hi collective girlies
sorry i havent been on in a while but with the kids n the course im like a chicken minus its head lol!!! im trying to make time to do normal laura things but its a challenge grrrrr!! and on the subject of grrrrr my spd woke up this morning nasty nasty spd!! hope you are all well???

Bumps all bumpaliscous lol?
mother in laws all tied up n locked in the cupboard ?
puppies behaving ?
kiddies all well?

have i missed anything out ??

lubs you all xxxxxxxxxxxx

Hi hun,
Don't worry about being away for a while. I don't come on everyday now either. I hope you are feeling much better now my lovely??
Sorry to hear the SPD has returned once more You sure it's not a symptom?? lol!
Kids aren't driving me too mad and the pups are behaving too
Can't wait til we go on our hols though, this crappy weather is really annoying me!!
I don't think you've missed alot, I know Babs had her scan and everything went well

x x x x x

Hey lolly,
As SnS said my scan went fine...just like you all said it would lol!!!
Sorry to hear about your spd.......I hope you are not sympton spotting lol!!!
Are you enjoying your course work? Apart from the being sooooo busy bit!! Just think of the end result,oh and you will pass with flying colours.....its gonna fly past. Are you doing the three yr course??


Well apart from my three being fed up with the rain they have been pretty good(apart from the girls settling at night but I wont moan as they only played up for half an hour last night lol!)

Glad you are ok xxxx

Hey lolly, good to hear from you, we are all fine at the moment, Waiting for Phils scan date to come through then I will probably go a bit loopy for a while, still waiting and seeing with Isaac but I have chilled out a bit about that and decided that December is a long way off and alot can change in that time. Busy with the holidays trying to keep all the kiddies happy and we are going away in August.

Sorry to hear your spd is playing up again, really hope it gets sorted for you soon.

Take care xxx

Hi yes like SnS said sure its not a sign???

Im a bit down :\( think is coz i only get negatives about the pg and its really getting to dh, but hey ho

hows the course going?

xxDBxx 21+6

Db I hope your feeling ok hun?? Don't listen to other people. They can be so hurtful sometimes. I remember telling people no3 was a dd and anyone would've thought she had died by some of the reactions!! 'Oh I'm so sorry it's not a boy,
Will you keep trying?'
'your poor oh, I bet he really wanted a son'
It got me really down and at times I was almost wanting to run away and leave all the shit behind. I cried myself to sleep for weeks wishing I was having a boy ;( I don't think anyone really understood. Did'nt help that I also had awful SPD and could barely walk most days!!
Of course I would'nt swap my daughter of the world now, I love her to bits I don't think the pregnancy hormones help with everything either. I hope your feeling better soon hun.
You will have 4 gorgeous boys and thats more than most could ever wish for *Hugs* x x x x x

thanks SnS

someone said to dh 'all that for nothing, the pregnancy, the labour, the sleepless nights all for another boy you neednt have bothered if you had known'

and then we get all the normal, 'how are you going to cope etc' it does become draining and its such a shame as ive always coped why should it be any different?

sorry lolly highacked your post

xxDBxx

Thats such an awful thing to say!! Of course it's bloody worth it is'nt it I'm sorry to here you dh is getting all the negative comments too
I know my oh got a few, 'god 3 girls, you don't know what your letting yourself in for!!'
Even now people say things but we are so happy with our 3 princesses I could'nt give two S**TS what people say to me! It's just alot harder when your pregnant as your stressed about everything anyway, let alone people adding to that stress!! Argh!!
I had my mum tell me I was stupid for Having my 3rd when I did so god knows what she will say nxt time. She asked me how I thought I was going to cope 2!!
You will be fine tho hun, course you will bloody cope, we all do! And you've had twins so you are probably alot more organised than most!!

Try and focus on your wonderful 3 boys, loving hubby and that beautiful little baby just waiting to meet you all As soon as your holding him/her in your arms you will feel 1000 times better and everything will fall into place. I promise hun

I noticed on another post you had been on ingender. I found it when I was pregnant with dd3 and going through the same emotions, it really helped me too x x x x x

yeah it made me feel normal, felt so bad for being upset that i was having another boy it helped and i realised that im not upset that my new one is a boy, i know im gonna love him as i love my other 3, just upset i will never have a girl, its like if i had a magic wand i would still have this new boy but two more girls after does that make sense?

Being able to say it and not get judged helped as well, i feel so defensive of this lo when ppl say bet you were disappointed, didnt want to admit i was so by being on there i felt better. also its helped that other people on here have been open about there feelings, makes me feel less like a freak.

Its interesting to hear that you felt like that, most of the ppl on there have lots of boys, but i def understand where you are coming from.

I do feel for you if your mums not that supportive,most of the time my mum is fine is MIL thats the problem.

thanks for talking to me, feel better for talking about it, my dh doesnt get my facination with this site, i dont know what id do without it

xxDBxx

I know, it's not like you don't want the child you are carrying, you just wish you had him plus a little girl
I felt the same and still do really, I would love to give my oh a son
I can really relate to alot of the girls on there, even though like you say most of them are wanting to add pink to their familes rather than blue.
I found it really hard to be honest about how I really felt too. It's only recently I've actually opened up about it.
It also makes me a bit terrified of even getting pregnant again to be honest. I'm not sure I could go through that rollercoaster of emotions again. I would love another baby and I know we will at somepoint. I'm only now getting to the point where I've accepted will we probably only ever have daughters. It's helped me alot talking to other women in the same boat.
Although my own mother is'nt so supportive, my mil is fantastic and would support us fully no matter how many kids we had. Shes just a lovely person I feel closer to her than I do my own mother.
Theres no need to thank me hun, you've helped me alot too. I don't think subjects like this are disscused often enough.
My oh does'nt really get this site either but I don't think many men do!! lol!!
I'm always here if you need to chat hun, it's good to know I'm not on my own.
x x x x x x x

Hang on, just wanted to say sorry to Lolly!! We really have hi jacked your post now. Sorry hun, please forgive us! x x x x x

hello my lovelys!
sns keep trying to catch you on fb lol spd isnt a symptom lol
babs glad its all going well but i demand bump photos!
hayley i hope phils scan goes well, neurology appointments are always so blinking long and im sure the consultants go out of their way to make you feel like idiots!!!!!
db i wanted mai to be a boy as people were so negative n she was only my second!!! people only make comments like how will you cope because they are crappy parents who know they couldnt handle it! id tell them its great your having another boy as now you get to try again lol then walk off!
Karren congrats on your little un! plan for the oct half term next time i cant reccomend it highly enough hahahaha
laura leigh, how are you doing? hows your 3 poppets! xxxxxxxxxxxxx

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thanks so much girls for sharing your experiences,it really does help

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