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28/06/2013 at 15:36
H was scammed when he bought one of my birthday presents online, he paid for something (what it is i don't know) so i have just had to print off one of his bank statements as proof of what has been paid so that he can claim the money back.
I've seen he's spent over £300 at alton towers.com which i'm guessing is the suprise that arranged for my extra two days off work.
I'm such an ungrateful i know, but how on earth could you spend that much there, i suppose we are probably stopping over in the hotel but we only live about 20 mins drive away.
I'm going to have to put on a smile on and show a grateful face, even though i have to say i feel a bit gutted and also a bit annoyed that he's spent over £300 there.
We're doing Legoland, Harry potter tour and 3 nights in hotels for less than half of that
So go on, flame me, i know i'm being an ungrateful
28/06/2013 at 15:42
Oh dear, I think it would sound like a thoughtful idea if you weren't going to Legoland and a hotel. Its a lot of money to spend when you have already spent the money on the other outings.
If he wanted another night away I would of prefered a nice spa hotel, just the two of you.
28/06/2013 at 15:45
That's what i'd have preferred too SW, i'm guess though at the price he's spent we're taking the kids with us, which also means no roller coasters unless we take it in turns to queue.
28/06/2013 at 15:50
It's a bit of a waste of time taking the kids when they are so little, you could go to a mini funfair for £20 and they would enjoy that just as much. Sorry your disappointed.
28/06/2013 at 15:54
Oh well, i'll get practicing my "thank you darling, that's wonderful" face.
£300, we could have gone abroad for a short weekend break or something.
I bet he didn't go through quidco either to get cashback
28/06/2013 at 16:01
TBH Chids, you have seemed a bit ungrateful about what he has bought you for your birthday chick. If my H ever surprised me like that, I would be made up. It might be a night in the Alton Towers Hotel or something different.
28/06/2013 at 16:03
Oh no that is a lot of money! He should have done a spa thing, bit more luxury. Definitely get practicing that grateful surprised face :-/
28/06/2013 at 16:04
I know i sound ungrateful Kellfi, that's why i feel so bad moaning, but after 9 years together i'd have thought he'd have known me better than to buy me jewellry in yellow gold, when i've never worn yellow gold in my life, and certainly never when i've been with him, and then blowing all that money at alton towers, when we live 20 mins away, and can usually get free tickets for there as we know loads of people that work there.
I feel in a way that rather than actually putting any thought into what he's bought/buying me, he's just gone for the most expensive thing so he can say he's spent X amount on me. He should know me well enough by now to know i aren't all about expensive gifts and money, i'd rather have something he's thought about that cost 50p.
28/06/2013 at 16:49
You think that's bad for my 30th H got me nothing not even a card. For Christmas last year I got curling tongues that was it, I have curly hair i have no idea what he was thinking. Every Christmas and birthday I have to put my surprised happy face on.
28/06/2013 at 17:08
I can see why you would be dissapointed, but try to enjoy it. He may have got a babysitter and thats why he has done it?
28/06/2013 at 17:17
I have to agree with Kellfi here. How would you feel if he made no effort at all?
Mind you, I can also see why you'd be upset if Alton Towers is just up the road, but it does have a spa? Maybe he's booked the pair of you into that for a weekend?
01/07/2013 at 09:14
Shhh, I doubt he's booked the spa. Mum's already said that Eleanor won't be in playgroup that day, so whatever we're doing at Alton towers the kids are included. Oh well, good job our trip to LEGOLAND/harry potter world isn't costing too much, so I suppose it'll average itself out.
I know I sound like a totally ungreatful person, but I think there is so much more he could have done with that money, and after we've just done two days at LEGOLAND, did we need another theme park outing? Also, i'm supposed to be going to Manchester with the girls on the Saturday for drinks and food, so I wonder if he's considered that?
01/07/2013 at 11:52
Why don't you speak to him about it rather than second guessing.
01/07/2013 at 11:55
Belle, I don't want him to know that I know really. With the mixup with the necklace he ordered for me, and then he was scammed by a company where he supposedly ordered a present from which turned out to be dodgey site, so he's got to reclaim the money from there that he spent, so I don't want him to know I've been snooping again.
01/07/2013 at 12:10
But if he asked you to print out something from the bank statement, surely you weren't snooping?
You do seem a tad ungrateful, I get annoyed that my H doesn't put a lot of thought into his presents for me even when he thinks he has (e.g. for our 1st wedding anniversary, tickets to go see arsenal v Celtic - he's the one that supports Celtic, while I support spurs, arsenal's mail rivals. Also, a baby whisperer book for my birthday just after I'd had C - all I wanted was something nice just for me and not related to the fact I'd just had a baby)
ETA so I understand where you're coming from!
01/07/2013 at 12:27
This is why we go for the 'this is exactly what I'd like for my birthday' approach in our family.
But it is nice of your H to think of doing something special. And even if its not exactly how you would spend the money I think that you will have to practise a certain amount of graciousness and be pleased. Or you ask him. But what would you do if its non refundable and you've told him you don't want to go?
One of my colleague's H asked her what she wanted for her birthday. She told him she wanted xxxx and said, 'don't worry about a card', on the basis that she was getting the present. He then decided that he didn't like the present she wanted so didn't buy it for her. He didn't get her a card either because she'd said she didn't want one. So he didn't get her anything at all and couldn't understand why she was upset. Now that's something worth complaining about.
01/07/2013 at 12:30
maybe its not for you./...maybe he's having an affair and taking her there.... i kid of course, but yes you do sound ungrateful. its nice he even wants to make the effort. it is a bit of a buggers he's spent al ot of money on somewhere 20 min down the road...BUT i'm sure you will have a great time anyway....just need to make him more savvy with money :)
01/07/2013 at 12:34
Oh no Cedar, that's terrible that he didn't even get her a card.
Twink, lol at the thought of him having an affair. He'd soon get found out, he's crap at hiding things, as this has shown.
I'm sure it will be nice, it's not something I'd have chosen, but it's something for me, him and the kids, and we don't get a lot of quality time. I need to just shut up and appreciate it don't I?
Twink, I shall definitely be showing him Hotukdeals and quidco though from now on, so that he knows where to look for bargains for my 40th.
01/07/2013 at 12:46
You weren't snooping though if he's asked you to print the bank statement. I'd ask him outright what the £300 on Alton Towers is about and see what he says.
01/07/2013 at 13:05
what Belle said! I'd just say "how the bloody hell have you spent that much?!"
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