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30/01/2014 at 16:28
as the title says really?
I have just sat here listening to someone go on about someone else who is buying a new house (well a barn which she is having renovated) and how she thinks the other one is a snob cause she wants the best in the new place. It got a bit nasty for my liking and basically I couldn't disagree more. I am a "good luck to them" type of person, I don't get envious really. sometimes I wish I had more than I do, but I feel pretty lucky with my lot. When I was TTC Moly it was tough but I don't think I every got nasty about anyone having a baby (although it did upset me I kept it very much to myself and OH)
Same goes in relationships, I am not jealous or possesive of Rob at all, I don't mind where he goes or with who really, I trust him enough that he knows what is acceptable and what isn't. I couldn't waste my life worrying about what could be happening when I am not there.
30/01/2014 at 16:37
I am happy if folk are happy, and if they have/get stuff they want, good on them! I might wish *I* had it too maybe (a friend of mine was given a 3 bed house by her parents then moaned about the running costs, lol), but it doesn't stop me being happy for them, doesn't mean I am angry or don't care about them.
30/01/2014 at 16:41
No I'm not. Sometimes I wish I had someone else's waist line or such but not in a jealous way. Everything is relative and I see myself as lucky in so many ways. My h and I are very open, " wow look at her ***" kinda conversations are things we are comfortable with chatting about. I meantioned a famous actress's name the other day in the company of bil and SIL, you could have cut the atmosphere with a knife. And it was about an actress, not the woman next door or anything but because she was an old crush if bil it caused murder. I really couldn't be like that.
I'm am to some extent. For example I'm jealous of your relationship with Lauren and how her mother doesn't affect your lives like R does with ours. I'm jealous of people with straight forward lives who don't have the drama I'm currently going through. But not so much I'd get nasty about it, I just (as you know) sit and wish things could be different for me.
In terms of material things and what people have, no. H going out? Nope, wish he went out more.
30/01/2014 at 16:44
Not really, but I guess sometimes I think I wouldn't mind having what other people have got, but only in a wistful kind of way, not a nasty way.
I know people who are jealous though and I don't thinm they realise it, so maybe I just don't recognise that I am?!
30/01/2014 at 16:48
I see jealousy differently though, maybe I misuse the word. But to me jealousy would be wanting it for yourself and not for the other person. I'd like to say I admire. I know what you mean Belle but you just want things to be easier, anyone would want that
30/01/2014 at 16:49
I posted too soon there, and worded it badly too. I can't get my words out right!
30/01/2014 at 16:50
I'm not always a happy go lucky person and can sometimes feel that others have an easier time. But I don't grudge people what they have and know that if I'm not happy with my lot, well then it's up to me to change it.
I certainly don't sit and *** about people wanting to make the most of themselves and their lives - in those cases I think good on them. And when I sometimes get envious of others then I remind myself that there is things I have that others would cut their arm off for. It's all swings and roundabouts isn't it
30/01/2014 at 16:54
QS yes I think I see jealousy the same. There's nothing wrong with wanting what others have it's the begrudging them of it that's wrong.
30/01/2014 at 17:01
Yep thats what I think QS, I don't begrudge anyone anything. I have friends who have several house, don't have to work etc etc but I am not envious, I do something wish I was that lucky but I don't begrudge them. I think people end up very bitter like that.
Belle - I didn't realise you thought that of me and L, you can adopt her if you like I know it's not easy being a step parent thats for sure
30/01/2014 at 17:03
Put far better than me, thank you. I've spent far too long in the house with ill children for company.
I don't begrudge things to others, I just wish I had it too sometimes!
30/01/2014 at 18:36
I'm never envious of other peoples possessions, houses, holidays etc. but I can be jealous with people which I know stems from my own insecurities and things that have happened in the past. I'm aware that it's my own issue and is something I'm constantly working on.
30/01/2014 at 18:50
I think I get envy more than jealousy.
I think the people who work hard and have nice material things often have to sacrifice other things (in my circle of friends) and they envy my desicion to stay at home, where I might envy what they have, but not how they get it - does that make sense?!
I would get jealous if I thought H was out chatting up other girls, but hey what you don't know can't hurt you!
30/01/2014 at 18:59
A few years ago I would have said no. It's not possessions I'm jealous of but I did become jealous when trying to hard TTC and having repeat MC's. I was jealous of friends that fell pregnant by accident or as in one case a friend with a little boy who decided she wanted another baby and 3 weeks later was pregnant, and even more so that they enjoyed their pregnancy without worrying every second that it was going to end in a MC. Don't get me wrong I didn't want anything to go wrong or them to have trouble TTC, but I was envious, and hated that I felt that way.
30/01/2014 at 19:58
I'm sometimes envious of other people's houses or holidays, things like that. But I don't begrudge them having them. I did used to get irritated with a friend who had a lovely house but complained all the time about it, but I think that was more her inability to see just how nice it really was.
H has never given me any cause to be jealous - if he was out chatting up pretty girls I would but I'm confident that he's where he says he is like tonight he's at the pub with a mate.
30/01/2014 at 20:01
I occasionally feel envious of my unmarried, childless friends.
31/01/2014 at 00:20
It's possible to be both, isn't it?
My friend moved recently and her house is amazing. I'd love it, I'm jealous, but I'm absolutely chuffed to bits for her.
31/01/2014 at 08:22
I'm not a jealous person at all. I'm not jealous of people living in bigger house etc, I wish I could have a bigger house but it would mean me sacrificing my time at home and have to work full time and I'm not prepared to give that up so that's the way I look at it. I could have the bigger house and more money but I'd end up being unhappy and to me happiness is the most important thing - think I went off on a tangent there
I've got no reason to be jealous when H goes out, I trust him completely and he feels the same.
When I hear good news, my first thoughts are always good for you and then mayby you jammy bugger
31/01/2014 at 11:33
I like it when people get things for working for them - not being handed on a plate!
01/02/2014 at 08:43
I am envious of things but never used to feel jealous or possessive and was never susipicious and look where that got me! So now I'm not sure how I would feel in a relationship...
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