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16/05/2013 at 13:25
I know it been done to death but amuse me....
H and I were discussing presents for R. We have only bought a balance bike so far for £49.00. Which lead on to the topic of how much we plan to spend on the kids for birthdays and christmas ect.
So on average how much do you spend? Do they get more if they don't have a party?
Do you set yourself a budget or just buy whatever they want?!
16/05/2013 at 13:28
I don't have a budget, I buy as I go along, something could be £3 or £30 or £300
16/05/2013 at 13:31
No budget here either really, it just depends what they need, and how much we've got to spend at the time. Poor C has her first birthday coming up and I have so much stuff leftover from E she'll probably only get small things.
16/05/2013 at 13:40
When she was small she didn't have a birthday party and I wouldn't have spent any more on her for her birthday because she didn't have a party (apart from family).
We tend to buy some things as we go along during the year and squirrel them away. We don't have a set budget. However, I have tried to remember (not always successfully) that she is (even at 6) young and that she is just as pleased with one or two things as with a load of things.
I think that because so many children's things are relatively cheap to buy its easy to end up getting too many things and then they get a bit overwhelmed with it all on the day and fail to really appreciate what they've been given. I remember watching my nephew one year when he was about 4 years old. He had been given things by his friends and then family. By the time it came to open our gift he hardly wanted to bother opening it - it was all too much for him.
I would see a balance bike as a good investment present - it will be used a lot over a couple of years or so - so its worth spending a bit more on it. My daughter is still using her micro scooter which was £50 when she was 3, so that's 3 years worth of use out of it. (If she had a younger sibling it would be more obviously).
16/05/2013 at 13:49
See H and I were talking about little gifts and he said he didnt see the point in them and thought R would get bored open lots of little things.
Cedar - Balance bike is actually 90.00 but got it in the sale. We bought this one. www.balancebike.co.uk/balance-bike-product.php I let H pick it as I wasnt sure what I was looking at and he seems happy with it. I was thinking about a trampoline in the garden which will obviously be used by little R as well once shes bigger. Which again I see will get lots of use out of it. I think he thinks I spend too much, so just wanted to see what the norm was!
So far we have mainly picked garden bits for him
-trampoline (Little R will use)
-balance bike / helmet
-slide (Little R will use)
-seesaw (Little R will use)
- Starter set of trains (will buy more if he likes it for Christmas)
I think H said it because his birthday isn't till Aug and he knows I'll keep buying till then.
16/05/2013 at 13:52
Oh and he may have seen 'the wish list' im putting together for Christmas for the kids.... (my theory is i'll get birthday code for Big R's birthday and i could get most of it then and put away fro christmas!)
16/05/2013 at 13:55
nftfi - little R has all of big R's too. I'm planning to buy bits to put away for her tea set, shopping bits ect as Big R has nothing like this and will play with it too so again will get alot of use out of it! xxx
16/05/2013 at 13:58
we haven't really thought much about it yet but while he is little not much for example he got 2 toys off us for christmas total about £15 (got them in toy sales so full price would have been £30). He did get clothes and toileteries at christmas but they were things we wrapped for the sake of it. For his first birthday I doubt we will spend more than £50 on proper gifts I am guessing it will end up as one big one (trike or similar) and a couple of little things.
We won't buy him masses partly because at 1 he is still too little to understand gifts, partly we don't hae the space and partly because I am worried about setting president for gifts taht if money got tight we might not be able to maintain.
16/05/2013 at 13:59
We haven't spent money on things like slides, etc for the garden as we don't have the space, sadly. My daughter would love to have a trampoline but it would take up practically the entire garden Fortunately we are five minutes walk from the park.
I can see why your H is getting worried though if R's birthday isn't until August
If it was me I'd probably get a couple of small things like books and stop with what you've got. That's going to be loads of lovely things to play with.
16/05/2013 at 14:06
drifter - trike is fab for 1st birthday we got R one, and now baby R will use it when he gets his bike!
Cedar - trampoline would only be 6/8ft ones I send H lists all the time of things I think about, ideas what we could do. I generally get a text back saying ' I'm not thinking about birthday/christmas 4 months in advance' I must be awful to live with!! Books is a good idea actually theres a few Julia donoldson ones that I want... I mean R wants.... H also dreads when he see the book people leaflet come through the door.
16/05/2013 at 14:15
I don't really have a budget. If they want/need something for their birthdays/Christmas I'll buy it.
It was J's birthday this week and I spent about £50 on presents then he is having a bowling party tomorrow. The older they get the more expensive it becomes, for example one year we got E a lap top but this year we probably spent around £70 because there wasn't anything specific she asked for.
Christmas I spend a lot more than birthdays.
16/05/2013 at 14:29
Same as everyone r else really, no set budget. We just see what he wants, what we can think of etc. His 4th birthday was probably the most expensive because we went to Disneyland for it but we wanted to spoil him with something just for him (well the 3 of us) for the last time before the baby came along. We don't go overboard with presents at all. It's usually one main present and then smaller things. We haven't had a party for him yet apart from smal family teas or a meal out but this year will be different I think.
16/05/2013 at 14:33
I don't have a budget in mind really, I will buy the thing that she wants (well within reason obviously). Something like a balance bike would mean she only got a few little bits such as hairclips as extras.
16/05/2013 at 14:41
We don't have a budget either but I try to limit the spending. Having a teenager (well two now) to pay for too it's expensive, £70 for a pair of trainers!
16/05/2013 at 17:18
I don't have a set budget, but Christmas is usually around £1500, and £400 for Birthdays (including party/day out etc)
Last Xmas, it was probably more than that, as C's main present was around £450.
16/05/2013 at 21:26
K is six soon and we brought her a bike which was £100 and her party will be little short of £200 so a lot! Having said that she doesn't get pocket money yet and we rarely buy anything outside of birthdays and Christmas, unless 2nd hand.
16/05/2013 at 21:28
Probably roughly £100 - £150 so far.....
16/05/2013 at 21:31
PJ glad I am on the right track with a trike for 1st birthday.
I meant to say books don't count disco gets books frequently for a person not yet one. in fact H brought him all the Mr Men books the other week because he was a poorly boy. Although as H is now rationing them at bedtime to make them last I think they might be a present for him really
17/05/2013 at 15:30
We're discussing this, as E's birthday is early Jan and her first Xmas too - I know what my family and Hs family will be like. I know E will get c£100 from each grandparent (and she has 3 sets) - plus a load of Aunties and Uncles and friends too, so I she certainly won't *need* for anything and we certainly won't be left with an empty Xmas tree either - in fact I think she'll have far too much already. We therefore plan to buy her one thing for each - however toys such as the "plastic type" I refuse to buy brand new. I'm after a Fisher price pram to match a doll E was bought when she was born, but I know how little use it'll get, for less than a year i'd guess so it'll be second hand.
I know my mom spent £25 on a second hand (barely used) trike already for E which is in the loft, and my Dad has bought her wellies for puddle splashing! MIL has bought E a pink Quad bike (I know, I know) and they'll be given clothes galore too - so I don't really need to buy much in that way either.
So in summary, i'm thinking £50 for each with the balance of what I would like to spend into her savings.
17/05/2013 at 15:46
We've only had 2 Christmases and A second birthday next week. To date we've spent iro of £50, this birthday though we're spending about £800 on a 2 storey wooden playhouse for the garden. I don't want to just spend the money on stuff we don't need so haven't. The playhouse will see him and his sister when she arrives through quite a few years so it's more of an investment than one birthday present.
When they are older and more aware of e price and value of things this all may change, I imagine £100-200 each though.
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