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07/12/2012 at 22:12
Not talking about finances, circumstances etc but you as a person - are you happy with you?
I used to be a lot nicer and more patient than I am now and I think some bitterness has crept in. People always used to say to me 'you are too nice' and I think actually that was a nice place to be. I am going to try from now on to find the patience I once had.
07/12/2012 at 22:17
I'm short tempered, self conscious, quiet, not fun to be with on a night out!
I used to be bubbly, always on the go, happy go lucky! Now I'm always worrying about one thing or another!
07/12/2012 at 22:23
So what makes the change and when the hell did it happen - I just cannot figure it out? I am conscious that our children learn by example and I want them to remain as wonderful as they are now. Glad it is not just me LL x
07/12/2012 at 22:31
Yes, to a degree. I'm proud of what iv been through and that it hasn't ruined me. I feel like I'm a fairly grounded person. A bit soft maybe. I would love to be more confident in myself but maybe with age and contentment?
07/12/2012 at 22:34
Maybe the older you get and more worries you have from the real world!?
Life isn't one big party!
My mum has no self confidence what so ever and it definitely made me like I am!
07/12/2012 at 22:35
Not really. I'm impatient, I'm not that confident and I don't think I express myself well. I worry about how I'm perceived, at work etc.
I'm not sure I was always like this and I'm not sure when it changed.
07/12/2012 at 22:41
Thanks everyone. On thinking further I wonder if anyone I know would actually have noticed any difference or whether it is just me who knows, maybe my thoughts are just darker now. Don't get me wrong I still think I am quite nice and I am generally a positive and happy person but I feel the shine may have worn off!
07/12/2012 at 22:49
On the whole, yes. I wish I wasn't so sulky though.
07/12/2012 at 22:52
I used to be too soft, but having C turned me into a hard nosed moo, who no longer takes shite from people. I had to harden up to deal with all the rubbish I got from people for being a teen Mum. I think sometimes I can be TOO hard nosed, so need to find an even balance.
H thinks i'm cold, and often calls me heartless, apart from when it comes to my boys.
I used to lack confidence, which I hated, but again, having C changed that.
One thing i'd like to change is my lack of patience with people, especially my H.
07/12/2012 at 23:14
I'm not even going to answer this!
08/12/2012 at 10:03
Definitely more than I used to be. Not that I've changed that much, but I've stopped trying to be something I'm not. I'd love to be one of those people who doesn't give a s**t what anyone thinks of them though.
08/12/2012 at 16:08
I think overall yes, although I am a terrible procrastinator and wish I would just get on with things as I can end up not doing things, I'm starting to think that having a child may cure this as there isn't the time to sit thinking about things now.
I always wanted to be confident and over time I have become confident in myself and I am proud I have got to this place. H does think I'm a bit naive when it comes to judging characters, I like to think I see the bet in people!
09/12/2012 at 19:35
Yes. But I talk too much and get frustrated. I used to be very happy in my own company but seem to be losing that skill.
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