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08/07/2013 at 20:27
H thinks we should let E walk home from school on her own.
He says he is going to let her on a Thursday and Friday when he picks her up when I'm at work.
She's 9.5yrs. There is only one major road to cross which is manned my a lollipop lady, then a busy road at the top of our street but has a zebra crossing she is fine with crossing.
I would say its about half a mile away. WDYT? H thinks we should give her a chance and she really wants to.
08/07/2013 at 20:29
I think it depends on the child ratehr than the age.
Is there anyone else her age that does a similar walk?
08/07/2013 at 20:32
6 months ago I would've said no way.
But A's been walking for 2 months on her own - but she is eleven in Oct. however she'd never walked to school before here. So all very new. I think this sort if decision you need to make based on the individual. And IMO you can't rely on her walking with friends, they can break up friends any time, you need to know she can do it on their own.
Personally I'm not sure I'm going to feel so comfortable in the dusk in the winter.
For two mornings I walked 20 paces behind her and watched how she looked for traffic etc.
See how you feel. It would've been too young for A I think but E has been playing out front for ages hasn't she? She's more streetwise.
Does the school have a policy? I know my daughter's school and some schools I have worked in don't allow it until year 6.
08/07/2013 at 21:05
QI she is pretty sensible and can manage roads.
Beez, how far away is A's school? Since last summer I've given her more freedom when she is playing out, although not as much as the other kids round here. There's no kids around that walk this way so she would be on her own most of the way once her friends had got to their homes. Its actually only going to be for the next two weeks as I'll be going to school to pick J up at the same time she finishes come September.
Mossy I'm not sure but I know kids the same age as E go to school and walk home from school.
08/07/2013 at 21:26
It's a six minute walk. Crosses one minor road alone. One pelican crossing.
09/07/2013 at 07:55
We didn't let Lauren until year 6 and then it wasn't home because if the distance (we moved when she was at school) that said there were no roads, it was across fields to where we parked next to a park and there were lots of people doing the same walk. When she got to senior school she started getting the school bus and walked to and from the bus stop with a friend
09/07/2013 at 08:59
I wouldn't at 9.5, we let K when she started secondary. I don't think 9.5 is old enough. I wouldn't be happy with that.
09/07/2013 at 09:00
Surely it depends on the area and the child? I will prob let Liam about that age, but he has no main roads to walk and it is literally 4 mins from my house. I can see the school from my window.
09/07/2013 at 09:16
C is the same age as E (he'll be 10 in Dec), and I'd be happy with him walking on his own. He has to cross 1 main road, but he knows to wait for the green man, ha.
Next year, he will have to walk to school on his own, as J will be in Nursery in the opposite direction.
09/07/2013 at 09:40
I probably would but the school is about 2 minutes walk away. The tricky bit for my daughter will be the school run cars which park in the street where she'll have to cross on her own making it hard to see/be seen. It definitely depends on the area and the child. Alternatively wait until September when she can walk ahead on her own while you're walking J.
09/07/2013 at 10:19
We live 800 feet from the school, literally over the road, but the school won't allow a child to leave alone till year 6 )I think the parents need to inform the school in writing too),
I'm quite anal (ffs L isn't allowed a trampoline and it was a major thing him getting a bike ) but with one major road I wouldn't
Allow L to walk home alone, despite there being a Lilly pop lady because kids heads are just full of magic and L is very easily distracted and there's always lots if pushing etc at the Lolly pop lady and I'd worry that she wouldn't be able to keep her eye in everyone (although u have to remember I'm an ex a&e nurse so I see disasters everywhere poor L will be at secondary down the road and il still be picking him up [blush]
09/07/2013 at 13:03
I've only started letting E walk this past term. Maybe a few times last term after clubs. She's 11 and going to secondary in Sept so she needs to get used to it. 9.5 would have been too young for her.
My main concern has always been the traffic, and I think at 9.5 E was still prone to making the wrong decision when it came to the green cross code.
09/07/2013 at 21:06
Thanks for your views ladies, I'm still undecided. I think it does depend on the child and I think she is sensible enough to be allowed to and the area is a decent area, all the way down one main road before she gets to the crossing near our house.
10/07/2013 at 07:48
I think the last year at school is probably a good compromise and better if they have others to walk with. I think otherwise it can be a shock when they go further afield for secondary schools (at least where I am). My primary school was opposite my house and then all of a sudden I had to get a bus to my secondary school 3 miles away. My mum was terrified! I think I as pretty scared too.
10/07/2013 at 07:59
I think if your undecided you should say no until you feel more comfortable with it. My two are still young so don't have experience of this but my thoughts are that it is not only roads and cars to consider, unfortunately we don't know who is about this day in age
10/07/2013 at 11:07
What Yoyo said, it's not just traffic and cars, it's people aswell. My SD is 11.5 and we walk her to and from school even though it's only 400yards away. I would much rather take 10 minutes out of my day to know she's safe. She likes being walked to school and I like seeing and talking to other adults for a few mins (I'm a SAHM)
10/07/2013 at 11:10
But dodgy people were about years ago too, it's not just a new thing is it.
It definitely depends on the child but I still think 9.5 is too young. We let K when she was in Year 7 - she got the bus after the first term. And now at 13 she acts the twat in front of her mates so they don't necessairly get more street wise as they get older....more stupid I'd say. I often see kids walk out in the road with earphones on, oblivious to moving traffic.
10/07/2013 at 11:13
I let C walk to school on his own this morning, well half way anyway. I walked with him to my Mums house, and he walked from there, to school. It is just up the road, and he doesn't have to cross any roads.
I did the same walk on my own, when I was in yr 3.
10/07/2013 at 11:21
Don't say they get more stupid Belle. I am already freaking at the prospect of E having to go out at 7.30am to catch a train. There are only 2 platforms but I just know she'll go to the wrong one and end up at the coast or something.
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