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15/10/2014 at 09:15
After reading the list threads there seem to be so many things that we now class as an essential, that simply aren't. So, for a bit of fun, does anyone want to help me out with an anti-list? What things do you see as unnecessary?
I'm going to kick it off with a bath thermometer...whatever happened to dipping your elbow in?
15/10/2014 at 09:25
I don't think anyone said they were essential! I think it was said they can be useful for a first time parent! No anti list for me as it's personal preference.
15/10/2014 at 09:34
Very well FM, no real need to contribute just to say that you wont be contributing...as the title said it's just for fun!
15/10/2014 at 09:47
It's a public forum....I can therefore reply to say I don't think anything i choose to buy is non essential.
15/10/2014 at 09:48
So many things that I didn't need 1st time:
bath thermometer, dummies, baby bath, pram, buggy, jumparoo, bumbo, infacol!!
This may change for this baby!!
15/10/2014 at 09:51
Whatever FM, your comments are pointless and don't add anything to the thread. You've obviously missed the point completely
15/10/2014 at 09:53
Oooh, I'm with you on the dummies BK.
A friend is giving me a baby bath but if not for that I was sorely tempted to use the kitchen sink, worked fine for me
Why buggy and pram out of interest? Due to slinging? I'm hoping to sling too but think that it'll probably be a 50/50 split...watch this space!
15/10/2014 at 09:56
I've actually used our bath thermometer quite a bit as it doubles for me as a travel room thermometer (I wouldn't take the gro-egg away with me).
My list of unnecessary purchases:
Too many vests in small sizes (I had a summer baby so it was too hot - my personal preference was little dresses/rompers in the day)
About 15 tubs of sudocrem
15/10/2014 at 09:59
Ha! Sudocream is a common one I think Ninky! I only have the mini tub that I got free with Bounty, as I've heard it doesn't work well with cloth bums. Did you find that you'd bought too many swaddle blankets, or was it that you didn't use them at all?
15/10/2014 at 10:04
A swing definitely, although luckily we were given one 2nd hand rather than buying one. My little boy hated it!! Although now, at 19 months, he loves the swings at the park!
Toys to hang on the bumper bar of the pram (those ones that wrap round them). I assumed he would need amusing, but he really didn't!
Saffron: I picked up a free baby bath but I found it too slippery to use so we used a bath seat instead (looks like a deckchair that sits in the bath). I used my buggy & pram less than a handful of times. Once I got my sling I had no need for it, wish I'd have got my sling from birth. You're always told that prams/buggies are essential items so I bought a travel system (second hand so at least I didn't waste too much money) but it's spent most of the time under Isobelle's bed!! We're not selling it just yet but I can't see me ever using it. It really is personal choice though.
Also my sil bought us big bottles of baby shampoo, lotion etc but didn't use any of them until she was over a year so not essential! Oh & scratch mitts as they didn't stay on
15/10/2014 at 10:08
I didn't use them at all. I had a summer baby (in the middle of the 2013 heatwave) so I was desperately scared of overheating her when she was tiny, so she just slept with a cellular blanket. I'd got the proper gro-swaddle ones as well. By the time she was bigger and I was a bit more confident, she was in sleeping bags and sleeping well, so there was no need for them.
I suppose it just shows personal preference, but we used our baby bath until she was about 6 months old as our proper bath is on the 3rd floor and I didn't like carrying a little baby all the way up. She lay in it when she was tiny and sat up and splashed about in it when she was bigger. So I suppose for me, the bath seat/support thing was a waste of money as she didn't go into the big bath until she was confidently sitting up. Will hopefully be in a new house by the time this one comes though so I will hopefully get some use out of it then. Again, I did actually use the Johnson's bath stuff from Day 1, so that wasn't a waste for me (although I still haven't bought anything new shampoo or top to toe wash since before she was born and she's 15 months now!)
15/10/2014 at 10:10
Wah!!!! I've already bought scratch mitts
15/10/2014 at 10:11
We have about 6 tubs of sudocream. I've opened one and that was for me to use! I think H might have used it on S once in the early days but pretty sure the tubs will expire before we get round to using them! Same with infacol, it just made S throw up and as soon as she hit 12 weeks gripe water seemed to work much better.
Oh and comfortor type toys (e.g a little teddy with a blanket attached). We got about 5 as presents and they're all in a drawer upstairs. S just isn't bothered.
Unfortunately a lot of it is trial and error and personal preference (yours and the baby!). I was certain we wouldn't be using dummy's. Then when S was 8 days old she ended up with an infected finger because she was using her fingers to comfort suck so much, I gave in straight away and let her have a dummy because you can't tell an 8 day old not to do something.
15/10/2014 at 10:13
I'm going to be shot down for this but hey ho, a poddle pod. I was genuinely interested in what these were about etc so posted on here and everyone was very in favour of them. To me it goes against everything Iv read about safe sleeping for the past 5/6 years so I just didn't really understand them iyswim as it's not completely flat blah blah blah. Everyone here and another forum raved about them. My cousin works in JL nursery and there's a more expensive version similar to the poddle pod which she felt was good but not necessarily worth the money. I contacted FSID and the lullaby trust, they wouldn't comment on individual brand names but said that there was factors of the products which didn't meet certain standards as it wasn't flat, didn't have a waterproof cover (although having looked on the poddle pod website I think that they are introducing this fairly soon or it may even now be introduced). So, Based on that I won't get one, that's not to say people are wrong in getting one, it's what works for you and your family and it's personal preference. I might think differently if I'd seen one irl iyswim.
Other non essentials, nappy bin, baby bath,
Bk I'm very much a dummy fan , my children were never having dummies btw but omg it was a saviour with L. I did actually struggle to get it off Isaac right enough so if this baby needs one I'd probably try to take it away sooner.
15/10/2014 at 10:20
Soft toys for us (as in bunnies, little teddy bears etc). Why does everyone buy you one when you have a baby? We have hundreds now. I didn't put them in with the babies at night because I was worried about the suffocation risk and A has never to this day played with a single one of them (he is now 21 months).
15/10/2014 at 10:32
I really think its down to the baby and you cant make a list until they're here and you know their likes and dislikes. I don't think dummies are essential, I never had one, but I will get a couple because he might need one to settle.
However for the sake of the thread....
I also don't think poddle pods are essential either, 'somewhere to sleeping during the day' is essential, but not necessarily a poddle pod!
I am not getting a moses basket as we don't need one, the crib is on wheels and can be moved around to wherever I am so baby naps with me. People keep asking what Moses I'm getting and are always shocked when I say I'm not!
I don't think a nightlight is essential.
I do think a bath thermometer is important, not essential as such but important. I love a really hot bath and I worry I would go too far the other way and it be too cold. We bathed my nephew at ours once and he screamed the place down! Its put me off bathtime!
15/10/2014 at 10:43
It's all down to personal preference! I would recommed people get things that others on here have said arent essential. Love my nappy bin! Keeps all the smells in and no need to fil the normal bin with stinky nappies. Loved our baby bath, I would have been confident to put Z in the big bath when she was so tiny, and it also meant it could go on the table so I didnt have to lean and hurt my back. We never used dummies, but others wouldnt do without. Z loved her bouncy chair, other babies I know hated them. You wont know until your baby is here!
15/10/2014 at 10:44
ha a whole load of pretty dresses which are now all wrong season. I also prefer my baby in babygros as I think she looks more babylike, which is odd as she obviously still looks like a baby in a teenie tiny outfit.
bottle warmer - it came in the starter pack I got but I have never used it. It somehow seems easier to just put milk in boiling water for a few minutes. Never understood how it saves time.
scratch mitts - never used
a shampoo rinse cup - never used
I stil use a bath thermometer out of paranoia but always dip my elbow in at first and rely on the elbow more. I always thought bath should be warm but not hot but after many baths in hospital they always had it to be what I thought was very hot (a machine heated it to the right temp).
Lots of baby towels - just didn't need many and after washing they don't seem softer than my usual towels an seem a bit of a waste.
Lots and lots of spare sheets for the moses basket - as they are so small they dry so quickly and so I didn't need so many. I thought I'd be changing them a few times a week with sick and poo but they don't tend to get soiled.
I guess for me it was buying too many of the same things
15/10/2014 at 10:46
I get what you mean Rod, but everyone makes a list for their 'not here yet' baby. I was stunned at the amount of things added to yours so thought it would be good to look at the flip side. We are going with the more traditional/laid back approach, so it's nice to hear from others who felt that bath thermometers, monitors, dummies, etc. were redundant.
The lovely Sweetpea gave us her Moses basket, but we wouldn't have one otherwise as I agree they aren't essential.
How's this for a non-essential purchase...I just bought a tankini for labour...odds on me selling it on BNWT in January?
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