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06/03/2013 at 13:19
Sorry for the dampener today ladies but I just want to write this all down I'm not expecting any answers..
To cut to the chase.. The house we were buying is a no go. Too much structural work to be done and no where near enough money for us to do it.
i feel as if everyone I speak to about the house is fighting against us moving! For what reason I don't know but the only answer I ever get is 'would it be such a big deal if you stayed where you are' even H said it last night so bit his head off! The house is closing in on me! There's no room for anything, I'm constantly tidying up then as soon as everyone's in, it goes again.
there is no other places for us so although I really don't want to, it looks like we might have to pull out completely.
The knowledge is getting so hard also, H literally has no time for anything, I constantly feel alone. He helps with the house but it's not enough sometimes he is in then out and I've had the boys all day and put them to bed and that's all my life seems to consist of at the moment and there is nothing I can even do about it. I feel like running away until he's done it all.
T is really being rude at the moment, not naughty just has an attitude and when I feel rubbish it just upsets me, most of the time he is good as gold. J is waking up every two hours so I'm very sleep deprived which I know is why all this seems much worse than it actually is but it's still hard.
H and me have now had a heated conversation over the phone and left it on a bad note.
the thing is I feel so lucky that I have my family and house, they are lovely. I just feel $***
06/03/2013 at 13:37
Oh lovely! Firstly have a big squishy hug from me
Right first things first, text or call H and tell him you're sorry, you're just feeling a bit down, you love him and send him lots of kisses.
Let us know what you reuire gain and we will all get looking with you. You may have overlooked somewhere or discounted somewhere unfairly.
As for T, he's testing you, ignore the bad and praise the good. L was being a sod last week but seems to have got over it now so I'm sure T will too. I can't help with J's sleeping but it will pass. Have a cuppa and put your feet up when he's napping.
And feeling alone is hard but your H is doing this for you all to make things better. I often only see H for 1hr tops of an evening becuase he's running about working until all hours but I know he's doing it for us so just leave him be or else we end up arguing which doesn't help. However Sundays are always our family day.
Big hugs sweetie x
06/03/2013 at 13:38
Sorry you're feeling like this. I'm just getting over a period of feeling like $*** about everything. There's still a way to go until I'm actually feeling happy again though. I completely understand why you're upset about not moving, once you've got your heart set on going that's all you want and so to find out that you have got to stay in a house you've already moved out of in your own mind must be really frustrating. How much longer before your H will have more time to help out? I feel exactly the same re. like all your life consists of is looking after children! What's really helped me is booking a little holiday for the end of April - it's only a caravan in North Wales but can't believe how nice it is to have something to look forward to! I also think my low mood is party due to the time of year and hopefully once Spring arrives our overall general mood will improve.
06/03/2013 at 13:45
Have a big hug lady. It's horrible being in limbo, when you think you've got a house sorted out only for it all fall through. It happened to us towards the end last year, so i know how gutting it can be. We ended up pulling out of the sale, and staying put.
Sleep deprivation also feels worse, is there any chance you can catch a few hours and let your H have the babies for a while?
Aw darling, what a shame. Big cuddle here xx
06/03/2013 at 13:47
Oh no, sorry to hear things haven't gone to plan with the house, that's rubbish news. Big s xx
06/03/2013 at 14:08
I am just a bit gutted really, it's twice I've had my hopes up now. But I've got to get on with it.
Jude has been really tearful today with some more teeth and very clingy, I've not managed to have a sit down yet! It's all very wearing but I'm going to take them out for some fresh air. Think we all need it.
I've spoken to H and he's fine, he knows I love him and he loves me, sometimes he needs to be told to calm down with things thou as he is 100 miles an hour when he wants to do something.
Thanks everyone for letting me mope around here.. I'm gonna go for a walk and sort myself out.
06/03/2013 at 15:33
Hug, its crap when you are feeling down. Hope things are ok soon. xx
06/03/2013 at 17:45
Lauren I know that feeling of the house being jam packed, we were like that when we were trying to sell. I really hope something turns up asap.
06/03/2013 at 18:13
Thanks all, it's nice to know im not the only one to feel like this sometimes..
To top my day off I lost and I mean really lost my keys, car key, house key and mums house key! Went for a walk earlier with the boys and they disappeared.. I did the walk 3 times (saves me shredding!) but they are really gone! I do have a spare but just so fustrating! On my final walk round I happened to be walking past a house where they were bringing out a dead person!! I have a weird phobia about dead things, but I won't go I to that now!
Oh and my zip broke in my coat.. In the end I had to laugh at how horrid this day has actually been..
Even Taylor said 'mummy I think we are doomed' !
H is home and has run me a nice bath though and said he will look after Jude tonight so that I can sleep, this never works but it's nice to know he is 'there' tonight.
Ps. It's all helping with the weight loss plan though
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