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24/01/2013 at 10:52
Bear with me. This is long.
We have 3 bedrooms. H and I have recently moved into the largest. This made sense as its also colder as above garage so better for us in winter than for children, and it means we can have all our stuff in one room rather than split across different rooms in various wardrobes. We have given up the ensutie for the bigger room.
Our old bedroom has the ensuite. This currently has a spare double bed and desk for H. H works from home and goes out to meetings but doesn't really need a desk as such, more just somewhere to plug in his laptop & printer.
Bedroom 3 is Ned's room, it's the smallest and is decorated neutral for a unisex baby.
Then plan is to forego our spare room, store the double in the loft, and decorate that room for Ned, and move him in there in March. There is enough space in there for him to have his cotbed/bed, his own toilet which will be good for potty training, built in wardrobes for his clothes and plenty of play space.
Baby would then be in with us before moving to the nursery.
BUT I'm beginning to worry about losing the spare room and about H not having a desk.
I'm not sure how feasible it would be for H to have a desk downstairs in our open plan kitchen/diner which was the original plan. It's doable but will be difficult if I am downstairs with baby and / or Ned, and I don't want to feel like I have to hide upstairs with the baby when he's working at home.
Also I'm worrying about losing the spare room. Not because we use it as a spare room really as we very rarely have people to stay, but the room is our dumping ground, it's where we iron, dry clothes etc. Moving N in there would mean we lose that space. We would iron downstairs instead probably as I've found a good space to hang the ironing board and iron and I guess we can dry clothes in our room?
We do have a double sofa bed stored in the loft which I think we could fit into the ensuite with N which would mean bed have a big comfy sofa and if we ever had anybody to stay they could have our room and we could go in with N and sleep on the opened sofabed.
Unfortunately the sofa bed won't fit in the nursery which would be better but not an option. Having it in Ned's big boy room makes sense but means he'll lose play space and there would be much less wall space for toy storage.
The other reason I'm thinking we need the sofabed somewhere is in case I want to co sleep and have to send H to sleep elsewhere, I won't be able to do that without the sofabed in N's room.
SO my questions are:
What would you do about an office
Would you have the sofa bed in N's new room?
Will not having a spare room cause a problem do you think?
How would you work it if you had the above?
24/01/2013 at 10:55
Could you get the children to share the spare room and have the smaller room as H's office with a sofa bed in it?
24/01/2013 at 11:04
Exactly what Fi said. Kids share the middle room and use small room as spare.
24/01/2013 at 11:06
I've always thought I want the children to have separate bedrooms initially as N is such an erratic light sleeper and the baby would wake him. But when we finally move baby into its own room (Oct ish) Ned may be sleeping differently I guess.
Also we don't know what flavour the baby is and I'd rather not have a girl and boy share as they get bigger if they could have their own room. I'm not sure why though, it just doesn't work in my head.
I don't think H would want them sharing.
The sofa bed won't get much use I don't think, maybe 1 sleep a month, so having a room specifically for it and making the kids share seems a bit silly. But then there's the office issue...
Sounds like you are over thinking things a bit
What would you do about an office - Could you fit a table/desk in your bedroom? Landing? You say he doesn't actually need a desk, just plugs for printer so could he not just sit in the kitchen/living room/bedroom with the laptop?
Would you have the sofa bed in N's new room? You could always put it in there for now as he won't need the space in his bedroom at the minute as I presume he still plays downstairs?
Will not having a spare room cause a problem do you think? There's no way you can get round this unless you want N and the baby sharing a room. If you don't have people staying very often then I'm sure it won't cause a problem.
How would you work it if you had the above? I would move N into the bigger bedroom, put the baby in the smaller room like you are planning and wouldn't worry about having a sofa bed. Could you put a desk in N's bedroom? Once he starts preschool/school he wont need to be in his bedroom during the day so H could work in there if he needed to.
24/01/2013 at 11:07
Ah, see if I ever had another, I think that I would like them to share, at least for the short term, I loved sharing with my sister.
24/01/2013 at 11:08
Also the office would only be used about 2hrs a day 4x a week so not loads. I'm worried if we had the small room as office and sofa bed room it'd be a waste of space?
24/01/2013 at 11:09
Then sofabed in N's room it is. You've answered your own question.
For me it's the spare room for laundry & computer crap everywhere. We have a completely open downstairs and it drives me bonkers seeing piles or ironing, computer cables, paperwork etc all making the house untidy. I have to hide the lunadry upstairs in my bedroom til I have time to do it. Up & down Up & down....
24/01/2013 at 11:18
SW - We could def find space for printer and filing in our bedroom, im thinking hidden on a table within the wardrobe as they dont need to be out all the time as H rarely prints anything. H could easily work from wherever really as often brings his laptop downstairs. N will be at preschool quite a bit and H does go out to lots of meetings, so I'm less worried about the desk situation I guess. We may invest in a new dining table which is more space efficient.
The main reason I'm thinking about the sofa bed is due to co sleeping really?
H hated sharing with his sister when they were young and I'm an only child so never had to share, so both of us are both quite anti sharing.
24/01/2013 at 11:21
Yet again I am overthinking it aren't I?!?
Piles of ironing aren't an issue as we iron and wear, we don't iron everything!
H has also just informed me he can work from any Regus office too if on a big project or important proposal etc so could get away from the madness easily if needed.
I'm wondering if we try without the sofa bed initially and see how we get on without....
24/01/2013 at 11:24
I shared with my sister for a bit when we were little and I hated it. It was great once she went into her own room. I'm a bit anti sharing when you have enough bedrooms for everyone but that's just me.
Well go for it with the sofa bed in N's room, once you stop cosleeping and N is old enough to be playing in his room alot, then move the sofa bed out and back into the loft.
24/01/2013 at 11:27
Can I co sleep with H in the same bed? H on one side, me in the middle and baby the other side of me?
Could just get a bed guard to go next to baby?? Is that allowed in terms of safe co sleeping?
24/01/2013 at 11:31
No idea of the safe terms but when I brought mine in the bed with me, I would have H one one sie of me and the baby on the other, worked fine for me.
24/01/2013 at 11:41
Oh that's good to know SW, I wasn't sure if that would work. Might just invest in a bed guard just in case if needed then.
I know we did it with N but I don't recall how!!
In that case I think we'll be ok trying without the sofa bed initially.
24/01/2013 at 13:12
I would have somewhere where your H can work and close the door on small children. Our spare room has the computer in it but doesn't have a door as the space is quite small (and its never had one and we've never done anything about it ) . When my H works from home it can get quite fraught because our daughter will deliberately try to distract him. She's at school all day now, but even so he wants to start work early and she wants to chat to him, then they both get annoyed, you get the picture.
I do my ironing downstairs normally in the front room while watching tv. Its inconvenient for a couple of hours then everything is put away again. Its having the washing drying all over the place at this time of year that's annoying but we live with it. We could buy a tumble dryer I guess but I'd rather hold off on that as they're so expensive to run.
Alternative could be to move the sofa bed downstairs or invest in one downstairs so that you could co-sleep down there and be comfortable. I have to say that when we used to do it one of us would end up in the spare bed as somehow we found there wasn't room for two adults and a small baby in the same bed.
24/01/2013 at 13:34
I co-slept with all 3 of my babies until they were approx. 3 months old and it worked for us sleeping in same bed as H, he was on one side, me in the middle then baby on the other side. I did push H right to the end of the side of his bed so that I could have enough space for baby to be far enough into the bed not to fall out if you know what I mean. This only worked really because baby was far too small to be moving about, with an older baby it would be different. In your position I wouldn't waste the space by using the sofa bed in N's room unless completely necessary. Can the computer desk go in the nursery for now as baby won't be in there for ages anyway and even when baby is in there your H could still use the desk during the day for a couple of hours?
24/01/2013 at 17:28
Have spoken to H who has said he really doesn't want the children sharing and I am agreed. Also he's said that a desk is a nice to have and not a necessity so we're def going to get a workstation type desk in the kitchen diner, and he will use that.
I'm going to try and find a compact desk with shelving above it for cookbooks and a couple of filing trays. He's said it doesn't need to be big enough for a printer as we can just have that set up at the bottom of our wardrobe and he can connect his laptop on the rare occasion he uses it.
As for co sleeping I'm going to buy a bed guard and not have the sofa bed in N's room, I think having looked at the space it would mean less wall space for storage and we need storage!
Thank you all!
25/01/2013 at 00:53
Don't buy a bed guard, I am sure Mum and Dad have two. Ask Dad and he will get it for you.
S could just sleep on the sofa if he needed to, couldn't he?
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