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16/06/2013 at 20:18
I can't do anything about it other than report him to the police, which is I guess going a step too far?
She isn't tall enough for it, she doesn't weigh enough for it and she isn't old enough. I said did he get it checked at Halfords when I saw he had her in it and he got aggressive saying Halfords, what are you on about? He had forgotten her teddy as well so he had to go home for it and bring it to our house so I hid at a friend's hosue for an hour to avoid him at the house. We got back and he had tied a carrie bag to the door handle. It took ages to undo and was so over the top. When we went inside I then threw up because I was so wound up.
16/06/2013 at 20:45
I wouldn't let U go in the car/to him for the weekend until he gets a suitable car seat. I know he will kick off but her safety is not worth compromising. I feel for you having this constant battle with him, why is HE so bitter and twisted about everything??
16/06/2013 at 20:57
Absolutely what lb said. No way would i let her go until he had a proper seat. Even if he causes a huge fuss, it is not worth the risk.
16/06/2013 at 21:00
QI can you ask him to use your car seat? Perhaps showing him the news report of that woman whose child was injured might persuade him? There is a conciliatory way of saying this that doesn't make it his fault.
16/06/2013 at 21:06
QI, you really need to stand up to him on this one. If it was just a booster tell him all the facts and refuse to let her travel in he car. If any other adult had told him this he would probably listen, but because it was you he just sees you as being awkward.
Are you sure it wasn't one of those combined seats?
16/06/2013 at 21:10
Double check that it is the wrong one first. My H wouldnt have a clue if a child was in the wrong seat so dont jump on him about it until you know for usre. If it is the wrong one refuse her to go with him in that seat until he gets a suitable one.
16/06/2013 at 21:13
He has a five point proper one for her that he has used until I saw today. I have no idea why he has changed car seat. He was pushing for B to go in a HBB for ages. B went into a HBB at 29 months because he was so tall and we went to Halfords and was sent to the largest one in the area to try and work out what to do. They suggested the HBB because of his height and he was jsut the right weight. U isn't as tall as he was. I know because her ears haven't reached the top of the seat the way B's had.
16/06/2013 at 21:15
It may be he has done it to push for a confrontation and blame me for stopping access to the children.
16/06/2013 at 22:32
We have a graco hbb that is min weight 15kg and min height 95cm. This is lower than other hbb's I think. My daughter is roughly same age as yours and meets these guides. I know as we've just measured her as she's been asking when she can use it! Not that I'm happy with her in it....but wondered if the guide height/weight would help you?
16/06/2013 at 22:52
Oh bloody hell QI the trials you have to go through. This is one where I agree that it just cannot be left. As 1stbaby and Leela have said there is a slim chance it may be one that in the eyes of the law is suitable. Given you only normally contact (apologies if this is still not the case) by email I would say that you should email and ask for peace of mind can he let you know which seat it is as you have heard some horror stories recently which he may not have read about where weight was a key issue in an accident involving a child in an ill fitting seat.
17/06/2013 at 06:13
QI you really shouldn't be intimidated now. He has no hold over you, you're your own independent woman! Explain as be may genuinely not realise. If he's still a *** about it don't let him take her. You have a valid reason, nothing to be afraid of. You're doing the safest thing for your child
17/06/2013 at 07:22
Maybe I shouldn't be MS - but I am still frightened of him.
I will try emailing him.
17/06/2013 at 08:49
Email him and keep a copy of the email. Send him links to anything appropriate informing him that U shouldn't be in that type of carseat yet because it's illegal. I think this is the story Cedar was referring to - www.dailymail.co.uk/.../Mother-partially-blame-year-old-daughters-horrific-injuries-car-crash-wrong-booster-seat.html
If he wants to argue about it with you then you're not the one that will look unreasonable if he wants to bring it up further down the line.
17/06/2013 at 09:28
I immediately thought of that article Sshh has just posted when I read this, and emailing is probably the best way to converse since you'll have it all in writing - plus a link to the law on weights for the different car seats www.childcarseats.org.uk/.../index.htm He really is being a complete ar$e at the moment x
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