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16/01/2011 at 01:56
19/01/2011 at 23:21
Ok, so I went to the doctors yesterday who said my lack of sleep and headaches across the back of my head are stress related. The advice... try not to stress. Helpful? Not really.
20/01/2011 at 22:19
I frequently struggle to sleep.These week had a lot of stresses,and a lot of sleepless nights,and it can quickly become a regular thing.I was awake at 4 this morning trying to work out if my kid's sleeping bags were in the loft or the shed cos they need them Friday night for scout camp.What I thought Iwas going to do about it right then I don't know,but I'm having a little trouble switching off.
Maybe giving youself some time to relax might help.Make sure you have some time to sit down in the day.You have lots to do,but take a break.I try to do the most of the things I need to do in a day before lunch,so in the afternoon there's a chance to sit down with a cup of tea while the little ones play quietly,or watch cbeebies,and that's something to look forward to..Doesn't always work,but the chance for a few minutes peace before the mad rush to get the kids home from school,tea,then baths and beds.I know you have to study when you can but give yourself time to unwind before bed.I find that helps,and maybe a bath or shower,dim lights and seriously mindless telly.Computers and games are too stimulating.
Maybe it's like with the kids,a bedtime routine,not always possible,but if you're really tired,I'm sure the washing can wait till the morning,so long as the basics are done give yourself a bit of a break.If you're overtired it's hard to sleep too.
Hope you're sleeping better soon and feeling better.
03/02/2011 at 21:26
Hi Sym, I was exactly the same as you when my youngest was born and I was trying to do coursework. In the end I had to get my husband to do a full day of childcare and housework whilst I left the house for 8 hours on a Sunday and managed to get twice as much work done as I could in double that time at home. I couldn't relax and get on with it if something in the house needed doing so I'd end up with a line full of washing, a spotless house and be exhausted with none of the work done.
I do quiet time after lunch with my oldest girls while the youngest naps, no noisy toys, no TV, Mummy is resting and not available for anything more challenging than stories and cuddles, they can play quietly with books, jigsaws, anything not battery powered and I get to recharge for about an hour before it all kicks off again! Does the girls good too and we all get through to bedtime a bit happier.
When I saw a counsellor for PND he told me to write down all the things you are thinking of when you can't get to sleep and give yourself 10mins to look at it in the morning, most of the time you find you are worrying about silly things and will gradually have less and less on the list most nights. I was also told to try just lying still with my eyes closed and concentrating on my breathing for 10 mins, most nights I can drift off doing this but I find the best thing for me is to make sure I know washing is put away before the girls go to bed and then have the evening to relax and have a warm bath then a warm milky drink before bed (works for babies!)
Hope it all works out for you! xx
04/02/2011 at 09:59
Sym,you're not alone. Years ago (before children) I had what my doctor called the worse case of insomnia he had ever seen. For almost 4 years I very rarely bothered going to bed in the end,and your gp is right it is all stress related.
I had a job which was very stressful,I was juggling staff,rotas,etc etc....I would lie awake at night recounting the petty cash,or trying to give all the girls the exact time off they wanted,even though it meant me working extra hours! I took on another job,to pay bills,but also to try and disguise my problem,I thought I needed to be more physically tired,I was wrong.
I took nytol,no joy,tried every way to relax naturally,then in the end had to take prescription drugs that are given to manic depressives. They didn't help,I ended up like a zombie.
The thing that worked in the end after working 3 jobs round the clock to avoid having to go to bed,was to sit down and give myslf a damn good talking to,I couldn't carry on like that,I had no social life,no appetite no life. I split up with my then partner,only worked 1 job,and started walking a lot more and generally forcing myself to lie in bed so my body would think I was asleep. It worked after 3 months.
Now obviously I'm not saying anything is wrong in your world as it was in mine,but you need to just give yourself a break,dont set such high standards,no worries if drying in dryer isnt dry,sort it tommorrow! It took me a long time to stop setting the bar at an un achievable height,but I've done it,and Sym,motherhood is far more stressful and much more of a juggling act than any job could ever be,but I've never been happier! Since having kids and taking the stick out of my arse as it were,I can cope with so much more now.
I know what you mean about a night out too,we're out tonight for first time in ages,where abouts are you? Any mums on here close enough to help out? I'm in chester hun,and if I'm close I'd readily sit for 2 little princesses x x
Chill out hun,get yourself in the tub an hour before bed and attempt to destress,remember my golden rule......STRESSED IS DESSERTS SPELLED BACKWARDS!!!!!!!!!!! X X
08/02/2011 at 17:14
Aww, thank you. i'm in Hull in East Yorkshire but I do pop across to Chester to the zoo a couple of time a year. Cant wait to go this year now the girls are a bit bigger. Feeling a little less stressed now as we are getting moving with the big bedroom swap. I gave 2 cars full of stuff to a lady for a car boot sale which cleared a stack of room for us to start moving stuff around. Felt a bit of a good deed do-er too. Lol. Got my latest assignment done and sent off yesterday too so that was a relief. I've decided on the family front, if my family can't put themselves out for just one night a year then sod them. They manage to rally round for each other and I do enough for them but it stops now. Been feeling much better and less stressed since then. Just need to get doctors out of the way in March and get results back then hopefull things will be well and truely sorted.
Would be nice to win the lottery though to clear a few debts but to cap it all off but I'll settle with things as they are.
Thanks so much for your kind words and support ladies. It really does mean a lot as you guys are sometimes the only people I speak to.
09/02/2011 at 09:49
Wow the zoo!!!! We're members,let me know when you go,I'll try and meet you hun! Then you and hubby can have relaxing coffee I'll entertain the girls if they'll let me!!!! I only live 15mins away from zoo,so ha I'm your new stalker!!!!!
only joking hun,but if you ever fancied a meet up,I'd be more than happy to! You sound much more positive,thats great hate hearing mum chums down!
Assignment??? What's that then? Sorry being nosey now!!!
09/02/2011 at 19:34
I'm trying to do a degree while I'm being a stay at home mum so when the girls are full-time at school I can look for a job. Gives me something to do too. It's hard going but I'm hoping it will be worth it. Because I do it through the Open University it will take about 6 years which is fine because we want the girls settled at school so Ava should be there and settled by then.
Will defo gegt in touch when we're at the zoo next time. x
09/02/2011 at 22:14
Wow very impressed!!! No wonder you're stressed though,good god,I'm lucky to get through an article in the paper!!!!!
Sounds good to me,all the best with that.
Yup contact us when you're around x
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