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11/01/2013 at 19:31
Hopefully I'll explain myself better than I did in my other post. When Ex drops the kids off at the local supermarket for me to collect them the children get very distressed. Does anyone have any ideas on how to make this an easier transistion for them? It was slightly easier when he dropped them at the house but that doesn't happen anymore (I'd rather not go into why on a public forum). On a Sunday mornign when I take them to the supermarket for him to pick them up they get upset at leaving me so I def think it is the transistion rather than not wanting to go with me - although at the same time I can see why they don't want to go with me, I make them go to bed 7 days a week, I make them get up and get dressed 7 days a week, I make them wash, tidy away, brush their teeth and generally I'm the bossy miserable one whereas he stuffs them full fo sweeties and doesn't make them do anything.
11/01/2013 at 19:44
I haven't seen your other post so sorry if I'm asking things you've already mentioned. Do the kids know when they'll see you again when you drop them off? (I always tell mine, ok, I'll see you tonight after nursery, so they know what to expect) or vice versa with dad, you'll see daddy again next weekend etc. what are they like when you drop them off for school or nursery? Is it just with your ex that they get so upset? I guess they just need to get used to a different routine. My 3 have all had a phase of sobbing when being dropped off at nursery and it was heartbreaking so I understand it must be very hard for you.
11/01/2013 at 19:47
Other post wasn't about this so don't worry it isn't relevant
Hmm good point about school/nursery. They don't like transistion between any two points, but particularly kick off when Ex drops them off. Tonight U screamed for Daddy all the way home.
11/01/2013 at 19:50
Well I have no experience but I can only suggest what I would try. I would try reassurance about when he will see him next. My other favourite technique for dealing with meltdowns is distraction - just completely ignore it and talk about something else exciting (this can even be, wow, did you see that zebra out the window?)
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