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16/12/2013 at 05:07
As the title says really
I was having a bit of a reflective morning today and thinking about the last year and the highs and lows. Overall it has been ok, health wise a bit rubbish for a few members of the family and myself but nothing too serious and nothing that can’t be overcome. Our ttc'ing of #2 has not gone well with our first IVF failing and many close friends who I see often announcing pregnancies and delivering, after 4 years of trying it can sometimes be frustrating.
Saying this though I am very lucky with my H who is a fantastic man, drives me crazy at times but a good person who I love massively. R has thrived at his new school and is such great company at the moment, he makes me smiles and laugh out loud on many occasions. Work is going well, no big promotion on anything but I am happy(ish) here.
So overall no big dramatic or life events but a good year.
How was yours?
16/12/2013 at 07:10
Glad your year had been an overall ok one!
For me, probably been the worst year of my life! It started horribly with me being in the High Dependency Unit in Hospital with my 15 month old for a week over New Year. I spent New Year's Eve by her side, with a nurse who was giving her a blood transfusion whilst the clock struck midnight. Very low point. It's been a long struggle this year to get her back to 'normal health' with lots of hospital visits, injections, tests, worries and plenty of tears. Thankfully things are a lot better now.
In February my cousin and his wife (one of my best friends) gave birth to their baby girl at 24 weeks who survived 10 days before losing her fight with life. I was honoured to have met her, what a beautiful child she was, but what an incredibly sad time for my family.
Another very good friend's husband was involved in a very serious car accident and is still off work due to ongoing problems related to brain injury.
As the year has gone on we've managed to have some good times too and things have improved generally as the year has gone on (my cousin's wife is 33 weeks pregnant now and everything looks ok) but I do feel like the whole year has been overshadowed by my daughter's illness, I feel like I haven't quite got over what happened and can spend many a night struggling to sleep as I go over everything that happened with her in my head.
Sorry, I'm sure you would rather more positive replies to your post! I will not be sorry to see the back of 2013 I have to admit! I do however have a lot to be thankful for in my life and I know that compared to many, I'm very very lucky.
16/12/2013 at 08:17
Big hugs to you, what a horrible time for you and your family!
Hoping 2014 is a better year for you x x
16/12/2013 at 08:31
I'm sorry LC I didn't realise about the ivf
Frankie, god what a terrible year, I hope next year brings you some happiness
I think stressful sums up our year tbh
Mil died in feb and although she was forceful/controlling (shall we say) she was the one who kind of got everyone together, sorted family stuff etc so it has been like a huge gap is left.
Fil has reverted back to childhood so its like having another child at times
I started a new job which whilst its not what I like its fantastic for me to progress iyswim,
I started uni in sept and hopefully by march (or June if I need to resit ), il be able to prescribe just like a dr, which means a big promotion and looking at getting totally away from shift work next year (IF I pass that is)
H hates his job but there's just nothing suitable ATM
L has started school and is doing amazing and working with older children for number work
I is developing into a little character
We are currently living in a building site having just had a conservatory and starting the playroom after new year
My parents seem to be showing a bit if an interest
O and h and I have had 2 nights out I know some of you who are out every weekend will be horrified but that's good going for us
Next year hoping to pass course, meet up with some lovely friends, all of us keep healthy, get house done
16/12/2013 at 08:32
2013 has been mostly OK.
My relationship with H has improved a lot, which is a big thing, as we came SO close to splitting, a few times.
H's kids have been the main "issue" this year, and I don't see that changing any time soon, but, it no longer causes tension between H and me. I really hope that next year, my step son gets the proper help he needs to sort his problems.
C's learning difficulties seem to have become a thing of the past, for that, I am SO thankful. His school have been amazing with getting him the 1 to 1 help he needed. His year 5 teacher has noticed a massive change in C, since September.
J has been a delight. We had his 30 month check last week, and the HV was amazed with him. The words "amazing" and "wow" were used. He's so bright, he is a joy to be around. This year has proved to be a good one for my boys, i'm so proud of them both.
My parents got married this year, after being divorced for over 20 years. Was a weird, but wonderful day. I have got used to them being back together, and my boys really enjoy having both of their grandparents around.
My H got a nice promotion, starting in the new year, which has come as a relief, as his payrise, will more than clear the old debts that caught up with H this year.
I'm really hoping that the above "goods" will make next year AMAZING!!!
2014 brings a lot of changes. C goes into year 6, and J starts Nursery. I'm hoping to get back into paid employment, after almost 11 years as a SAHM (although my H isn't keen), so that'll be a big change, but a good one.
Really hope that those who have had a crummy 2013, have a much better 2014.
16/12/2013 at 09:19
Oh, I am sorry people have had such a lot going on. I do feel life tends to go in cycles so I hope that it is soon your 'upswing'. xx
I had a few very bad years, they're in the past now. 2013 was the best year, possibly I can ever remember. I feel lucky most of the time and although I like a ruddy good whinge I usually get some perspective before too long. We got a gorgeous dog in January who is such a joy, had an ace holiday in the US, moved in to a house I am very happy in and enjoying fiddling with (not been interested in my home where I've lived previous), fantastic wedding and honeymoon, son is on the courses he wanted at 6th form and enjoying his job and driving lessons, sister's twin pregnancy is going very well indeed after so many fertility problems over years, mum and dad in decent health, I'm still in my job, hubby and I enjoy every minute we spend together and my house is often full of ridiculous laughter, and love. So I couldn't and wouldn't ask for anything more.
16/12/2013 at 09:29
2013 has been pretty rubbish for us really.
In Feb my granddad was diagnosed with bowel cancer, he started chemo which unfortunately did nothing for him, in fact the cancer spread to his liver, and in August we were told that there was nothing more than they could do for him. He finally lost his fight in October, and it's so weird him not being around. I keep thinking back to last year and how everything was going great. How time can change In such a short space of time.
In march by best friend had a miscarriage, she took a while to get over it, but thankfully she is currently 14 weeks pregnant and everything seems to be going ok.
My little family wise, H is still stuck in a job he hates, he's applied for other things, but tbh, I think the not getting them has knocked his confidence. Me, i'm still under the hospital for treatment for an irregular smear results and CIN3 cells, I had a colposcopy, loop diathermy, and I've had 3 smear since because they keep getting inadequate cells. So i'm still hoping for a clear result.
The children are fab though, and probably one of the only positives to take out of this year, and when I feel sad about something, then they do something to cheer me up. E started playgroup in Feb two mornings a week, we take her and then collect her at 12pm, she loves it, and has come on so well since she started. Her speaking is amazing, and she's a proper little bossy boots, so I think we're going to have to tone that done a bit.
After initially worrying that S was a bit behind in his speech, he had come on loads the last couple of months or so. You can make out what he says with most things, and he can count up to 11 pretty much.
I'm really hoping that 2014 is a good year for us, i'd like for H to get a new job, for me to get the all clear from my smear results. I am also hoping that H goes and sees about getting the snip, he had promised that once his new holidays kick in for april that he will go and have it done. He doesn't get sick pay so would have to put annual leave in.
16/12/2013 at 09:39
Sorry to hear of the sad times people have had hope 2014 is much better for you.
Mines been pretty good overall, and I'm certainly finishing the year feeling happy.
Singing is the biggest thing in my life after my family, and after not getting a part in the society I usually sing with just over a year ago for unjustified reasons, I spent the first few months feeling pretty crap about it, although didn't give up, and found other things to work on, and feel I really improved over the first few months. I then auditioned again for the same society and got the part so was over the moon about that, we did a fantastic show in October that I was so pleased with and had some fantastic comments about my singing I then auditioned for another part a few weeks ago, which again I have got, so all going so well with that - although feeling a little bit daunted about the amount there is to learn for this one in April. I also spent a week at a music summer school which was a brilliant experience, made some great contacts and hope it's something I can do again.
Unfortunately TTCing hasn't been going so well (although probably not such a bad thing since I'm supposed to be a young innocent girl in this next opera in April, so having a 5/6 month bump might not look that great!), found out I have over-active thyroid in April which probably doesn't help, along with my age. Just have to keep at it and hope to get that BFP sometime soon.
C seems to have really grown so much in the last year, I think starting school has made a huge difference to his tantrums (although he's had a couple of big ones the last few days - one after leaving his school disco on Friday because he didn't leave through the right door (there wasn't much choice), and another after leaving a party yesterday because I wouldn't let him have any more chocolate or cake until he'd had his dinner) He got a certificate for his writing last week, which I saw him being given in his assembly, and his reading is really improving from him not even wanting to attempt to read because it was too hard, to him wanting to read his books 2 or 3 times in a row. He can be such a happy and funny boy so much of the time though, so does mostly make up for the tantrums.
I feel like I've lost touch a bit with my friends which makes me sad, but hopefully things will change in the new year and I'm going to try and make more of an effort with that. All good with my family - my Mum had a slight health scare at the beginning of the year, but all was well, and my Dad's had problems with his vocal chords which has prevented him singing for the last 2-3 years (he also loves singing), but after an op that's getting better so he can sing again.
Gone on a bit there, could keep going but think I best stop - although haven't mentioned MrDD, but all good there so not really much to say
16/12/2013 at 09:56
I would describe it as up and down, our family health hasn't been great, my mum was diagnosed with Alzheimer's in the summer, H's dad has Alzheimer's too but his general health has declined which puts huge pressure in mil.
H is stressed at work and his anxiety and how we have been getting on is declining, I'm hopeful after a huge chat last night we are working at how he can sort his job, stress burdens of family life out.
Financially we do not seem any better off this year, although we had a kitchen diner refitted in the summer which is lovely.
The kids have kept things upbeat, watching them thrive and do well at school and the way they are makes us laugh, which I am thankful for.
My sister found out shE was pg a few weeks ago, after troubles conceiving this has been the best news for a long time.
16/12/2013 at 11:28
Sorry some of you have had a cr@p year.
We've got nothing to complain about really so we are lucky. H finished his 3yr probation at work and passed all his exams in September which was a huge relief to him, no more studying.
All of us and family are in good heath.
Financially we are doing much better than at the first half of the year as PIL gave us loads of money and told us we didn't have to pay them back the money they loaned us for our car.
J started school in September and loves it, he is really popular, has got loads of friends and is doing great academically.
E is dancing in the local panto and loves it, she is doing well at school and got a great report when we had parents evening.
I have lost nearly 2st this year and am feeling loads more confident in myself.
I've got all my Christmas presents in and wrapped and am so looking forward to spending time with family and friends over the holidays.
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