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13/12/2009 at 00:57
A while ago i came on to say my mum, whos pregnant again, had a 1 in 23 chance of downs-syndrome.
She decided since toms so young she wanted to be prepared and had the amnio and little one has deffinatly got downs, were all in shock, shes in st thomas' hospital having alot of scans and checks on babys heart and so on, so fingers crossed thats all ok!
Really want to support her, but also feel like stepping back a little as we move in new year and i dont want to sound like a complete cow but at her age she was warned of all the problems and so on... so a teeny tiny part feels like i told you so, despite all that shes my mum, shes a tough lady and she will cope, but i worry about her, my sister and especially thomas whos just lolas age! Shes certainly gonna have her hands full,
I dont know what to say to reasure her, ive worked with downs and only seen the more positive side, although im sure theres alot more problems than ive seen,
well thats me, just needed to offload! xx
13/12/2009 at 09:34
sorry to hear about that laura. It must be quite a shock to her too. some down's children aren't too badly affected, then there are some with lots of other health problems, so hopefully your mum's baby won't be too bad. i'm sure she will cope as she will have to, but at times it will be difficult, and there will also be some times that she wouldn't change for the world..
wish her all the best from me. xx
13/12/2009 at 10:01
Sorry to hear it's definately Down's,but they really can do a lot to help children with Down's these days.Some are very sick,as Audrey says,I know some have heart problems and other problems,but I also remember working in a special needs school with a lovely little girl with Downs who was doing really well.
Yes it'll be hard work,but I'm sure your Mum will manage,hope there's not too many complications besides.Even if you're not physically there to help,you're at the end of a phone or pc,and there's a lot of support available if she needs it.
With a lot of women having babies later now with no problems,I don't suppose your Mum thought it would happen to her,but a new little life is always a blessing whatever they bring with them.
14/12/2009 at 23:02
shes just got home from london and all the scans and tests havent shown any further issues, so all sounding a bit more positive!
15/12/2009 at 12:39
Im sorry to hear the news. Im sure your mum knows that you will be there for her no matter what, and although the phone isnt always the best way at least you can always get in touch with each other.
Its probably quite difficult knowing that your baby is going to be born Downs but at least she, you and the family is prepared. Im sure that all who meet him/her once they are here will be totally enchanted with them.
15/12/2009 at 14:32
Glad to hear no further probs for the LO x that's good.
As Jo said a baby is a blessing come what may,however I do hope your ma isn't too shocked. She will cope Lau,she's a woman!
You'll always be there for her,but you also need to do what's right for you and your family x x
19/12/2009 at 08:56
Sorry to hear that its downs. are they really 100% sure. Sometimes dont these tests "lie"?
My aunt had a baby "late" in her life and Ems was fine...I guess sometimes its just the luck of the draw...is she going to keep the little one? Tough thing to say but we have to be realistic in this day and age...I know I would feel unsure about what to do as babies are hard enough...let alone dealing with any health problems with a special needs baby =(Im very sure the little one will be lovely and well and truely loved...so I guess there is NO question on "keeping" as that is a given.What a shock though.
I think you should say your "sorry's" you mum but then maybe step back and let her come to you if she needs to talk. You have enough to deal with right now with xmas/the move/and your little ones
19/12/2009 at 22:21
she had the amnio test which is 100%
Good news though shes had the detailed report from st thomas' and heart and majot arteries are all perfect!
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