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30/06/2010 at 21:54
07/07/2010 at 11:23
I've got to say, I was totally appalled by the article. I was astounded that anyone would publish it! I can see what she was trying to achieve, taking a light hearted approach to elective formula feeding, but she ended up giving an awful view of both formula feeding Mums and breast feeding Mums. I think a lot of formula feeders would be upset at the assumption that they FF because they want their 'fun bags' to themselves and they would rather have a glass of wine than BF. I also think that a lot of breastfeeders (myself included) would be offended at being portrayed as having their breasts around their waist.
I absolutely adored breastfeeding. It was wonderful to be so close and snuggly, and I was astounded by what my body could do! It was never a question of whether I would or could, I just did. And I never ever thought of it as sharing my breasts! They can be used for both. Dan enjoyed my extra curves when I was BF and I didn't feel weird about it. I really think it says a lot about someone when they think BF is 'creepy'. For me, it was the only option, and it was the best one at that. All the health benefits spoke volumes to me, and that was my choice.
I really can't understand why there's such fuss over BF/FF. It's something that's baffled me from the moment I got pregnant and started experiencing the 'debate'. To me, there is no debate. Some people breastfeed, some people formula feed. That's their choice as a parent. I can't understand why other parents are so judgemental and vocal about their judgements! Surely we're all in the same boat, just trying to do our best. Why try and make someone else feel terrible about their choice? I do wish there was more help for women who try to BF, and I get the feeling that a lot of the nurses/midwives in hospital are quick to hand out formula if BF isn't going well, which I feel is detrimental. We need to try and get the 20% of women who never try to breastfeed to give it a go.
I am all for free press and right to free speach, but I do feel that the head editor has made a mistake in allowing her deputy editor to write and print something to utterly devastating to breatfeeders. Admitting she didn't breastfeed "because I wanted my body back. (And some wine). . . I also wanted to give my boobs at least a chance to stay on my chest rather than dangling around my stomach" is just an awful light to put breastfeeding in. One of the most natural things in the world suddenly steals your body, stops you from having something you find enjoyable and sags your breasts. All of which is total rubbish. My breasts sagged from pregnancy, not breastfeeding. I got my body back from the breastfeeding (I highly doubt the baby weight would have dropped off as fast as it did had I not BF), and I managed to have the odd tipple, if I wanted it. I'm not a massive fan of alcohol, so I didn't miss it, but I found the whole breastfeeding experience so much more enjoyable than a glass of some wine...
I think it speaks volumes about our society when a women decides not to do something as healthy and natural as breastfeeding in favour of a glass of wine and keeping her sex life in tact. And how does she know it would be detrimental to her sex life?! As I said, Dan loved my extra curves and I found our sex life totally unaltered by my BF (the crying baby and utter exhaustion, however, did put a bit of a dent in it!!)
Anyway, I could yabber on for ages about this! I wish they had thought twice before publishing it, but it's done now. Bel Mooney is wonderful!
07/07/2010 at 14:19
I have to say, I didn't breastfeed for very long. My daughter wasn't feeding well - she was taking min 90 minutes per feed and was screaming again 30 minutes later, day and night. Midwives and HV told me it was colic, but with the benefit of hindsight I don't believe them! It wasn't a pleasant or fulfilling experience for me personally. She was hungry day and night, I got no sleep at all, my husband was exhausted, I was stressed and I'll admit, I was beginning to struggle with the 24 hour pull on my body. I decided to try formula and was greeted the next morning with a different baby... she slept, she didn't cry all the time, I could sleep some and my hubby could help out a bit.
All that said, this was my very personal experience - I know plenty of mums who have successfully breatfed for the recommended 6 months and I commend them. I believe it is a good thing to breastfeed but I don't think I've done the wrong thing by bottle feeding, I just think I did a different thing. It would be wonderful if the 20% of mums who never try did. For the record, if I have another I would try again - after all all babies are different -but I wouldn't beat myself up if it didn't work again.
09/07/2010 at 21:46
I successfully breastfed ds1 for 18months, but dd and ds2 i only managed 8weeks each for various reasons.
We are too busy beating each other up about the choices that we all make, that we cant actually see that each and every one of us makes the RIGHT choice for ourselves and our circumstances! I would never change any of the decisions that I made regarding how any of my children were fed, as my GP told me when I stopped feeding dd-she wont remember!!
09/07/2010 at 21:57
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