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08/10/2013 at 20:46
I went out with a close friend last night and she told me an old school friend of ours had had a stillborn son a few weeks ago. I haven't seen this girl for sometime but felt so sad for her that I decided to send a private message to her on FB, just saying I know we hadn't spoken for some time but I wanted to let her know how so sorry I was to hear of the loss of her son. I know she's seen the message, but she's not replied, I'm not really expecting her too but now I am really worrying that I've overstepped the mark and it was the wrong thing to do. Do you think I did the wrong thing? Poor girl I can't stop thinking about her. x
08/10/2013 at 21:06
Everything is probably too raw for her to put her emotions into words, even gratitude for your thoughtful sentiment and best wishes. It could also sadly be the case that she knows people are discussing her private life and is a bit hurt, give her time and hopefully she will reply, if not you were only messaging her with the best of intentions xxx
08/10/2013 at 21:11
Thanks Luna, I did think that she might be hurt by us talking but as she has put a picture of her husband and their son as her FB profile I felt rude not to acknowledge it, iyswim? I get that she won't want to reply, I'm not worried about that but I just worry that I shouldn't have messaged at all.
08/10/2013 at 21:12
No, I think maybe she just might not be able to face replying just now but might a bit later. You haven't done anything wrong it was meant with the best intentions xx
08/10/2013 at 21:15
Thanks for replying CP xx
08/10/2013 at 21:20
I would agree with everyone else, she's probably just too upset to reply straight away. I always appreciated people getting in touch with me, even if I didn't reply always.
08/10/2013 at 21:22
ahh yes I see what you mean, she probably just cant face replying to people at the moment, you did a lovely thing, I really wouldn't worry too much. I think its far nicer to achknowledge her loss and offer support/thoughts than ignore it xxx
08/10/2013 at 21:24
Thanks ladies. x
08/10/2013 at 21:36
I agree with Imp. I appreciated all the messages I received, I expect she will reply when she is ready.
09/10/2013 at 08:28
I agree with everyone else. She probably appreciates the fact you took the time to let her know you're thinking of her, which was a lovely thing to do x
09/10/2013 at 08:32
I don't think you were wrong, it was a lovely thoughtful thing to do, but probably a bit raw for her to reply at the moment xx
09/10/2013 at 20:56
Thanks for all the replies, especially to those of you who have lost a precious little one xx
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