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11/02/2013 at 12:18
11/02/2013 at 12:19
Ooo, a post for me
Hello! How are you and your gorgeous girl doing?
11/02/2013 at 12:24
muddling through, she is such a character, I love this age, 3 going on 13!! how are you and C, plans for any more yet?
11/02/2013 at 12:34
Aww, I love all your pictures of her. They are so lovely at this age, although equally difficult too!
I'm generally fine, muddling through the same I guess. We had a drunken conversation a couple of weeks ago about #2 when we went away for a night (all the way to Bosworth!!), although after 3 bottles of wine between us I can't remember the outcome I really need to speak to him again at some point. We wouldn't start TTCing for at least a couple of months though as the birth would have to be after December since he'd be so busy at work in the run up to Christmas.
How's your course going? All ok with your H and your other children and grandchildren?
11/02/2013 at 12:44
sounds like a plan.... and exciting! course is going fine... I think. not sure how well I am doing, I could be failing badly but no one will tell me lol H is an ar$e, he isn't really but we really struggling still. all the other kids are fine as is the grandchildren, the babies are 7 weeks old now... goes too fast
11/02/2013 at 12:46
Well based on the pictures you post, it looks like you're doing well! Sorry you and your H are struggling, is there anything you can do to sort it out and make sure things don't get too bad? 7 weeks?? I bet it's lovely watching them grow up, and great they're so close in age to each other!
11/02/2013 at 13:01
I really don't know whether we can fix it, we have both changed so much over the last couple of years... he is lazy and unmotivated, I understand he works hard but he has no interest in me or what I'm doing. when I first took this course his first words were 'whats the point?' he no longer encourages me to do anything, if I am feeling down he has started to snap at me, I know I am not the easiest person to live with but I seem to p!ss him off all the time. I tell him how I feel and he snaps at me then too... as for me, I have become a little more confident so i am wanting to go out a little more, but he is just not interested. Sex has dwindled to virtually nothing so we aren't even intimate. We have and still have a lot of money worries, from when H lost his job year before last.. I just can't see a light at the end of it.
sorry that turned into a bit of a rant lol
11/02/2013 at 13:06
Oh SM is it worth trying to put aside some time to have a proper talk, or even considering relate? The money worries can't help, but that's been there for a long time so it can't just be that.
I'm so happy that you're getting some confidence and going out, but I really wish it wasn't at the detriment of your relationship with your H. xx
11/02/2013 at 13:11
relate is no good, H wouldn't go besides we couldn't afford it, H is on a zero hour contract, he has been sent home from work early most of this month, we are going to struggle to find the rent money as his wages wont cover it which in turn I borrow it from my parents and then I have to pay it back... vicfious circle.
I honestly have tried talking to him, he just doesn't listen, he just thinks I am being over dramatic and there is nothing wrong.
11/02/2013 at 13:41
I wish I knew what to suggest and wasn't so crap with the advice. Hopefully the work will pick up for him - is he looking for anything else instead??
11/02/2013 at 13:44
he has been looking for months, there just isn't anything out there at the moment... there is nothing really to suggest, it's been therapeutic to write it down... it will go one way or the other. whatever happens, I will be ok, it willl be hard but I have been through worse
11/02/2013 at 14:39
I'm glad you've got something out of writing it down at least, I'm nearly always on here or FB if you need to chat any time xx
11/02/2013 at 16:42
you have been one of the biggest supports to me through all my woes, you probably don't even realise how much you have helped me through some of the worse nights of my life, just by being there. For someone like me that has no one, it means more than you will ever know. Thank you
(and the others that have helped me!)
11/02/2013 at 16:44
SM, you've made me all teary now - I just wish I could do more xxx
11/02/2013 at 17:13
no body can do anything more except me, I have come a long way since I found hitched and the people in it. I still have a long way to go and I know I will probably die before I get there but at least I gave it a go with the help of you lot. Don't get teary - be happy that you have made a difference to someones life... not everyone can boast that. I still hate myself and who I am but there is a spark of something returning, something I can't remember ever feeling since before that day.
enough with the twee shite now, you know I loves ya even though I don't know you...
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