General Chat, Products & Comps <
09/05/2013 at 19:38
I try to keep out of them and let E fight her own battles unless I feel I have to, which I have a few times.
E has come to me tonight to tell me about something that has happened at school, my mam picked her up from school and she told her about it straight away which shows its been playing on her mind. She told me what happened and that the teacher had to speak to the girls involved and apparently wrote up a bit of a report about it and said if they didn't sort it then he would speak to the parents involved.
From what E says its quite serious the things this girl, who is meant to be E's friend is saying (although I've never liked her) and think that I should of been informed by the school.
I don't see this girls mam at the school so couldn't really speak to her if I wanted but I think I'm going to ring the school to speak to the teacher to see what he has to say and if it matches E's story.
Do you get involved? If so, at what point?
09/05/2013 at 19:41
I'm not at that stage yet but if its something important or making you feel uneasy then I think I'd call the school
09/05/2013 at 19:43
Thanks LR, girls are bloody hard work.
She's 9 btw.
09/05/2013 at 19:58
With school stuff, yes.
C is very sensitive, teamed with his learning difficulties, if he has something on his mind/troubling him, it has an impact on his school work. Therefore, I like to get to the bottom of things ASAP.
09/05/2013 at 20:01
That's understandable AK. E can usually give as good as she gets but she said she had been crying today which is unlike her.
09/05/2013 at 20:04
I'd definitely phone/go in then.
09/05/2013 at 20:16
I'm at work tomorrow but I'm going to phone or my mam is going to go in.
09/05/2013 at 20:43
Yes I'd phone/go in. I don't tend to get involved and try to leave L to it - she's 7 so abit younger. But I've had to force myself to stay out of things as things I've heard kids say upsets me and I thought L would be upset but I've now realised those sorts of things go over her head, while I stew over it all day!!! Annoys me when it involves someone I don't really like too! Hope its all ok and not too serious !
09/05/2013 at 20:44
Oh sorry missed the bit about her crying, yes I'd def ring. Hope she's ok xxx
09/05/2013 at 20:58
It's hard knowing when to bite your tongue or say something.
09/05/2013 at 21:24
Hell yeah I get involved. I am sure I have a rep in the staff room as a troublesome Mum, but frankly I care not. If they can't communicate problems in the classroom effectively as they have been known not to in the past then they will get one of my emails - I email the Head if I can't get to the school to talk it through with them, I always get a proper explanation then.
Fortunately these problems *toucheswood* have lessened as she's grown up and E only has 47 days left at this school and then it's on to the next battle ground.
10/05/2013 at 11:08
Sshh I'm dreading her going into secondary school.
I spoke to her teacher this morning, he said he thought he would have me on the phone this morning as he said both E and the other girl were pretty upset. From what I gathered he feels the other girl is more at fault but neither of them will budge on their story so he can't say for definate. Anyway I'm glad I spoke to him.
10/05/2013 at 11:14
Absolutely I get involved especially if it's with the school and they aren't communicating with us or ding what they say they will. When G was in year 7 she was being bullied. She told teacher after teacher after teacher. Nothing was done. We went up the school and were basically fobbed off. Something to do with no evidence so they don't know who to believe. H told the school there and then if it happens again G will be smacking the main girl right in the mouth and then something will be done about it. The school threatened to call the police - was a big hoo-ha, but if they won't do anything she had to fend for herself.
Recently K has been having little rows with her "best mate" it's all over bloody pictures on instagram and shouts out for this girl and that. The girl sent K a text saying "I hope you're happy now, I've just cut myself" I said do not respond, do not get into it with the girl. She's clearly troubled and wants attention and needs help. Go to school tomorrow and tell your teacher. If it's not logged then it can be twisted that you were bullying her.
10/05/2013 at 11:44
Its really hard, isn't it knowing when to step in or not.
SW - good to have spoken to the school. If it was me and I could catch both girls in the playground at the beginning or end of school I would talk to them both say how sad you are to hear that they have fallen out and how we need to speak kindly to our friends. I think children need to be reminded by their parents sometimes (and not blaming either child over the other - if you see what I mean).
Belle - I have to say I'm dreading the days when its all social media - so much harder to police because even when they're at home someone can still be getting at them via the computer/mobile phone, etc.
10/05/2013 at 11:51
Cedar that is why H won't let her have a Facebook account. He didn't realise she could communicate with people via Instagram, and nither did I until I signed up and now watch her account. I can't see messages and stuff but I can see when she's putting pictures on at 2am etc. He's banned her from it so many times.
10/05/2013 at 11:59
Belle, I'm already dreading social media, scares the sh!t out of me.
Cedar the girl E was arguing with was saying really serious stuff and the teacher said he told her how serious it was etc but I still think he should be speaking to her parents. My mam is going to go in tonight and speak to him about it.
10/05/2013 at 12:52
Sounds like it was definitely serious enough for you to get involved, I think you did the right thing. This is one part about school that I hadn't bargained for before F started, all this arguing and falling out between friends, it's a nightmare!
Meant to say hope you get it sorted and that E is feeling better about it asap.
Continues below ad
with our partner Childcare.co.uk
Nice to see you! Please do nose around, sign up and join in.