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28/01/2014 at 09:06
You may remember my moan a while back about G and her lack of help in the house. We spoke to her and she agreed to do some chores and help out in general around the house This hasn't happened and she had a massive row with her dad yesterday (and Sunday evening) ranting at him about how it's ridiculous she's expected to do chores on her two days off a week, how coming home to a list of chores is unfair, and then she even had the nerve to question why it was left to her and why we hadn't done said chores over the weekend.
As you can imagine he hit the roof. I'm ready to rip her a new @rsehole the cheeky little ****! I've not seen her and a good job! Anyway H and I have agreed she pays board / lodgings / whatever you want to call it or she can move out.
So how should we work out what she should pay? base it on a percentage of the basic utilities like gas, electric, water, tv licence etc or something else?
28/01/2014 at 09:09
I'd be more inclined to base it on a proportion of what her general income is rather than a proportion of your household costs.
Teenagers are so cheeky!
28/01/2014 at 09:15
and what proportion would that be weekender?
I started work full time at 16. My mum & dad took £25 of the £100 I earned which I thought was steep but was no doubt nowhere near the percentage of the household bills I used. However when I was 18 it turned out my parents had been saving half of what I'd been giving them to let me use for my first cars insurance, so I never whinged again lol.
As it was I moved out at 19 and bought my own house (I was earning a lot more by then), but having such a chunk of my wages gone from the start made budgeting on my own quite easy. I have an uncle who has never taken anything off his daughters, hence they were all in there mid to late 20's by the time they left and cannot budget to save their life. Paying rent when a teenager is a good habit to get them used to.
28/01/2014 at 09:21
Depends what she earns I reckon! And what her own outgoings are, e.g. if she has bus fares to college/work, driving lessons, whatever I'd take that off first. I'd say somewhere between 20-30% though?
28/01/2014 at 09:27
BabylonglegsIAs it was I moved out at 19 and bought my own house (I was earning a lot more by then), but having such a chunk of my wages gone from the start made budgeting on my own quite easy. I have an uncle who has never taken anything off his daughters, hence they were all in there mid to late 20's by the time they left and cannot budget to save their life. Paying rent when a teenager is a good habit to get them used to.
28/01/2014 at 09:42
I would look at what it would cost her to rent a room in a house locally, where she'd have to do all her own 'stuff', all of it. I'd knock it down a little bit to be overly fair. And then agree any other issues such as whether you expect her to do household chores or whether she simply does her own things.
My mum took 40 a week when I was 16. In 1992! I thought she was mean but she put half by without my knowing and I got it back for flat deposit. I moved out at 18 as couldn't stick it.
28/01/2014 at 09:50
My Mum took £25 a week off me when I left school and got a job. She was so soft, even when my bf moved in, and we had C, she still only took £25 a week off us, but made us save X amount each week, for when we moved out.
28/01/2014 at 09:52
Get that poster enlarged, put it in her room. Job done.
28/01/2014 at 10:05
I would say about 20-25% of her earnings would be fair. Definitely set some rules as to what this 'board' includes - i.e. is she to do her own washing/buy her own food etc.
28/01/2014 at 10:09
I paid rent pretty much as soon as I started earning. I was an apprentice and earning £55 a week, mum and dad took £10 of that as board. I then had to pay for a driving lesson and then the other £20 was mine to do with what I liked. It doesn't sound like a lot, but it got me in to the habit of earning, and paying board, and budgeting. Oh and when H and i bought our first house, my parents gave me back the money i'd been giving them as board so that we could put it towards furniture etc.
How much roughly does G earn? Then we could give you an idea of a percentage that she could pay board, what other out-goings does she have?
28/01/2014 at 10:13
I would say it depends how much she pays for herself in terms of transport clothes etc..
When I worked (weekend jobs, uni holidays etc) my dad didn't take any rent but I paid for all my clothes, nights out, the internet, transport etc but When I was at uni I paid for everything myself with my student loan plus what I had saved whilst working. I wouldn't have asked my dad for anything because he hadn't charged me rent so I could save.
I would say a percentage of what ever G earns is fair. maybe 20% to start with.
As for what sh said yo your H I would be fuming and very tempted to start leaving some things suchas her laundry, for her to do herself she soon wil when she has no clean clothes.
Does she realise how foolish she sounds questing why she should do jobs on her days off what does she think you and your H do?
28/01/2014 at 10:25
Believe me people we are doing NOTHING for her now. I mean nothing. She will need to do her own laundry / dinners / get herself to and from work everything. She's cut her ties with H he is furious.
She earns on average £150 a week. All we've asked her to do up until now is clean the bathroom and do the ironing. She doesn't have to pay for travel as she gets a free bus to college and daddy or boyfriend has been taking her to and from work.
Her phone bill is £32 a month which has told her last night we are no longer paying for. So what do we reckon?
28/01/2014 at 10:31
That's fair. More than fair actually. She is lucky you have been paying it up to now anyway.
I paid my own phone bill from when I was 17, along with doing my own washing/ironing etc. When I had C, and was at home, I took over 80% of housework, cooking etc. My Mum really missed me when I moved out, haha.
28/01/2014 at 10:34
How old is she Belle?
I'd say £50 a week if you buy her food etc. Maybe less if she does chores?
28/01/2014 at 10:37
If she earns around £150 I'd take £40 - £50 off her I think
28/01/2014 at 10:40
1stBaby she's refusing to do chores as it's ridiculous she's expected to on her 2 days off a week! We gave her the choice a few weeks back you help out and do TWO chores (bathroom and ironing) or you pay board. Here we are.
28/01/2014 at 10:41
Is that after tax? How old is she? I'd take £70 a month, which would still leave her £125 a week.
What Counter said about putting some of it away for when she does eventually move out. I intend to do that with mine. Dependent on the circumstances of her departure you can either gift her back the rent money or go a a mini break with your H.
28/01/2014 at 10:42
I'd ask for £30 a week, that's 20%, she should def pay her own phone bill too, that's reasonable to expect. Stop doing her washing and ironing, she provides own toiletries, is she going to provide her own food? If not I'd still make meals otherwise it'll get annoying when you go to get stuff from the fridge and she's used it.
28/01/2014 at 10:43
You know you should also stop doing stuff around the house on your days off too, she might realise just how much it takes to keep a house ticking over when it turns into a sh*t pit with no clean clothes, no food in the fridge.
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