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16/07/2013 at 17:41
G has finished school and has been spending most of her days out and about. H is wondering what time curfew he should set her for when she's not dossing down at someone's house. He struggles with the fact she is 16 and doesn't need to be home at 6pm as he worries about her getting buses etc especially after the car incident.
I lived on my own at 16 and was way wilder than any teen I currently know of
16/07/2013 at 17:54
Is 11 reasonable? Early enough so that there's public transport still running, late enough so that she feels like she's being treated as an adult?
I have no idea, Coco is *never* being let out
16/07/2013 at 17:59
See he would freak at that, totally freak but it's all part of growing up.
16/07/2013 at 18:05
You're right. I think it also depends on how well behaved kids are too - I'll admit to being a bit of a goody-goody, and as such, never really had a curfew as I only really went to the pub and didn't have a boyfriend, so my parents never really demanded I was back before a certain time as I always was . I guess he could always say half 9/10 and if she proved trustworthy, extend it?
16/07/2013 at 18:10
I was going to say around 10. Mind you I was a bit of a rebel by the time I was 16 and was a regular in the pub!
16/07/2013 at 18:11
I was going to say same as Bluewater. Make it half nine or ten then as long as she's coming in in time and behaving then I'd extend. Might be worth a chat with her friends parents to get a common agreement, so no one thinks they are being treated unfairly?
16/07/2013 at 18:27
I really struggle with this ... no one agve a *** what I was doing at 16 so could come home at 3.30 am as long as I didn't wake anyone up.
I like the idea of a common agreement with friends parents.
16/07/2013 at 18:36
Don't know parents as all out of area due to her school. I'm happy with 9 I'm general as that's the time h and I unwind and her sister goes bed. Later if doing something
16/07/2013 at 18:43
That's tricky as I was out clubbing til 2 at that age. As long as my parents knew where I was and I said I was home once I got in they were ok with it.
16/07/2013 at 18:53
That's fine wh as its nights out ie something going on. I mean general day to day being out and about shopping dossing in park etc
16/07/2013 at 18:56
I would say 10 for what you're talking about as that is when we go to bed (old farts). However I was exactly the same as WH.
16/07/2013 at 19:00
I'm going to suggest 9 so she doesn't disrupt her sister too much cos they share a room. Other nights can be discussed but she is more a gathering type girl than clubber
16/07/2013 at 19:11
I would of said 10pm, its not too late but late enough to do stuff and not disturb her sister too much.
Although in the holidays I would probably say 10.30 as her sister will probably still be awake???
16/07/2013 at 19:33
9pm seems early for 16? Everyone's different though I suppose, I would say more 10.30 - 11
16/07/2013 at 19:40
I think 9 and then see how it goes x
16/07/2013 at 19:47
9 seems very early for me, I would have said 11 or midnight. But I lived in a lot quieter area
16/07/2013 at 20:01
Oh god. Like Coco my babies are NEVER going out. Until they leave home. Which H has told them they can't do either .
I think I'd want her home before I went to bed, so by ten on normal days, with negotiation for events/special occassions etc
16/07/2013 at 20:12
Id also start with 9. If she is well behaved and punctual, consider making it later.At least if she is on time at 9, you can push it back, but if you start with 10, there isn't much time for her to work towards iyswim?
16/07/2013 at 20:15
Exactly and again she shares with her sister and don't want her disturbed too much. They fight enough as it is
16/07/2013 at 21:11
I'd say 9, I think my curfew was 10 at that age but I had lots of older friends that used to make sure I got home ok etc
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