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16/02/2013 at 10:18
I was looking back on my previous threads and just wondered how your friend is doing?
16/02/2013 at 11:25
Ah thanks for asking.
Not great, she went back after lots of discussions re counselling and anger management. I went with her to see if she could get any help with regard to housing etc from the council and they basically said, your children need to be in the family home so take them back. Her mum is useless an can't be bothered to help, although she doesn't know that he pushes her about she thinks it's just a bad row but I think deep down she knows and turns a blind eye.
She felt he had no where to turn, he left to stay in a hotel for a few nights but it wasn't going to work long term.
They have a strange relationship anyway, he hardly ever sleeps in the same bed, he goes to sleep early hours, she is in bed by 10. He hardly looks after the kids and that's all she does.
Sadly I can see one of the children starting to treat her just as horribly as his father.
I don't think she would have the courage to leave again until another episode of violence. It's horrible, I now have to treat him like I don't know anything and that everything's hunky dory! Funnily enough we are at the kids birthday party this afternoon and it's the first time I've seen him since everything. I'm sure it will be darling this darling that. They put on a good show a lot of the time :(
16/02/2013 at 12:52
Oh sorry to hear this, it's sad she has no support from family..
She is lucky she has you watching out for her and realising her children are copying behaviour-maybe that would be the one factor to help her leave??
16/02/2013 at 13:12
I thought she would've been spurred on by this too A.
She has had a sad life to be fair, her dad owed so much money to horrible gangsters that he had to leave the country, her brother also was blamed so for his safety he had to leave. She doesn't really have anyone but friends. I think she will end up not talking to anyone about it anymore because some people think it's just as easy as leaving.
Thanks for thinking of her though. I have told her if anything got so bad to come here or go to a woman's refuge. I hope it doesn't happen again but I don't have much faith in that it won't :(
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