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16/03/2014 at 11:46
I posted one of those pictures on FB that says if you ahve a family a roof over your head and food in your fridge than be thankful for all the riches you have.
My youngest sister posted this in response to it:
'You do have a family that love you very much and always have.'
'I didn't question that, I was posting it to remind other people of all the riches that they have in their lives, but thanks for reminding me because the 3ft body clinging to me through the night would not have been reminder enough It is interesting how you read it though - did you think it was a plaintive cry for help from me as opposed to a celebration of what I have?'
She then replied with this:
'Oh *** you then. I meant us, me Adam my daughter YOUR FAMILY even though your obviously better off without us. I didn't think in a million years it was a cry for help i was just making the point you have a family that you haven't given a *** about for going on 10 years but myself and Adam still love you and try and make the effort. Maybe there were times over the years where we could have done with a family member or a friend and didn't have it but Im really glad you have everything you need *** everyone else then that's the way to live. My daughter is too amazing for you anyway family is great and Im glad you haven't bothered to be part of mine.'
Is this a too strong a reply?
'*** if this is how you make an effort by swearing at me and being rude than thank goodness I wasn't having a cry for help. Stop transfering your emotions on to me. You are an adult now with a daughter of your own, you're obviously very happy and if that is the case try "making the effort" without the swear words and the random passive aggressive messages. I will no longer put up with the guilt trips for any aspect as to how your life has turned out. We make choices in life and we live with them.'
I had just wanted to tell her to *** off back.
16/03/2014 at 12:01
No go for it. Or just reply with ha if that's family support it's no wonder we dont have much to do with each other. Then block her.
Is this the one that was funny with you after your step dad died?
16/03/2014 at 12:04
Bingo! I'm not over reacting then, that this is really bloody rude and over the top? I'm not her mother honestly I'm not and she treats me like I am. She sends so many passive aggressive messages and I've had enough quite frankly.
16/03/2014 at 12:23
Personally, I'd delete everything after the picture. Rise above. I am squeamish about Facebook conflict though, and avoid it (including other peoples') at all costs.
I suspect she'd be more wound up by it disappearing and you having no interest in her reply, than anything you may say. She's a charmer!
16/03/2014 at 12:28
Part of me wants to keep it up because it shows how ridicoulsy rude and offensive she has been, because our relatives can see it as well. It shows how rude and childish she is and quite frankly why should I put up with tha and at least it shows why I would be ratehr fed up with her.
16/03/2014 at 17:26
I'm with counter. Replying just opens a public slanging match and from what I can tell on here you're better than that. If you feel the need to reply I'd just say something along the lines of "thank you for sharing your opinion" or "I'm sorry you feel that way" but nothing more even if she replies again. Those who know you will see the thread and think nothing of it other than your sister has issues. Those who don't know you (but who may see it in her FB page) won't have any ammunition to make conclusions about you. Ultimately whatever you write is only one dimensional and misses any intonation, inflection or emotion which conveys more meaning than just the words so you're leaving yourself open to misinterpretation
16/03/2014 at 17:53
I have chosen to not reply and have blocked her. And thank you all KittyKat I genuinely appreciate that comment, it's never the sort of thing I would do getting involved in a public slanging match although I would LOVE to
16/03/2014 at 19:27
Hey Qi - I think you did the right thing not to rise to it. Plus nothing annoys somebody more than not getting a reaction, and not something you'd want displayed over your fb
16/03/2014 at 19:34
I have left her message up though
16/03/2014 at 22:30
You're welcome! The hypothetical slanging matches I have in my head wof love an airing but I think nobody sold speak to me ever again if I said what was on my mind!
16/03/2014 at 22:54
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