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20/03/2013 at 07:53
Latest installment of the mental mother diaries. I can't quiet believe I have had this blamed on me!
So since a bust last April I've seen my mum twice, once when she was in hospital in Dec ( a guilt visit) and on Xmas day. She lives less than 2 mins away and hasn't seen c since Xmas day. She called MIL last night, god knows why, and C wanted to speak so she let him. He then off his own back asked my mum why he hadn't form her for ages and why hasn't she come to see him. Apparently she was so upset she had to put the phone down. She called later aski who had out him up to saying it, that it broke her heart, why would he say such a thing. I told her he said it as that's exactly how it was. In nearly a year he has seen her once. He is a smart boy, but even so it doesn't take a genius does it. She then went on to say its my fault. I've pushed her out and not allowed her to see him. I asked her to explain as my dad manages to pop in and see C fairly regularly, be them short visits, but the at least the inclination is there. Why doesn't she come with him. Apparently she doesn't feel she can come to MIL house. Then that's her get out isn't it. She refuses to have us in her house after years ago she gave me a bag of stuff to eBay and I told her I couldn't sell it as it stank of fags. She smokes between 40-60 a day, so the place does stink. It's inevitable. I've never said I wouldn't take C there, but we aren't welcome anyway. You aren't made to feel at all welcome and don't even get offered a drink. She's now telling anyone who will listen that I won't allow her to see C. And the new baby will be the same apparently.
how did this become my fault??? I'm not welcome at her house, she won't come to MIL. Where the flying f_ck aid it supposed to happen. Why hasn't she made more bloody effort. He is a gorgeous boy and so kind, I know she is missing out, but it makes me mad that she will let people think it's me!
20/03/2013 at 08:00
Try not to get upset, you know it's not your fault so sod what other people think lovely. She is missing out but it's not up to you to fix that if she isn't willing to make an effort. You've said your bit so now just let things calm down before you speak to her again. Hope you're ok xx
20/03/2013 at 08:04
I can't offer any advice as I am in a similar situation. I haven't seen my mother or father in a year. They never come near my house (0.5 miles from theirs) and they haven't acknowledged this pregnancy. It's all my fault because I dared drop her mothers day present and card around a day early last year as I was taking my kids to Thomas land on Mother's Day. Apparently that warrants disowning me. Mothers, who need em eh? Xxx
20/03/2013 at 08:13
Unfortunately you can't control what other people will hear or think. And of course your mum is going to make it sound as if its not her fault. But people who know her well will probably take some of what she says with a pinch of salt anyway.
But your mum really is winning in the mad mum stakes isn't she? And she's the one who is missing out on seeing her daughter and grandchild.
20/03/2013 at 09:30
She is a complete loopster! I have no idea how I turned out so normal
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