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19/06/2013 at 11:28
Or does it have to be on BT?
19/06/2013 at 11:32
I don't mind at all, but I guess others might be a bit upset about some topics like that.
19/06/2013 at 11:36
Go for it
19/06/2013 at 11:39
How do you decide on another one when your life is happy the way that it is, you have a little routine, no nappies, self sufficient to an extent, a lot less childcare costs?
Is it really a heart over head matter?
As time goes on, its a harder decision to make. I always wanted my L to have a brother or sister. I don't think that I am done. Arrrrgggghhhh
19/06/2013 at 11:43
Do it. Another child is so worth all the nappies, change of routine etc, especially if you dont think you are done. Also with the age gap you could potentially have it's great as the older one is slightly more independent and understanding. The sibling bond is amazing to watch too, makes me feel all warm inside ad like nothing else matters. Fluff over.
19/06/2013 at 11:44
Do you have 5 years LB? I would be looking at the same because I wouldn't start trying until Jan
19/06/2013 at 11:45
Try looking ahead to ten or so years down the line - how do you see your family then? It's worth trying to look beyond the baby stage and think more long term. I thought we were done at two but seeing my friends' family with four boys aged between 16 and 28 and how fab their family occasions are swayed me to a third.
19/06/2013 at 11:46
You know I said for three and a half years that Matilda would be a OAO.
The biggest thing for me was not to think about the pregnancy and newborn fog. Think five/ten years into the future. Is there another child in your life?
19/06/2013 at 11:49
I think so, yes.
I loved the newborn stage, not the pregnancy though.
19/06/2013 at 11:50
Our gap is 4 years 3 months and is perfect for us.
As Margot and Rusty said think about the future because the pregnancy and newborn and toddler stages can be off putting! Although saying that the pregnancy bit really does put me off plus finances and space else I'd love 3 or 4 children when I think about them as grown ups.
That's exactly how i picture things....down the line. How do i want my family to be in 5 years, 10 years, 20 years etc. I want a bisy house with loud and lively christmasses and birthdays...which to me means siblings. Even now with P as a toddler its SO much easier than when she was a tiny baby but that newborn/baby bit goes so quickly. I also want my children to grow up with siblings and have close family in the future when H and I are old and gone. That's very important to me.
I think if you have even an inkling that you aren't done then you should go for it. You will never regret a child once they are here but you might well regret not having one down the line.
I was happy with C being an only child. Definitely had no plans for another. (didn't even plan for C, I was so anti children, I never even held my nephews when they were born)
I became pg after a 2 week fling, and sadly mc. This flicked a maternal switch, and I had an intense NEED to have a baby. I had never felt broody before.
If I had followed my head, I wouldn't have had another. C was at school, I felt like I had got my life back etc, but I followed my heart, and I am so glad I did.
Having J filled a gap I didn't know was there.
Starting with the baby stuff again, after 7.5 yrs was easy TBH. I found J just slotted into our routine.
19/06/2013 at 11:53
There's 6.5 years between H's cousins and the same amount between H and his youngest brother. They are all very close and always have been in the 17 years that I've known his family. Down the line, having a sibling is worthwhile. I'm a ONO and I wish I had a sibling, but that's just my point of view.
19/06/2013 at 11:54
Is it bad to say that I don't think that I "get" children that much, I adore my one, but other people's, I am not fussed about
19/06/2013 at 11:56
Fi I think if you are even thinking about it that says it all, you're not quite there yet and do want more so go for it. Look how quickly the nappy stages etc went for us, we were back at work in no time.
I'm 100% set on L being a O&O even when his sisters are off at college uni or moved out. We're cool with that..
Er no I'm exactly the same, children annoy me when in groups
19/06/2013 at 11:57
Ha, I thought that it was just me LB.
I think that I am going to end up trying, don't you all?
Belle, I would be taking the full year and more this time haha!
19/06/2013 at 12:04
What made my mind up was a text forwarded from MrDD one day originally from a friend announcing that their daughter would be having a sibling.
Like you, life would be so much easier and we'd have more money etc if we stuck with just C, but I want C to have a brother or sister and I've now got my head round going through the whole thing again (just about). I want to be able to enjoy the newborn days too hopefully.
C asked me last week if I had a baby in my tummy, and that he would like a baby, first time he'd ever mentioned it (I think because a few of my friends have had babies recently) - quite good timing since we've started trying again!
19/06/2013 at 12:05
Yes you will. But you're not allowed to talk about it on here anymore in case it triggers something in me
I'm like that with reguards to other people's kids. I have always said "I don't like kids, apart from my own". Makes having step kids extra hard work for me.
Sounds like you definitely want another.
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