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14/01/2013 at 14:45
A musing really. Your life. Do or did you plan for stuff or does or did it just happen?
Friends of mine aimed to buy house at W age, get married by X age, have kids by Y. I am notoriously disorganised, life kind of happened to me rather than me happening to life - but I am doing my best to change that!How about you?
14/01/2013 at 14:48
I think I'm a bit of both. I'm quite an organised person but I don't really plan things iyswim.
14/01/2013 at 14:50
I'm a planner in everyday things, like right this is what we are doing this week; we need to go here, do this, do that, see x on x date, see y on y date kinda way. I love writing lists and ticking things off. I have to use my calendar at home as well as phone calendar. I need to see the plans, see what's going on. I plan holidays, birthday,s Christmas etc.
Apart from that, my life was kinda thrown at me and I've dealt with it. No way did I plan to fall in love with a guy who already had kids and go through the trials of the family courts but life happens and you do the best you can.
14/01/2013 at 14:53
Everyday life yes and we have a long term plan, but not about when to get married, have kids etc.
14/01/2013 at 15:00
I like to plan in general, but big things like having a house, getting married or having children are those things you just don't know - I'd have liked to have been married and started to have children by 30, but didn't meet MrDD until I was 28 and he was only 22, so it wasn't realistically going to happen that quickly!
14/01/2013 at 15:04
Yes and no. My job as a PA meant I was a big planner and I think it stems from there. I write lists and have spreadsheets for most things, but then I also like the aspect of the unplanned. And I think you can get too hung up on planning.
14/01/2013 at 15:27
Yes I have lists for lists. Not things like il be married and have kids by this age but I wanted to be a sister by the time I was 26 and I was. I have career goals and life goals, so this year my aim is to loose weight, save and do an extension. I have weekly tasks like chores, things to sort etc etc but not like by x age il be doing this iyswim
like others i like to plan and have an idea of what we are doing but that it also as it is nice to have things to look forward to.
to actually plan big life things what happens if you dont reach you target ie buy a house at x age, do you get disappointed in yourself?
i would rather aim to get those things when they happen and have fun in the middle of getting them :)
14/01/2013 at 15:59
As a teenager I planned to marry at 27, have a baby at 28 and another at 30- this is pretty close to how it actually happened but I never went out of my way to make it so. I like to be organised in everyday life though, I drive my H mad with it.
14/01/2013 at 17:52
I plan what I want in an every day way - holidays, going out, buying for birthdays etc. I like to be organised and find it easier if I know what is coming. In terms of life in general and the big things I plan what I can - for example I knew what I wanted to do at uni and where I wanted to do and that was planned and happened. I panned to buy a house once I had a full time job and I made that happen.
Other things are more difficult - I would have preferred to have got married and had children earlier but I didn't meet H until I was 27 and I am finding that baby planning isn't that easy!
14/01/2013 at 21:23
I feel like my life was taken out of my hands and I don't even know really how I got to have my lovely H and family? It was as if decisions were made for me and I just went with the flow. Obviously I have made the decisions but I could never have planned my life how it is now. 5+year ago I was out 4/5 nights a weeks pretty much always drunk!
I like to have some dates in the diary for one week to the next but other than that I just again, go with the flow. I plan more now I have children as getting up and going so to speak cant be done as easily!
15/01/2013 at 09:19
Im not a long term planner - I always just assumed that I would be married & children before Im 30.
Got married at 26 and will hopefully have a baby before Im 30.
Ive been trying, unsuccessfully for a public sector job before I start a family. Ive always wanted to work in that area and could never get past apptitude tests etc. But now Im going through security for one & on a waiting list for another so hopefully that will happen this year. I feel like I havent done what I want career wise yet but hopefully in next yr that will change. This is important to me before I begin a family.
I feel like everyone around me is falling pregnant & it hasnt been straight forward for us which is hard to deal with. But with pending jobs it was meant to be.
Weve booked a holiday for Sept, and hopfeully by end of year I will be in a position to fall pregnant and get all the maternity perks.
Also considering laser eye surgery as when we have kids I doubt I could justify the cost so I guess this year we are trying to live as much as possible! And we have a few weddings this year as well so we will just make the most of our childless situation this year.
I am a very organised person on a day to day basis - dinners, lunches, housework, gym classes etc. I dont like things messing up my plans ie a friend asked me to go for a run tonight but Im doing a body pump class so I said no & explained. She wasnt very happy but Im a creature of habit in many respects & love my body pump so thats just it.
Im not a very spur of the moment person.
15/01/2013 at 09:28
I am a planner, the list queen
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