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24/05/2013 at 16:21
Hs sister is pregnant. She's 21, lives at home while studying at college, has been offered a Uni place September and acts more like a 13 year old... Boyfriend has been around no more than 4 months and is a bit of a plonker.
mIL is kicking her out if she doesn't abort! The rest of us are pretty disappointed.
I do wonder how my H turned out so well sometimes
update- H just got a text from SIL 'mum is leaving'. So called mil and she's in a state saying she can't cope with the news, she's so upset, her daughters let her down. My poor SIL. I hope H can talk some sense into his mother.
update 2- I spent an hour on the phone to SIL (H asked me to get in touch as he couldn't believe she was left to deal with this nonsense). She was really sad, has clearly made up her mind about what she will do (keep baby) and equally, is so so naive about the whole thing that I gave her a few home truths about raising children and how hard it would be. I did not in anyway say these things to make her turn to abortion though. FIL is being very calm and sensible, equally being Catholic, he is strongly opposed to religion so he and MIL are clashing badly at the moment. While chatting with SIL, MIL got on to Skype with BIL (party boy we will call him from now on...) and SIL could hear them both saying how stupid she is, how she needs to get rid of it, etc. I had H text his BIL while I was talking to SIL to let him know she could hear him but they continued their ranting nonetheless. SO I sent SIL over to the cousins house as she is probably the only sensible person H and I can trust. She also had a baby at 18 and again at 21 so felt she could chat about her experiences with SIL. Sounds like she helped too as my last text from SIL was to say thank you and that she was feeling a bit better about it now. I now think though that MIL and BIL will accuse H and I of taking sides which isn't true but they must realise how insensitive, selfish and harsh they are being surely?! I'll have to call SIL again later this morning to see if things are any better. Oh the drama!
24/05/2013 at 16:22
Between this and yesterday, your ILs sound like a bunch of loons - you definitely got the best of them!
24/05/2013 at 16:27
They really are Margot
How has his sister reacted?
24/05/2013 at 16:29
She's scared Belle but I think secretly happy. She will no doubt go ahead with the pregnancy. I just hope it all works out for the sake of the baby. She tried to suggest that ella was an accident but it worked out well too!! she was an accident but so very different circumstances... H and I will call MIL when kids are in bed. She's a nightmare.
24/05/2013 at 16:30
Your MIL sounds like an absolute delight.
24/05/2013 at 16:31
What an awful thing to do to her own daughter.
AK she's a nutter. I often find her amusing but this week I'm having to stop myself from getting on the phone and speaking my mind...
24/05/2013 at 16:32
Not that I'm defending MIL, but I think she's very upset and angry. SIL tends to be a constant disappointment (that sounds awful doesn't it!) She's over reacted which isn't unusual but she's gone too far.
24/05/2013 at 16:35
Even though your SIL is studying, and living at home, she's an adult.
C was concieved during a 3 month relationship, when I was 17, and in sixth form. Even my Mum never told me to abort. I think that is horrific.
24/05/2013 at 16:41
At least it takes the focus off the stupid party in September for a bit ;)
Your MIL sounds an absolute nightmare.
24/05/2013 at 16:43
AK, that's just how she is sadly. I hope SIL feels better after talking to us. I've suggested she try to defer her uni place for a year and she can make her decisions next summer. H asked me to put myself in MILs position and imagine Ella came home as a teenager with the same news. I KNOW I'd support her whatever she wanted to do. MIL is mean!
Figaro- so true!
24/05/2013 at 16:46
It's like story out of east enders
24/05/2013 at 16:58
How awful, I was with my bf about 6 months when I fell pregnant with p, I married him five years later and we now have S too. I know I'm extremely lucky things turned out that way but flipping heck, talk about nightmare response from her mother! Poor you and I can see why your h is feeling the pressure
24/05/2013 at 17:01
I really hope this boy sticks around QS but I'm not convinced. I'm getting the impression he's going to run Hs other brother (the party one) had been with his GF 3 months when she fell pregnant and it's worked out. But I also feel like they're a bit more capable, sensible and were in a better position than SIL and her BF. I'm wishing H would hurry up on his call so we can drink gin!!
24/05/2013 at 17:05
Even if he runs, she'll be OK. I was a single teen Mum, C turned out well. (even if I do say so myself)
I know people look down their nose at me for having C at 18, and then for having kids by different dads, but it isn't the worst thing in the world.
Not every child can be born into perfect circumstances, no matter how much we may want them to.
24/05/2013 at 17:09
I am so great full how things turned out for us. Good luck with the phone call and make it a large!
24/05/2013 at 17:11
So your H is condoning his mother's word to his sister? Wowsers.
AK I couldn't agree more.
24/05/2013 at 17:12
I hope she doesn't AK, right now she needs support from family. I know FIL will support her even though this will upset him. MIL will get over it too. I hope the rest of the family back there can be a bit more supportive of her, she's very fragile right now. I was 26 when I found out we were having E and I felt too young, terrified, etc so can imagine at 21, it's worse!
I know people will look down at her/pity her, etc and that really upsets H and I but I guess it's to be expected. I do know that the baby will be loved too, that's what is important.
Your boys are a credit to you.
24/05/2013 at 17:13
No absolutely not Belle! He is fuming.
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