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05/11/2013 at 10:09
Both the men in my life are working quite a lot over Xmas, and I will be going in during the annual shutdown too, for year end stuff. So Xmas Day is quite a big deal as it's the only day together.
Neither mum nor sis have mentioned getting together (last year mum emailed mid-August and sis was pushing to arrange various stuff), so if there's a 'formal invite' to dinner it looks like it'll have to be us.
But I would be quite happy spending the day with hubby and son, we would have a ball, I reckon. Thinking of skipping the family Christmas this year, and all the effort and all the cost, and have a drinks/nibbles/gifts session together one other day instead. If there's a day we can all make...
Next year there'll be our baby and my sister's twins so we can make a big thing of it then, I expect. And I'd be happy for us to host etc,
Anyone tried a quiet Crimbo? Did you regret it and wish you'd been more sociable?
05/11/2013 at 10:12
I'd hate a quiet Christmas. For me, it is all about family, even the loud, overbearing ones.
I have had 1 quiet Christmas (C was in SCBU, so it didn't really feel like Christmas day TBH)and I hated it. With C being so ill, I vowed that i'd always have family around, as you never know what the next year will bring.
05/11/2013 at 10:19
Yes and no I do not regret it at all. I did a Christmas Day where I visited 3 different relations, never again. I now stay put at home with the kids, if people want to come and see us they're welcome but I find the expectation is all on their part, so they either come visit very briefly because they want to see the kids on Christmas Day or they can't be bothered so they wait until we visit them. It's LOVELY.
AK I can handle the loud overbearing ones, but my family don't speak much, don't join in, there's no laughter (unless it's at someone's expense and is a bit mean) and they're just very 'funny'. awkward. difficult. The 3 of us at home just don't stop laughing and it's just a lovely atmosphere.
But I totally get where you're coming from, especially having 'missed' one in that way.
05/11/2013 at 10:21
every year we do this. Just me, my husband and Luke have Christmas day together. we are going to my M&Ds on boxing day, last year we went to the ILs for boxing day. I like it being our little family unit on actual Christmas day. No pressure, you can eat when you like, not have to worry about transporting presents, stay in your pjs all day if you like etc. we ring every one up but I don't feel like we are missing out.
05/11/2013 at 17:51
I think it would be lovely, not having to make any plans, not making plans to suit everyone else, not having to get dressed up if you don't want to, get up when you want to, eat when you want to.
I'm only put off because I don't want to cook Christmas dinner so we go to my parents every year, I've never had Christmas dinner anywhere else, even in the 13yrs me and H have been together.
05/11/2013 at 18:02
Yep we did it last year, and are going to again this year. My dad's in he Caribbean, moms in tenerife, brother has his ils over. And I'd never do it at ils again, done that once. I came down with flu, only time ever, and on 23rd ILs heating broke. Heavy snow meant stuck there with no heating for 5 days, H had to get up at 5am to go collect his sisters from other side of town, then couldn't get back into pjs or drink as he had to return them. Atmosphere was awful, everyone argued over the tv, no Yorkshire puds with dinner just topped it off.
05/11/2013 at 18:24
I love it! Before we has custody of the kids h and I would have Xmas day on our own then have Boxing Day as Christmas day with the girls and my family. Then when we has girls my parents would come to is but every year is the same. They turn up, eat then sit in front of TV. Dad has a kip then goes to work. H gets the hump cos they do jack all and it winds him up. This year no parents and we were planning on dining out but have left it too late to book anywhere so now H is cooking. It's just my sister for dinner tho as her girls are having dinner with their dad. We will eat drink and be merry.
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05/11/2013 at 18:26
I've never done it and don't fancy it. Maybe once baby 2 arrives I'll feel differently, but I love everyone getting together without anyone having to rush elsewhere etc. saying that, tis year we are going to inlaws, and obviously I'll be sober so it will be a long slog - I much prefer a day with my own family! But just the three of us all day wouldn't feel like Christmas
05/11/2013 at 19:57
We have no choice but to have a quiet Christmas, it will jsut be me and the kids again. I was dreading it last year and it was actually lovely. I put the food out and said they could eat what they wanted and B ate loads of veg and I was the only one that had any turkey I'm doing the same thing again this year and it will be lovely
05/11/2013 at 20:29
I've never done it, not sure I'd like it. We alternate Christmas, either at my mums with extended family or his side of the family. The first time I had to have Christmas away from my family and with Hs instead I cried. I was 28!
05/11/2013 at 20:53
Well when I worked shifts I quite often worked on Christmas Day so I wouldn't see my family then. My H is an only child and quite often finds my family too loud so we have spent Christmas just H, me and the kids quite often. We still had a fab time
05/11/2013 at 21:24
I think if you think you would have a great time then go for it. Put it to your family as you have here - next year will be a whole 3 extra people so calm before the storm and all that!
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