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13/12/2012 at 18:01
She got sent home again today.
If you didn't see my post on Monday, she was sent home from school because she was poorly but there was nothing wrong with her, it was because her friend who she had been with all weekend was bad an off school.
Anyway, her and her friend were both ok for their party on Tuesday and Tuesday night said friend came over for a couple of hours while her mam was out and was fine. The friend got sent home again on Wednesday morning.
Today while at work I got a phone call from the school to say that E had fell over and hurt her foot and could I come and have a look at it. I told them I was at work so the woman on the phone said she would look at it and get back to me. She phoned back to say that she thought it was fine, she had hurt her little toe but the woman had moved it around and E seemed in no pain and was fine in herself.
Twenty minutes later, I get another phonecall to say that E has told her teacher she is in so much pain that they needed they thought I should have a look. I asked the supervisor if E was being a drama queen and she gave a little laugh as if to say yes.
So I had to leave work and drive the 15 mins to school to pick her up. She hobbled to and from the car and when we got in I asked her how it didn't hurt when the supervisor looked at it and she just shrugged. She hobbled upstairs but I called her down half an hour later and she ran down the stairs and across the kitchen with no limp. A miraculous recovery?
I'm bloody furious that I've had to take time of work for yet another phantom problem. I asked her if the pain was so bad that she had to come home and she admitted it wasn't. I've had a chat with her about the consequences of her actions ie me leaving work, work being short staffed etc and she just looks at me blankly. I've asked her if there is something wrong at school of if she doesn't want to be at school and she just says she doesn't know
13/12/2012 at 18:04
Oh dear! I really dot know what to suggest apart from to make it clear that when she's at home 'ill' she stays in her bedroom to recouperate with no toys, tv, etc. the boredom may make her think twice next time!
13/12/2012 at 18:08
That's what I thought about Monday. She was made to say in her room all day and limited the amount of telly and made her go to bed really early. She was bored stiff by tea time but it still hasn't deterred her.
13/12/2012 at 18:09
I'd ban ALL tele. Seriously being made to stay in bed all day if you're not poorly, with nowt to do must drive her crazy?!
13/12/2012 at 18:11
Well she's just getting out of the bath and I've told her she's to get into bed and stay there to think about it. I thought she was turning a corner but is reverting back to being a pita.
13/12/2012 at 18:14
Id be bloody furious and banning her from tv and playing out for a week. No friends or socials either. The fact you had to leave work is huge imo. She needs to be punished. Does she believe in FC? Id be calling him as well if she does.
Bugger. Do you think owts happened at school?
13/12/2012 at 18:21
Kat I am f*cking livid if I'm honest. She just doesn't think about other people. I've been on her case since we got in. I totally agree about leaving work being huge. She is usually at Girls Brigade tonight which I've reminded her that she would be going there in 10 mins but is now in bed. I don't think she believes in Santa anymore but has never mentioned it so I've told her that her behaviour isn't helping her.
Missus S I've asked her that and she's said no. There's so much going around at the school and loads and loads of kids are being sent home every day due to illness and I think she's just though, bugger it, I'll pretend to be bad so I can go home as well. I've told her that J is properly bad, he's had an ear infection for 2 weeks now and has just been given more antibiotics yet he is still going to nursery.
Could Mr SW or a grandparent or Auntie have a chat to her alone and see if she'll tell them anything? Just to check there's nothing at school.
Guess when she admitted to not being in enough pain to be off school it was too late to take her back?
13/12/2012 at 18:22
GB we've tried that in the past and we just get the same answers.
Yeah, it was 2.30 by the time I got from work to get her, she only had another bloody hour to push out.
13/12/2012 at 19:17
It sounds like the school are being a bit lazy here TBH? Surely if the toe wasn't swollen and she'd moved it about easily with no pain they obviously knew she was trying it ok. By calling you out to come and get her they are enforcing to her she will get away with pulling a sicky. I'd be having words with them and setting a more appropriate plan in place for next time she tries this
In the meantime is be banning TV and socializing until at least next week. Dull weekend but I don't think she deserves anything fun TBH?
13/12/2012 at 19:25
Thanks Hep, I think that they've been lazy as well but at the minute they are sending kids home for anything as soon as they complain because there is so much going around. Last week there was only 9 in one of the reception classes and I was talking to the nursery teachers the other day and she was saying that they are having at least 10 kids per day off so the school are just sending kids home willy nilly to try and stop things going round.
I think today they were just covering themselves incase something was wrong but I'm still not happy about it. Its a good job I work flexi time and have a good boss. She has been in bed reading since 6.15pm and is already bored while J is down here with me. I keep reminding her that she could be at GB tonight but is spending it in bed as a consequence.
13/12/2012 at 19:42
Give her the book "The Boy who Cried Wolf" to read!
Next time she really does have a belly ache and you send her to school regardless is the only way she's going to learn TBH. It does sound like the school aren't being particularly helpful here by pandering to her though, have a word with them about it before it gets any worse. How is her behaviour getting on? Did you ever go down the route of a contact book?
I was going to say I think the school need to be proactive here as well. If a child in my class told me they felt ill I sent them to get a glass of water and to sit in the book corner quietly. I very rarely sent children home and would get bery annoyed if they got sent home at lunchtime by a dinner lady! If they felt sick I would get them a bucket and sit them in the class with it. Obviously if they were sick or really obviously poorly then I would send them home but not just because they felt a bit poorly or had hurt their toe!
I think a chat with the teacher to check nothing is going on in school and also a heads up to them that she seems to be acting up to get out of school. I would also not let her do something she normally does i.e. a dancing lesson this week because the money to pay for it was when you had to leave work early so can't pay for it.
13/12/2012 at 20:02
Sshh she's know's the story of the boy who cried wolf and I mentioned it today. Her behaviour took a huge turn and she has been lovely until the last week or two when she is reverting back to being a little git. We didn't do the contact book but I kept in touch with her teacher who said he had noticed a bit of an improvement and her dancing teacher said the same.
tl - I've just been speaking to my mam and she has said to mention it to the school as well. I can get why they are sending kids home at the first sign of sickness because there is so much of it going around but sending her home for a hurt toe is ridiculous.
13/12/2012 at 20:07
Yeah I agree the school need talking to. Make them aware she's been faking illness so you won't be coming to remove her. They can ring you and let you know and then you decide. Or even if you go and check on her, and you can tell she's pulling a fast one, make it known and leave her there. Show her she can't keep doing it and getting away with it.
I also agree about being super strict, no playing out or tv for a week etc.
Disclaimer- I know I'm not there yet but this is what I would do with my hypothetical 10 year old!
13/12/2012 at 20:19
Ha ha thanks Missus S, she's only 8 but I like your style with your hypothetical 10yr old.
13/12/2012 at 20:30
No idea really SW, but I'm a total softy. I dread L coming it with me
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