Hi, hope you can help.

I have been married for about 18 months. I'm 33 and hubby is 37. Lately we have been having serious conversations about having children but the more we talk about it the less keen I am to have children. It never seemed to be a problem before as it wasn't a concern for either of us a few years ago but now hubby is keen and I'm not. Whenever I see friend's children I do feel broody but can't honestly say that I have a burning desire to have children because I don't feel that way. I don't know what to do or how I should be feeling right know and I'm so confused. Has anyone every felt like this before they did decide to have children? Help!!

i cant help you in anyway at all hunnie , but didnt want to R&R - seriously , whatever makes you happy . . . You do not have to have children to "fulfill" your life or anything , but it is something you have to think seriously of , as hubby is about to reach " the mark" but your still young , maybe thats why his so keen ? sorry i couldnt help , but im sure when the lovely ladies on BE see this post , they'll be sure to help you out, best wishes

Hi Mrs Jess
I am 32 and my husband is 42. Have been married since Sept 09 and started to discuss having a baby in Dec.

Like you the topic was never really discussed before then and he has 2 children from a previous relationship (I do not have any children)

I too have never felt really broody but love having my husbands children around. I think this is what made me feel like I wanted to try for a baby although it is not the be all and end of everything in life. He was not keen on us having a baby and it did put alot of strain on our relationship for a couple of months.

Long story short, I come off the contraceptive implant on 02/02/10 and found out I was 6 weeks pregnant on 13/05/10, we were both over the moon. However there is a sad end to this as I miscarried last Monday, I was 10+4.

What I am trying to say but probably not very well, is that I am devastated this has happened and I now realise that I want a baby more than anything in the world. Once you try you may feel completely different about having a baby as I do.

I hope you both manage to work it out and agree on the best decision for both of you.

Dxxx