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18/09/2009 at 22:17
I AM NEARLY 9 WEEKS PREGNANT WITH MY 4TH CHILD WHICH WASNT PLANNED AND MY HEAD IS TOTALLY IN BITS. MY HUSBAND DOESNT WANT TO KEEP THE BABY BECAUSE OF ALL THE NEGATIVES - WE ALREADY HAVE 3 KIDS UNDER 7, THE MONEY, WE WOULD NEED NEW CAR. THE OTHER KIDS WOULD GET LESS ATTENTION ETC SO IDO KINDA AGREE THAT TERMINATION WOULD PROB BE BEST. WHEN IT COMES DOWN TO IT THOUGH MY MATERNAL INSTINCT KICKS IN AT THE THOUGHT OF GETTING RID OF THE BABY PLUS I ALREADY HAD A SCAN AS I WAS UNSURE ABOUT MY DATES. I HAVE STARTED HAVING BLOODS AND HOSPITAL CHECKS ETC AND I FEEL LIKE IM JUST GOING THROUGH THE MOTIONS AND JUST WANNA SCREAM AT THE MIDWIFE TO ASK HOW IM FEELING. IM SO CONFUSED AND DONT THINK I CAN MAKE A CHOICE EITHER WAY...I JUST WISH IT WOULD GO AWAY AND AS SICK AS IT SOUNDS MISCARRIAGE WOULD BE THE EASIEST OPTION. I KNOW IF MY HUSBAND COME AROUND THEN I WOULD GET EXCITED COS I LOVE BABIES AND AM CONSTANTLY BROODY. I AM ALSO CONCERNED HE WILL WANT TO BE STERILISED NOW AND I THINK AFTER 4 BABIES I MIGHT BE OK WITH THAT BUT WITH JUST THE 3 PART OF ME FEELS LIKE A 4TH IS MEANT TO BE. I AM JUST SO CONFUSED...EVERY TIME WE TALK ABOUT IT WE JUST DONT GET ANYWHERE!
18/09/2009 at 22:45
18/09/2009 at 23:11
19/09/2009 at 00:11
19/09/2009 at 00:25
dont worry what other people will say you will give them something new to talk about for a few weeks untill something eles pops up lol i think im the talk of the school with this one ha ha ha , plus i thought my parents would go mad but they where really happy for us both sides my brother said im crazy but will be the first here when its born, all that matters is you and your husband and kids and if your stable and strong you can do it together plus men never get excited like us about babys untill there here then there showing them off... and your right every child is such a big blessing and theres no room for regret when you see there sleeping faces good luck with your talk hope every thing works out well for you.
19/09/2009 at 08:07
You have to what's best for you.Don't care what anybody else thinks about how many children you have,it's none of their business and don't be afraid to tell them so.
I have 7 kids.A baby can be unplanned,I don't believe it's ever a mistake.There's no greater reward.You find the time,you find the space and if you're financially secure the rest will fall into place,you've time tp plan ahead.I can't say my husband was always pleased with the news of another,but he knew this is what's happening and he came around once he was used to the idea.Neither of us have any regrets.
I believe every one of my children the greatest gift I could be given.Yes they're hard work,we live in a larger than average house,drive a larger than average car and spend a fortune at Tescos every week but these are a small price to pay.
I have had thoughts of OMG how will we manage when first pregnant,then I work it out,there's nine months to work out how you'll manage and you'll do more than manage you'll enjoy that.
Sorry that's all very one sided but I just wanted to say it can be done,it's not so bad if that's what you want.Anyway,take your time,think carefully,make sure you don't make a decision you might regret later.
21/09/2009 at 18:46
Having just lost a baby at 12 weeks, I would have to say miscarriage is not the easy option and if it were me I would obviously go ahead with the pregnancy. If its just material stuff (cars, money etc) thats making you want to abort then I don't think you should cause you can get round that, and you will always find time for your other beautiful children. If its what you really want, your husband will come round. My partner has never been excited about pregnancy either, but seeing his reaction when we got the news our baby had died made me realise just how much he really does want another baby.
I think you really need to think long and hard and talk, talk, and talk some more with your husband and be absolutely certain before you make any hasty decisions.
24/09/2009 at 21:47
14/08/2015 at 10:12
hi all im really really confused and i really dont know what to do ?? im 6 weeks pregnant today and this is mine and my fiances first pregnancy together, my fiance has a 15 year old daughter and a 9 year old son and a 6 year old son whom he does not see as the ex has stopped him seeing them as she is jealous of our relationship she split us up once and we decided to try again he said he regrets it and he loves me to bits but now she is telling us she is 26 weeks pregnant , i have 3 boys 12 , 9 and 7 and i had a miscarriage at 14 weeks and a stillborn at 24 weeks and now my fiance is saying that he doesnt want this baby he says hes too old (hes going to be 38 in november ) and he said he also doesnt want this baby cos he cant see his other kids but i am 35 and i seriously dont know if i can have a abortion i really dont know what to do ????
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