just bought the Valentine's meal from M&S as a treat/surprise.
14/02/2013 at 13:13
I'm in the not fussed for it camp, in fact we agreed a few weeks ago wed just do cards, and H is cooking a meal tonight. I'm a bit bah humbug about it all, tbh I'd rather get flowers on a random day just because he felt the urge to buy them than because it's 14th Feb and feels he should - ie I don't think valentines day is particularly romantic. And I'm probably a bit mean but H thinks he's making this big gesture by cooking my dinner tonight, despite me cooking his every other bl00dy night. And hell expect his leg over in return
14/02/2013 at 15:24
You lot make me laugh!
Weekender - that's so true isn't it? They expect their leg over when they do something romantic but when were doing things every day they don't bat an eye!
Well, I'm all pruned and plucked ready for our meal out. It's no where special but we never go out just us two anymore so it will be a nice relaxing evening hopefully x
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