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14/02/2013 at 13:26
Well maybe not row but get the whole "we never have it enough" debate?
God my H has just fecked me off. He's said something about something and I know the underlying issue is the fact we've not had it for about a week. I'm not in the mood at 5am when he's poking me in the back and we don't tend to go to bed at the same time as he's often still working during the week. So really the only time we have is the weekends and that's if we are lucky to get a lay in or if SD is out at a mates.
He's being a d!ck and I'm now proper peed off.
Please tell me we're not alone.
14/02/2013 at 13:37
All. The. Time.
We don't row but my H might make a comment like what your H has about not having enough recently, which we haven't in the last few weeks but we both haven't made much of an effort so I would tell him that.
Although we don't have a teenager we have E who is usually still awake later on in the evening so its off putting having an ear out for her or not making too much noise etc and then we can't be bothered at 10.30/11pm when we go to bed.
14/02/2013 at 13:41
How do you fix it Fi? He's royally peed me off, but is now saying I'm taking what he said the wrong way. Gggrrrrr
SW we have both agreed to make more of an effort, and Saturday night we did the whole bath together thing. It's now Thursday and feck me we're not having enough sex. I'm always tired blah fooking blah.
14/02/2013 at 13:48
Yep all the time here, but in his defence it is a bit lacking as I am either tired or not feeling great at the moment and therefore not "sexy" I don't want it to be soemthing that is done in way of a chore but I do worry he will go else where sometimes (all the time!)
He has always had a sex drive higher than mine but things were never going to stay like they were when we first got together and used to be at it several times a night!
Men see sex as affection in my mind where as women don't which I think is a lot of the battle. He should be appreciating you are making the effort at the moment instead of moaning!
14/02/2013 at 13:55
That's a really good way of putting it actually hon, they do see it as affection and if they ain't getting a good seeing too we clearly don't love them. Whereas id be over the moon with a snog & cuddle on the sofa.
Gah! I think part of it with us is when we have it good its GOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOD iyswim, so a quick fumble in the morning before the kids wake up really doesn't cut it for me and it does seem like a chore. He was working til gone 10pm last night, was all sweaty and stinky and wonders why I didn't jump his bones?!
14/02/2013 at 13:57
My H always does but in a joking way as he thinks it won't get him in trouble. The other day my H complained that he doesn't get it enough and I had to remind him wed had sex that morning!!! Id say we only get to do it once a week if lucky but sometimes only once in two weeks maybe, I asked him and he said he honestly thinks we have sex once every 5 weeks if we're lucky- they really do think so differently to us!
14/02/2013 at 14:04
All the time in this house. H is a nympho. I have no desire to match his drive, especially at the moment. A crap pregnancy doesn't make me want it and I reckon we have done it about 10 times since I fell pregnant. It went down hill anyway since moving in with PIL as we don't get any privacy. It's always the underlying problem to H's moods.
14/02/2013 at 14:07
Umm here its me that is the one who wants it more often. My H works super hard and long hours though so is often tired and I need to accept that. He is the one that inititiates it mostly though.
We always have a cuddle on the sofa though and I do love a good snog!
14/02/2013 at 14:10
Yep, we do too. Although normally it's just a sarcastic comment from him about not having it enough. When he does i tend to reply that if he came to bed at a reasonable time rather than sitting up and watching sky sports news he might have more opportunities.
14/02/2013 at 14:13
Chids this is our thing too. I don't want to sit up and watch some stupid jungle / aircraft / auction / hillbilly / drug programme so go to bed and read my book. I then get dug out cos I'm ging to bed early. Can't frickin win!
14/02/2013 at 14:14
I hate kissing! Like snog kissing.
My H just can't get it right and i just don't like it! Is that wrong? He can't breathe through his nose and its just all wrong!
(Don't quote that!)
Luckily we both have quite a low sex drive so we are fine plodding along as we are twice a week maybe. H normally initiates it as well.
I often lay there feeling a bit horny but then think ah sod it i can't be bothered!
14/02/2013 at 14:21
I tell my H, get upstairs now and you'll get some, much later and you wont!
14/02/2013 at 16:28
No, I don't think he'd dare. Then he wouldn't get any.
14/02/2013 at 16:36
what pip said!
14/02/2013 at 16:59
He will in a jokey way, poor guy though its been ages, I'm on two lots of antibiotics and feeling cr@p so it just isn't happening and luckily appart from a few non serious comments he has been great. It must be hard havin a teen in the house luckily our eldest is a six year old who sleeps like a log!
14/02/2013 at 18:07
No, its never something we've rowed about.
14/02/2013 at 19:34
we do occasionally, but it's me that complains... H really isn't interested in sex, to the point where I think he just doesn't fancy me in that way anymore
14/02/2013 at 20:08
Not really. He moaned the other week as big bad me didnt want to dtd after working 11 hours with no break then coming in and cleaning up the sh1t tip of a house he'd left. But generally he doesn't moan and we don't row about it...we just row about everything else
14/02/2013 at 20:30
It is the only thing we ever row about!
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