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19/12/2009 at 07:10
hey girlies how you all doing....i need to get something off my chest aaaaaaaaaaarrrrrrgggghhhhh.
well we had our christmas all planned out we were picking john's daughter up yesterday then doing christmas bits with the kids today and tomorrow then off up to the in laws till boxing day which was when step-daughter had to be back to her mum. in between all that the kids were going to visit santa's grotto, go to their first panto etc....
now its all been ruined
john went to pick daughter up yesterday and came home empty handed, her mum wouldn't let her come to us for christmas its been planned for months..john is gutted keeps crying, i'm gutted and little charlie is just confused as to why his mummy and daddy are upset and asks where frankie is cause we told him daddy was picking her up and now she's not here!
this was meant to be a good christmas because last year was a bloody disaster and now its not....i cant believe his ex has done this....well in fact i can but didn't think she'd stoop so low.....
19/12/2009 at 08:44
oh no =(
Have you guys spoken to the mother and asked why all of a sudden she has refused and changed her mind?!? There must be something you can work out so that he can spend time with his daughter and also so that her mother can spend time with her over christmas. Be calm! You can sort this. Calmly contact the mother and ask her to explain her reasons and if there is a way you can both sides be happy and have contact this christmas with her
19/12/2009 at 18:25
19/12/2009 at 22:21
Sorry to hear your plans have been upset.Can sort of understand the Mum not wanting to be apart from her daughter Christmas,but then she should've never agreed to it in the first place,not just backed out at the last minute.I don't know your situation,what the relationship with the ex is like,or whether the mother breaks agreements,but at least your husbabnd's little girl knows her Daddy made the effort ,and presumably she was aware of the plans and probably excited,but until she's older I suppose you just have to go along with the Mum's decision,as long as she's aware of the effort her Dad's making,without upsetting her and her mother.
Are you going to reschedule,have her another time over New Year or something.Maybe if there's the likelihood it'll happen again next year just stick to the Mum having Christmas ,you guys New Year,if it means there's an arrangement that you know won't be broken,and less upset all round,even if it's not fair on your husband that he doesn't see his little girl.You can do all the special Christmas things any day you choose.Maybe New Year or any other day,and treat it like Christmas Day.Of course Santa doesn't come twice,although I guess he wouldn't mind that if it was age appropriate,or whatever you feel would make the time you have your step daughter special.Also can you still do the grotto and panto visits,obviously depends where you all live,just take her for those things then back to Mum?
It's still a few days till Christmas.There's still time to arrange something.It's very difficult,but there has to be a compromise that's fair to all,the ex must realise that it's the little girl who comes first,she needs to see her Dad and you guys too,you're her family as well
Hope you find a way to a Happy Christmas for you all
19/12/2009 at 22:33
20/12/2009 at 08:54
21/12/2009 at 08:29
21/12/2009 at 14:49
Aww Zoe big hugs hun x x x x and to John poor fella,bet he's truly gutted.
I hope you three can enjoy christmas,and hopefully arrange that next year Frankie comes to you new year as always then at least she stays with you x
I can understand why her mum doesn't want her away for xmas,but I cannot understand why she agreed in the first place and went about cancelling in such an underhand manner,poor John,to go and collect her and be told no.
I really hope things can be sorted for next year,if I were you hun,I wouldn't expect too much from the ex,then that way all three of you wont be left so disapointed. x
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